Intercaste Marriage.

[Sikhiislife]

I'm a sikh girl from the UK and my family are 'Rajputs'. Before I start this topic I just wanted to say that i don't want anyone posting rude and unhelpful responses, I don't want any hate speeches against other castes or religions and neither do I want irrelevant 'facts' of any sort. I have read so many posts on here shared by Sikhs saying Sikhs don't believe in caste and its only a 'hindu thing'. This is untrue. Yes sikhism is against the caste system but MAJORITY of the Sikh people do believe in the caste system, it has not died, not even in the younger generation. It still lives. And tbh, my Gujarati friends who are all hindu hardly know anything about this caste system, so I guess it's a bigger problem in Hindu Punjabi and sikh families.

I am 'Rajput'. We are apparently considered to be a good 'high' caste. I am in my late 20s and I have been close to a boy for many years now, ever since university. Everything about us is great, we have a lot in common and our upbringing is quite similar. He is a chemical engineer and I am a teacher. My parents would be so proud that I have gone out there and found a decent boy. However this isn't the case, he is a Khumbar (also known as prajapati) - they used to be potters many hundreds of years ago. They are considered to be 'lower caste'. I REALLY want to marry this man. I am desperate for some help and advice. I never use forums or online help but my desperation has led me to this way of seeking for help.

[JSinghnz]

I'm a sikh girl from the UK and my family are 'Rajputs'. Before I start this topic I just wanted to say that i don't want anyone posting rude and unhelpful responses, I don't want any hate speeches against other castes or religions and neither do I want irrelevant 'facts' of any sort. I have read so many posts on here shared by Sikhs saying Sikhs don't believe in caste and its only a 'hindu thing'. This is untrue. Yes sikhism is against the caste system but MAJORITY of the Sikh people do believe in the caste system, it has not died, not even in the younger generation. It still lives. And tbh, my Gujarati friends who are all hindu hardly know anything about this caste system, so I guess it's a bigger problem in Hindu Punjabi and sikh families.

I am 'Rajput'. We are apparently considered to be a good 'high' caste. I am in my late 20s and I have been close to a boy for many years now, ever since university. Everything about us is great, we have a lot in common and our upbringing is quite similar. He is a chemical engineer and I am a teacher. My parents would be so proud that I have gone out there and found a decent boy. However this isn't the case, he is a Khumbar (also known as prajapati) - they used to be potters many hundreds of years ago. They are considered to be 'lower caste'. I REALLY want to marry this man. I am desperate for some help and advice. I never use forums or online help but my desperation has led me to this way of seeking for help.

You have come to the wrong place for help as this forum is totally against casteism.

[Jeevan]

Find one day when you are free listen to Sukhamni Sahib, freely available on Youtube with English translation.

Meditate on WaheGuru.

PS I would argue a chemical engineer is a higher caste than a teacher :-)

[dontcallmebhaji]

Please be strong.Your boyfriend needs to win them over and assure them that there girl will be looked after,loved and above all respected. Your happiness is what counts. The caste system is still ripe but a new cast system is appearing in the west, University graduates tend to get married to University graduates etc,,,,,,,,, All your parents will think about is what family members and the community will say. Believe me they will say plenty but after a bit of time they would have forgotten.

The other route is one of misery and regret. You can listen to these so called do gooders and marry someone else of your families choice. This will lead to other problems. Like do you come clean about your boyfriend and how serious you was about him. Or do you keep it secret, in which case its a ticking time bomb waiting to explode! Be honest to yourself,marriage its the biggest decision you will ever make. Simple rule is two people love one another, they raise happy confident children, who will want to carry their sikhi forward. Be strong, be honest and speak to your parents or get both sides to talk to one another.

[DailyMail]

Caste is a load of bull. I know so many married across the "caste-divide" - after a few years not even the families initially opposed to the union give a damn!

[Koi]

One (useless) fact for you:

Praja : society/citizens/population

Pati : master

He is the master of society....not bad

[Not2Cool2Argue]

ask Guruji for help..do a Sukhmani sahib the paath everyday n ardaas until issue is resolved.