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I am 29 and my family is finding an amritdhari girl for me.As all my family members and relatives are non Amritdharis so we hardly know anyone in gursikhi line. we tried giving ads in newspapers almost 10-15 times. We got almost 60+ responses each time I put matrimonial ad, out of which 98 percent phone calls are those who are not amritdharis. Since I always expected an amritdhari and nitnemi girl as my life partner so I only consider those who are blessed with amrit and the remaining 2-3 percent matches are those who don’t have good education or lacking in height. As a result, after 5 months of continue search- I didn’t find any good rishta. Now my parents are suggesting me to marry a girl who is willing to take amrit, or marry a girl who is vegetarian and slowly she will take amrit and become gursikh      (it doesn’t seems fair to me- I don’t want to force anyone to take amrit and I don’t want Amrit as an agreement for my marriage, I don’t want to marry a nonAmritdhari and than influence her to come to gursikhi, its not right, right?).

On the contrary, some amritdhari matches weren’t interested in me because they want  my all family to be Amritdhari ( None of my family members are gursikh except mom)

Apart from newspaper, I tried shaadi.com, akj.org, bharatmatrimonial.com, jeevansathi.com, and some other matrimonial websites as well. I went to Canada about 7 yrs ago and settled there, Since I spent my childhood and adulthood in Punjab, therefore my mentality,nature, reasoning, thinking and behaviour is developed in a complete different way than CanadianBorns girls. So I don’t want to marry Canadian/US/UK borns girls either.

I am a little disappointed with not finding any suitable match for me and equally  worried for our next generations. Its 2018-it will be hard to find gursikh rishte in next 15-20 years.

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in Canada it depends where about you are. the local gyanee jees at Gurdwara usually good source to get some mentions in. Just mention in passing that if he knows a family with girl looking to marry. because surely enough a girls family looking for same kind of singh would also have mentioned the same.

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Why not marry a girl who is a nitnemi and vegetarian?  You would be lucky to even get that 

It's not just singhs but your ordinary decent Punjabi guys are finding it hard to find decent females. My mum's friends from work their sons are in their late 20s and struggling to find decent girls, they tell my mum how the girls that their sons meet a these arranged dates all drink, party and wear short clothes. 

One of our extended family told us how one girl their son met for a potential bride turned up at the date with a bottle of vodka.

One of my mum's friends sons is now 30 and given up as all the girls he met for potential brides they all drank and partied.

Its something many Punjabi guys amritdhari or not are struggling with.

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23 minutes ago, puzzled said:

Why not marry a girl who is a nitnemi and vegetarian?  You would be lucky to even get that 

It's not just singhs but your ordinary decent Punjabi guys are finding it hard to find decent females. My mum's friends from work their sons are in their late 20s and struggling to find decent girls, they tell my mum how the girls that their sons meet a these arranged dates all drink, party and wear short clothes. 

One of our extended family told us how one girl their son met for a potential bride turned up at the date with a bottle of vodka.

One of my mum's friends sons is now 30 and given up as all the girls he met for potential brides they all drank and partied.

Its something many Punjabi guys amritdhari or not are struggling with.

Puzzled bai ji, like i said earlier I am willing to marry an amritdhari only. As I expected it always. Thats why.

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It’s definitely a sign of the times.  Before if I was introduced to a girl, the girl would ask where I would like to meet for coffee.  Now the last few I was I introduced to asked which pub/lounge I wanted to meet at for drinks.  I don’t know why these girls would feel comfortable meeting a guy they don’t know for drinks?  A lot of people are having trouble finding a suitable match these days especially if you don’t drink and are vegetarian.

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