Would you be ok with your sister or daughter marrying a black or white Sikh?

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23 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

Going back home is the worse. It's like you're kidnapped and taken to 40 different houses of relatives you don't know and are paraded around, whilst being force fed. What the hell!

I would hate that lol 

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22 minutes ago, Akalifauj said:

Why do you bother even coming out of the house? 

Lol why not

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10 minutes ago, Akalifauj said:

Why do you keep repeating yourself?

I dont remember repeating that 

I think I previously said I don't mind my sibling marrying a non Punjabi sikh

And then I said I'm fine with marrying a non Punjabi myself 

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27 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

Going back home is the worse. It's like you're kidnapped and taken to 40 different houses of relatives you don't know and are paraded around, whilst being force fed. What the hell!

While in India we actualy have had "family" running after us with cups of milk or tea and blocking the gate and saying we have to have at least a sip and then they will let us go

The actualy physically block the gates and not let us go out and force us to have a sip 

Maybe it's a cultural thing in India to do that to your guests but I don't like it

Every house you go to they had you drink milk

My dad was like assi pench#d dodh peeke behmaar ho jana 

My thai also used to force me to drink milk every night and if I didn't want it she would tell me I have to drink a sip and if I didn't she would get upset.

The milk was ugly and lumpy and tastes horrible 

I seriously felt like I had to start taking my anti depressant tablets again. I got so depressed with the family harassing me and force feeding me that I actually got depressed and stopped talking, I felt mentally challenged, my parents got worried and ket askin why im not talking and kepr telling me we only got a week left and then we will be back home. 

I hate going there because of the reltives

Its mental torture 

 

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33 minutes ago, Akalifauj said:

You live under a rock to think only punjabi families go through this.  

I know it's not just punjabis 

I never said it was just punjabis lol 

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2 minutes ago, puzzled said:

I know it's not just punjabis 

I never said it was just punjabis lol 

You are targeting punjabis families and it shows how naive you are of what is going on in the world.

Go marry a non punjabi.  Tell us when you do.  Within a year you will be on the street scratching your head thinking,  but she loves me.....

To be brutally honest, you are not smart enough to marry a western born girl who is punjabi or not.  Many of your type of naive sardars marry western punjabi girls who had a lot of fun but play the nice girl when she meets a sardar like you.  At the moment this will sound like I am making fun of you.  But I truly am not making fun of you.  You can't handle that type of woman.  She will run a train over you a thousand times and you will be apologizing not her.

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12 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

Do you honestly think that the SIkh community in the diaspora will not have changes to their marriage practices over the coming generations?

No, I accept that there is change, either for the better or the worse, in many areas.

But that's like drinking or cutting hair or eating halal whatever. I don't have a problem with whatever somebody wants to do. I'd just have a problem if someone claims that that is the actual Sikh maryada or tradition.

I fully realize that there are Sikhs who have taste for kutha, but I'd have a big problem if they tried to claim what they do as the actual Sikh tradition.

As it is, I'm have a very interesting conversation with @Sukhvirk1976 to clarify things, including where I might be wrong.

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12 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

A lot of families (even more conservative ones) don't see it as a bad idea that potential couples meet up before agreeing to marriage. This doesn't necessarily mean that they will start shagging. 

Also, another point that I was trying to get across to Sukhvirk is that merely seeing and conversing with someone is hardly what Westerners call dating.

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4 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

Sounds long.....

 

How old are you? If my moms tried that on me as an adult, she'd get told where to go. 

Damn benaughti bull5hit. 

 

How comes guys are so scared to say: "Hell no, I'm not going!" to these bull5hit events?  I know most girls love to dress up and socialise at such things but blokes?

Because most of us get along with our cousin's, and have friends too at these events. Sounds like youre stuck with a wack family bro lol. 

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8 minutes ago, KhoonKaBadlaKhoon said:

You would gladly marry your daughter to a Muslim. Probably even let one f**k your wife. Chump. 

Really was there any need ?

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2 hours ago, Redoptics said:

Really was there any need ?

He's always attacking others and is strangely pro-islamic. 

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3 hours ago, KhoonKaBadlaKhoon said:

Because most of us get along with our cousin's, and have friends too at these events. Sounds like youre stuck with a wack family bro lol. 

What do you do? Get drunk and do bhangra together?

When I want to link up with family whose company I actually enjoy, I'd rather go to some place without all the ostentatious boll0cks that our people are famous for. 

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3 hours ago, KhoonKaBadlaKhoon said:

You would gladly marry your daughter to a Muslim. Probably even let one f**k your wife. Chump. 

Is that how your mother and father raised you to speak. Seems like you was raised in a dog kennel. 

What a low life, retarded scum of the earth shoe rag you are. 

 

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9 hours ago, Akalifauj said:

Yea it is a no brainer, Sikhs will follow Gurmat, which is not to date.  

Don't lump others with you.  You are easily influenced by a woman exterior shell.

I bet you are from Canada.

A Gurmat following Amritdhari Sikh born and raised in the west is still a westerner. 

Go to Punjab and now matter how much you think you blend in, you stick out like a sore thumb.

Like I said before, you are very binary and that is fine but sooner or later you are going to have to realise many other things.

 

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11 hours ago, Ranjeet01 said:

If you are western born and raised Sikh living in a western environment it's a no brainer. 

We are a product of our environment. 

maybe my appeal was just a waste of time.

these young folk aint bothered and really dont care anyway...if they wanna continue enjoying their western comforts cuz a few lifestyle choices and habits appear so 'hard', 'difficult' or 'weird' to change and adjust from the norm thats up to them...but once they start complaining of their regrets in not pursuing these priceless aspects as well as becoming inflicted with the countless commonly-known and widely-associated mental and physical health conditions that come with a western lifestyle, their ignorance, weakness and lack of obvious foresight deserves no sympathy.

someone's either got 'it' in em or they aint - this urge/desire to reconnect depends on personality along with a little exposure to positive influences and other stuff like personal feelings on identity, history etc.

it's gonna come from within, not by force....