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well i want advice on how i shud bring up the topic of wanting to get married to my parents to start looking for someone for me. the thing is i want to get married BUT I cant seem to bring up the topic with my parents. ive finished my education etc and want to settle down..........but just cant be able to talk to my parents about this topic.......btw im male and mid twenties.....

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Basically you have to adjust it to your parent's personality. I am suprised they have never mentionned any rista stuff to you; I thought every asian got teased about rista and marriage. lol. Anyhooo I would do it like this

'so wat age did u get married?'.....then he/she says the age

Then you say 'yea thats around my age *pause and do ure thinking face*...then say 'hmmmm if you got married around my age then do you think its about time I got married'......and wait.

Personally I would do it with both of them in the room but if thats scary then target them one by one. I would go for the mum first because mums understand subtle hints more. However it all depends on how your household is. Let me know how the above line works out. Hopefully it should work but if it doesn't then I have backup plan B.

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Tell them you want to have Kids. :blush21:

:huh:

he wants to get married tho :huh:

Yea , that would shock the parents , and they would say , that in our society , you can only have kids after marriage.. "Pehlaan viyaah karwaalai , pher sochi jawakaan baare!.!!""

and there you go.. :rolleyes: lol

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Wow, I envy you...do you live in a Panjabi family? Because its rare to find Panjabi parents not nagging their kids to get married. My mom has been on my case for a while, she always says "ve viyah karva leh kaka"...and then jokingly she says in a worrysome tone "haarha, tere naal koi viyah vee karalooga? Akall ta tainu bhora nahi !" (will anyone even dare agree to marry you? You have no sense of wisdom!)

But I'd carefully approach them with the topic of perhaps asking within their circle of friends if they know of any suitable match for you, that is if you opt for the traditional way. In either case, just casually bring up the topic that you're considering getting married and settling down to raise a family.

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Why do people have such troubles with marriage or no marriage? Has anyone the courage to leave it in God's hands?

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Why do people have such troubles with marriage or no marriage? Has anyone the courage to leave it in God's hands?

Well, I do agree with you that everything is destined by fate. If we're that concerned of finding a suitable spouse, we should have more faith in God in knowing that it is His bhana. As there is the saying in Panjabi "sanjog zoravar ne".

But mskcan, you have to initiate the proceeding by at least acknowledging the fact that you're ready to commit to a marriage, and get the ball rolling.

Its not like a singh or singhni is going to come and knock on your door and say "Gur Fateh, do you want to marry me?"

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Its not like a singh or singhni is going to come and knock on your door and say "Gur Fateh, do you want to marry me?"

lol... that happens more than you might think!

But for the original poster, its nothing to be shy of. Your parents might be thinking that you will find someone on your own, and by not bothering you are letting you make your own decision as to who you want to marry. I would take advantage of that and keep your own eyes open.

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tell them that you don't want to ever get married, that should get things moving and you stay true to your shyness.

But he wants to get married! Basically i would just hint it out by talkin about maybe a friend or a relative that is getting married and how it is really nice. they would soon get the hint that way.

or their is the other way which is just to say it to one of your parents in alot of cases mum but it depends which you are closest with and get them to mention it to the other parent!

Good Luck :TH:

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Wow, I envy you...do you live in a Panjabi family? Because its rare to find Panjabi parents not nagging their kids to get married. My mom has been on my case for a while, she always says "ve viyah karva leh kaka"...and then jokingly she says in a worrysome tone "haarha, tere naal koi viyah vee karalooga? Akall ta tainu bhora nahi !" (will anyone even dare agree to marry you? You have no sense of wisdom!)

But I'd carefully approach them with the topic of perhaps asking within their circle of friends if they know of any suitable match for you, that is if you opt for the traditional way. In either case, just casually bring up the topic that you're considering getting married and settling down to raise a family.

yes! im from a punjabi family and that makes things even more weirder that they have never brought up the issue. I think I should go to a relative and ask them to talk to my parents.

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