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Ok im sorry for my first post, but I dont think you should be using dating services. You should do ardaas infront of maharaj and ask that you find a jeevan sathi that can help u in your search for akaal and then ask some chadikalaa gursikhs that are older then you and ask if they can help find a jeevan sathi. Dating services only promote things that we shouldnt be getting invovled in.

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This is wrong dont think about marriage. well ya you can look but this whole dating thing is wrong. Get your parents to find you a nice guy. Heres an ok site for sikhs http://sikhmatrimonials.com/ , but otherwise dont go dating any guys just find yourself a nice husband and marry him, simple as that.

isrIrwgu mhlw 5 ]

sireeraag mehalaa 5 ||

Siree Raag, Fifth Mehla:

iqcru vsih suhylVI ijcru swQI nwil ]

thichar vasehi suhaelarree jichar saathhee naal ||

As long as the soul-companion is with the body, it dwells in happiness.

jw swQI auTI cilAw qw Dn KwkU rwil ]1]

jaa saathhee out(h)ee chaliaa thaa dhhan khaakoo raal ||1||

But when the companion arises and departs, then the body-bride mingles with dust. ||1||

min bYrwgu BieAw drsnu dyKxY kw cwau ]

man bairaag bhaeiaa dharasan dhaekhanai kaa chaao ||

My mind has become detached from the world; it longs to see the Vision of God's Darshan.

DMnu su qyrw Qwnu ]1] rhwau ]

dhha(n)n s thaeraa thhaan ||1|| rehaao ||

Blessed is Your Place. ||1||Pause||

ijcru visAw kMqu Gir jIau jIau siB khwiq ]

jichar vasiaa ka(n)th ghar jeeo jeeo sabh kehaath ||

As long as the soul-husband dwells in the body-house, everyone greets you with respect.

jw auTI clsI kMqVw qw koie n puCY qyrI bwq ]2]

jaa out(h)ee chalasee ka(n)tharraa thaa koe n pushhai thaeree baath ||2||

But when the soul-husband arises and departs, then no one cares for you at all. ||2||

pyeIAVY shu syiv qUM swhurVY suiK vsu ]

paeeearrai sahu saev thoo(n) saahurarrai sukh vas ||

In this world of your parents' home, serve your Husband Lord; in the world beyond, in your in-laws' home, you shall dwell in peace.

gur imil cju Acwru isKu quDu kdy n lgY duKu ]3]

gur mil chaj achaar sikh thudhh kadhae n lagai dhukh ||3||

Meeting with the Guru, be a sincere student of proper conduct, and suffering shall never touch you. ||3||

sBnw swhurY vM\xw siB muklwvxhwr ]

sabhanaa saahurai va(n)n(j)anaa sabh mukalaavanehaar ||

Everyone shall go to their Husband Lord. Everyone shall be given their ceremonial send-off after their marriage.

nwnk DMnu sohwgxI ijn sh nwil ipAwru ]4]23]93]

naanak dhha(n)n sohaaganee jin seh naal piaar ||4||23||93||

O Nanak, blessed are the happy soul-brides, who are in love with their Husband Lord. ||4||23||93||

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Online is too unreliable. I'm posting as I would usually be but 99% of my contact list is nothing near what they are like in reality. So, the impression you get might not be genuine.

Actually,

is there a specific reason why you do not wish for your parents to find you a guy? Is it because you don't have the option to reject him? Usually the best option is via parents.

Regarding the fantast world statement -

As someone else previously put it - yes it does work if you do bhagti! Try it.

@B4ND4 - :s

PS: what does the new display pic say/mean? :D

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I agree with most of the members on this, let your parents decide. Yes, true u can find great ppl online..friends and all but marriage is like da biggest step in life (well, at least for me) so, there shudnt be any rush in jst meeting some1 and jst bec u like their talks u decide to marry. There is more to that...than just two ppl meeting eachother...if you let ur parents decide, the decission is usally taken on by looking at the families as well as the couple.

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enough of these "marriage/dating" threads already

there have been LOADS

make yourself a member and do a search

dont just comment on something like that. yes there hve been many threads but each situation differers somewhat. tell me if u read anything like what is posted by the original poster in other marriage/dating threads?? (not tryin to be harsh or make u feel =( forgve me if it does...jus u are young and these things will make more sense to u when u at that age. life isnt that simple)

somene asks advice ...nd we need to be sensitive.. the thing they are talkin about is something that requires a lot of reflection/thinking and asking advice is normal/GOOD thing.

she is hurt and needs to talk to someone. some cuts/wounds on our body requires different kind of bandage dont it? thus every situation requires somewhat different advice.

to Org poster: Sava Lakh has posted a link and it has many very good articles on marriage etc... read those and see if they help

also...think of it as it wasnt meant to be...u'll find someone better=) and will learn to applicate him(the guy u marry) more because of this incident. But if u liked this guy that much then maybe ask him what went wrong? sometimes its just the way we communicate...when we say something the other person doesn't exactly get what u are trying to say nd make up their own meaning.its imp to make sure the other person is on the same page as u.

hope ur feelin better

bhul chuk muaf karni

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

waheguru ji kakhalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

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dont worry over one guy he sounds like an a hole. you need to meet as many people as you possibly can most of them will not be right for you but eventually one will be. you just need to meet lots. and try to find people in your area so you can actually meet them. don't have a long online relationship before meeting them. meet them as soon as you can so that you will not waste your time. you dont want to text some one for six months online and then relise you don't like the person once you'v met. try different sites too.

just keep your wits about you and meet in a public place bring a friend if you like. and don't let your parents push to do rash things you arnt ready for take your time. just my thoughts on the subject.

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enough of these "marriage/dating" threads already

there have been LOADS

make yourself a member and do a search

dont just comment on something like that. yes there hve been many threads but each situation differers somewhat. tell me if u read anything like what is posted by the original poster in other marriage/dating threads?? (not tryin to be harsh or make u feel =( forgve me if it does...jus u are young and these things will make more sense to u when u at that age. life isnt that simple)

somene asks advice ...nd we need to be sensitive.. the thing they are talkin about is something that requires a lot of reflection/thinking and asking advice is normal/GOOD thing.

she is hurt and needs to talk to someone. some cuts/wounds on our body requires different kind of bandage dont it? thus every situation requires somewhat different advice.

to Org poster: Sava Lakh has posted a link and it has many very good articles on marriage etc... read those and see if they help

also...think of it as it wasnt meant to be...u'll find someone better=) and will learn to applicate him(the guy u marry) more because of this incident. But if u liked this guy that much then maybe ask him what went wrong? sometimes its just the way we communicate...when we say something the other person doesn't exactly get what u are trying to say nd make up their own meaning.its imp to make sure the other person is on the same page as u.

hope ur feelin better

bhul chuk muaf karni

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

waheguru ji kakhalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

yes thats fine, but "dating" is not a thing associated with sikhi

some of the replies on this topic have amazed me

"you need to meet as many people as you possibly can most of them will not be right for you but eventually one will be."

no no no no no

you dont need to meet anyone. let your parents arrange your marriage.

these kind of posts should be put on a "dating and relationships" forum

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