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Just wondering, why do we call someone around our age veerji or bhainji? They have a name, so we should be calling them by their name. We don't call goray as veerjis/bhainjis, because they're mutual, and understand, therefore use only the person's name to refer to them.

For most of us its just a sign of respect, but to an extent it does have to do with kaam. But if you regard others as your brothers and sisters you wouldn't really have to call them your brother or sister, you and they would automatically know right? Like, how many time do you call your own brother/sister in your family by 'veerji / bhainji', might be very few. Then why do we use such terms to classify fellow Sikhs, we can call them by their name, can't we? :@

I understand with the same sex its not much of a problem, like a singh calling another singh veerji is alright and a kaur calling another kaur, bhainji is also ok, but why's there more of emphasis when a singh calls a kaur bhainji, or when a kaur calls a singh veerji, is it really that hard to control kaam?

Bhul chuk muaf karnee ji, just wanted to get the sangat's view on it. ^_^

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Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

I Doubt its got to do with Kaam - its more like for respect

I knwo I use it for respect

as I'm youunger than most on this forum

But I try to call everyone Veer jee / Bhenji just for respect

bhull chukk maaf

GurFateh

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Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

well...itz a sign of respect actually...

but...i would like to confess sumthing...i dun actually call my REAL bro veerji..but by his name..itz just like that...coz if i call him veerji..i feel weird..lolzz..but itz normal to me to call a person elder than me veerji... :@

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

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makes me sick at times when ppl use it just as a freaking term to show fake respect and dont mind if they end up marrying the same person in future :@ ...the logic given is that in Sikhi everyone is ur bro/sis till marriage...ok i agree but come on u gotta have some self respect for ur own words blush.gif ...i mean come on :@

dont be surprised, but sometimes its NOT used by many just to keep eyes and options open for other fish out there in the sea which is why they wont use veerjee/bhainjee for anyone, if u know what i mean :)

anyways...this issue screwed up my head pretty bad for 3 days last weekend and i lost a hell load of temper breaking my head as to why people are this way...in the end, all i know is that one has to show one's face to Guruji, and even after being a Sikh if one has that "keep looking around" nature, then best of luck when u meet Dharmraj.

may Guruji keep us away from such thoughts and mentalities :WW: pray.gif

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I agree 110% with Rochak!!!! :@:@

Say you call someone a veerji/bhainji then what if you end up marrying them!! THat's disgusting!!

Going back to the original post, why would you call someone that, when you already know in your heart, they're your veerji/bhainji, and if you don't know their name(s), then you shouldn't really be calling them your "veerji" or "bhainji", different people take it different ways. Why not just stick to the person's name and if you don't know their name you can say excuse me, and refer to them in countless other terms.

Bhul chuk muaf! ^_^

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hmm..rochak ji n khalsa ji..

what u've wrote is true also...but then..itz a sign of respect..

btw..i'm going against myselft!!...we can say.,...for e.g jagjit JI..rite?? itz also respect...we dun have to say veerji or phenji...hmm..i'm a 2 sider now..lolz...anyone will do!!! :@

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Sat Sri Akal:

Good points...I do not call my own brothers with the term Veerji. But it is like this for me.

I know my brothers really well. The love and understanding between us is well...understood.

But this is not true with family friends and associations not as close as the immediate family. So as to not offend (which can be easy to do), terms like Veerji and Bhainji are used. Other times, it is used just out of the sheer respect of a person.

Alright, I am done babbling.

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WJKK WJKF

HAHAHA .. i was laughin at the post .. pretty funny khalsa ji :@

But i agree wit all that it is respect. And regarding gorai... i call gorai .. brother/sister ... and sometimes they ask why i do .. they like it :@ .. they see your respecting them then and using such words... ur acting in peaace rite.

But ya... about saying to someone veerji/bhainji to someone you may marry afterwards. Its not gross... its just a name ...

just my two cents.

bhul chuk maph!

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