Some Thoughts on My situation

[Shamshere]

This Richard Dawkins guy is against creationism and is very pro science. From what I understand Sikhi doesn't contradict evolution. His attacks are mainly on Abrahamic faiths not on dharmic ones.

At the end of the day ask yourself, who created the universe? It had to come from somewhere.

Explain these things to your father.

[Mehtab Singh]

Here is another book I found online a while ago and had another veerji check it out briefly and said he thought its pretty good.

Sikh Religion and Science.pdf

[Singh559]

Here is another book I found online a while ago and had another veerji check it out briefly and said he thought its pretty good.

Awesome!

Thanks for sharing this!!

[MrDoaba]

Also read these leaflets.

http://www.wahegurunet.com/god-vs-science

http://www.wahegurunet.com/science-and-quantum-physics

[Singh559]

Here is another book I found online a while ago and had another veerji check it out briefly and said he thought its pretty good.

I feel I've read this a long, long time ago and It's awesome rereading this again.

I skipped to the creation chapter and it's absolutely beautiful! A must read.

Singher23, I was trying to think of a reply as I was lost for words to what to say, but this book is a must read for your dad.

[Deletedkp]

This Richard Dawkins guy is against creationism and is very pro science. From what I understand Sikhi doesn't contradict evolution. His attacks are mainly on Abrahamic faiths not on dharmic ones.

At the end of the day ask yourself, who created the universe? It had to come from somewhere.

Explain these things to your father.

Richard Dawkins is an Atheist, he does not believe in a concept of GOD. Sikh religion has a belief of a God like being, the creator of the universe. Where Richard Dawkins would question, did God create us or did we create God.

[Sevadar01]

WJKK WJKF veer ji,

I used to never get along with my dad as he used to be a very heavy drinker, even to the point where he was drinking during the week and even at work. I was so happy to go away to Uni because it meant being away from him. My mum similar to yours was quite religious so she used to be my support. My dad always used to be againt me growing my Dhara which i had thought of doing on a few occassions but never really went through with it because of his disapproval.

Anyways to cut a long story short the best way to win someone over is by leading a lifestyle that would inspire the other person to look at you and think i was that (Gursikhi) lifestyle. One day Maharaj done so much kirpa i just thought enough is enough, I came into sikhi Siroop and changed everything (The way i speak, eat, things i watch and listen to). Time went on and Maharaj kirpa my dad himself looked at me and felt ashamed himself. Without me arguing or even saying anything to him he started to change himself. Now he has been clean from drink for 3 years, stopped eating meat and is even frowing his dhara... WAHEGURU !!!!

So all in all what i am trying to say is the best way to help change someone is to change yourself and set an example through your own actions !!!! ... Maharaj will definetly answer your Ardas !!!

Bhul Chuk Maaf Khalsa Ji !!!!

Waheguru !!!!!!!

[buddasingh]

singher23, What a beautifully honest post.

You care for your father. You don't have to accept his views or actions, however you should continue to care for your father and accept him and support him. There is nothing wrong with your relationship with him changing and evolving over time. There is nothing wrong with you being honest with him about your feelings even if you have been limited in going down that path with him. Only share your feelings if you can do it with respect and acceptance. Get yourself to that point. It is the most difficult thing to go outside of our comfort zone, but that is when we grow. You are a young man. Your father sees that in you. Part of him may be searching to be centered by things most important to him. You need to follow your own convictions but it is not your job or any of our jobs to perfect our family. That can be a painful realization, but if we accept that first, then we can live our lives such that we might influence them in some positive manner as sevadar01 has put so well.

If you are able to get over the pain in time, don't hesitate to genuinely try to learn from him as he is your father. A student seeking truth is the most powerful teacher.

[singher23]

Thank you to all who have replied and sent me PM's. I have been doing loads of paat and that has calmed me down immensely, and hopefully soon I will be able to give my father a call or visit him and tell him the truth about how I feel about this. But he has to follow his own path in the end and who knows which way that goes. It's all Maharaaj's hukam in the end