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I just want to ask is it okay to be 7 years older than my husband when I get marrid what does the Gurbani say about being with someone that is older than her husband???

 

Waheguru Ji ka khanda waheguru Ji ki fateh

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15 hours ago, Guest Sikh said:

I just want to ask is it okay to be 7 years older than my husband when I get marrid what does the Gurbani say about being with someone that is older than her husband???

 

Waheguru Ji ka khanda waheguru Ji ki fateh

 

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Guest Jacfsing2

It doesn't make a difference, it may be a rebellion to Punjabi Maat, for reasons which I won't delve into, but yes there's nothing wrong in Gurmat.

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Guest pindu

There is not any problem to marry younger or older than you...

but If you get ur husband older then there are chances that he will treat u like  a child.

And if ur husband is younger then you have to ignore his mistakes...

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the only reason i asked is because the place where i use to work now i left the job a sikh guy was my collegue and he is 17 im 24 and i love him so much. I dont want to tell him my feelings...but i left the job and i am never going to see him... will waheguru do something to make him see me if we are meant to be together.... could i ask waheguru for him as my life partner and h=get my wish happen..will waheguru dothis?  

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40 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

He's 17 and you're a 24 year old woman? Lol, no.

"no" as in she should not get engaged, or "no" as is there's no problem?

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1 hour ago, MisterrSingh said:

He's 17 and you're a 24 year old woman? Lol, no.

In some states of the US, a sexual relationship between a 24 and 17 year old would be statutory rape.

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26 minutes ago, BhForce said:

"no" as in she should not get engaged, or "no" as is there's no problem?

As in, "It's wrong" from my point of view.

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On 4/21/2017 at 11:13 PM, Guest Sikh said:

I just want to ask is it okay to be 7 years older than my husband when I get marrid what does the Gurbani say about being with someone that is older than her husband???

 

Waheguru Ji ka khanda waheguru Ji ki fateh

You have two different questions: 1) What does Gurbani say, and 2) Is it OK for the husband to be 7 years younger.

Firstly, Gurbani doesn't address the question per se, because that's not what Gurbani's purpose is. Gurbani is mostly about pure spirituality, not about various rules.

But that doesn't mean you should do whatever you want to do.

Secondly, it is generally understood in our society that the man should be somewhat older than the woman. This is for the simple reason that boys mature later than girls. This is actually written in some books of Maryada, such as that published by a Taksal.

Now understand you're free to do what ever you want. But you may want to think about what you're doing before you make an irrevocable mistake in your life.

Edited by BhForce
added "per se"

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On 4/22/2017 at 3:17 PM, Jacfsing2 said:

It doesn't make a difference, it may be a rebellion to Punjabi Maat, for reasons which I won't delve into, but yes there's nothing wrong in Gurmat.

So, friend, are you saying that once we adopt Sikhism, we have to dispense with all of the accumulated wisdom of the ages, and all that we possibly have to guide is is explicit injunctions of Gurbani, and anything not explicitly enjoined there we can do?

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12 hours ago, Guest Guest Sikhs said:

the only reason i asked is because the place where i use to work now i left the job a sikh guy was my collegue and he is 17 im 24 and i love him so much. I dont want to tell him my feelings...but i left the job and i am never going to see him... will waheguru do something to make him see me if we are meant to be together.... could i ask waheguru for him as my life partner and h=get my wish happen..will waheguru dothis?  

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10 minutes ago, Ranjeet01 said:

Cradle snatcher

What could a 17 year old boy possibly have to offer a 24 year old woman in any meaningful sense on a mental and spiritual basis, aside from the obvious, lol? Yes, yes, there's always the diamond in the rough, but I'd hazard a guess and suggest this isn't one of those situations.

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9 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

What could a 17 year old boy possibly have to offer a 24 year old woman in any meaningful sense on a mental and spiritual basis, aside from the obvious, lol? Yes, yes, there's always the diamond in the rough, but I'd hazard a guess and suggest this isn't one of those situations.

I just hope it isn't one of those teacher-student relationships. 

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