Should my wife be saying such things about cookking food , etc ?

[GurjantGnostic]

When she's fn your brother, doing drugs, not cooking, not cleaning, divorces you, takes half your <banned word filter activated> and does your Nindia post again. This is not an adult problem yet. 

You think she spent hours making <banned word filter activated> food on purpose? Was it even that bad?

 

[GurjantGnostic]

Let's see how @puzzled is after marriage. Lol. That's a single man's advice for sure. 

[GurjantGnostic]

Just gonna wait and let the Kaurs school ya. 

[puzzled]

1 minute ago, GurjantGnostic said:

Let's see how @puzzled is after marriage. Lol. That's a single man's advice for sure. 

yes  I'm sure it'll be interesting   lol 

[puzzled]

10 minutes ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

I did say that 

Or maybe your a bit fussy with your taste? 

[jkvlondon]

54 minutes ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

So basically I wasn't expecting a scene in our home today noon but it did happen.

My mom wasn't feeling well today , and the little kid keeps my wife busy other times , but he was sleeping.So my wife made some food. 

When I asked if the food was done, she said "yes, but don't criticize it please . I have been in kitchen for 'n' hours now doing cookking" 

I honestly started losing my temparament . I mean can she not even do this much ! Do I have no right to criticize the food she made. what if its tasteless. I mean my dad has criticized and got dishes made from mom for long.

As I started eating and saying as to why I cannot criticize the food she made. Thats the only thing she handles right now , if at all. My dad said I should not criticize too much and that made me fuming because here's the man who always got things made from mom. So I started shouting on him as well. Mom immediately came to my rescue and started shouting at dad. Then mom's outburst came at my wife saying why she can't handle criticism of food . Then past issues suddenly came into arguments. My wife has a habit of arguing. 

I told her its her duty to make wholesome, tasty food for her husband (me). Thats the least a husband expects from wife. I also said if she can't do that I will start eating in restaurants. All this discussions happened in front of entire family. I was crying a little. 

Honestly though, I deserve good food with a wife. What's wrong in this ? I know toxic feminists will say your housewife isn't a domestic thing, I would like to tell them then I ain't an ATM either. I never b*tched about having to earn for her.

she's trying to say she made an effort to please and that she is feeling fragile, it's hard work looking after and feeding an infant. Try using your superbig akl and trying reading something nonsinister in her words. what about your duties ? you can reel a thousand and one duties for her and rights you have off at the drop of a hat -WHAT ABOUT YOU , WHAT RIGHTS DOES SHE HAVE? doesn't she deserve some understanding, some wiggle room to not be perfect (are you ? no) , this is all new to her and she did not refuse to make food but actually made food for everyone.

again with the threats and nastiness, so insult her efforts instead of helping her gently that's perfect , great job. You were crying ??? what for she made food for you you can give her clues of which sabji/dhals you like , if you like spicy or not etc gently without drama, encourage her with praise for good , not just me me my complaints.  yes you do complain about spending money that's what we hear about all the time .

Maybe she never cooked much in her parents' home , did you ever think about that , that she is refining her skills now. Ask your Mum to help her learn your favourites it will help with their bonding and leave them to it.

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3 minutes ago, jkvlondon said:

she's trying to say she made an effort to please and that she is feeling fragile, it's hard work looking after and feeding an infant. Try using your superbig akl and trying reading something nonsinister in her words. what about your duties ? you can reel a thousand and one duties for her and rights you have off at the drop of a hat -WHAT ABOUT YOU , WHAT RIGHTS DOES SHE HAVE? doesn't she deserve some understanding, some wiggle room to not be perfect (are you ? no) , this is all new to her and she did not refuse to make food but actually made food for everyone.

again with the threats and nastiness, so insult her efforts instead of helping her gently that's perfect , great job. You were crying ??? what for she made food for you you can give her clues of which sabji/dhals you like , if you like spicy or not etc gently without drama, encourage her with praise for good , not just me me my complaints.  yes you do complain about spending money that's what we hear about all the time .

Maybe she never cooked much in her parents' home , did you ever think about that , that she is refining her skills now. Ask your Mum to help her learn your favourites it will help with their bonding and leave them to it.

I knew jasvir kaur virk london will come to her rescue soon. 

PseudoFeminism

[jkvlondon]

14 minutes ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

I knew jasvir kaur virk london will come to her rescue soon. 

PseudoFeminism

why are you soooo stupid , this is your partner for life , try making your life work ;unless she is disposable in your eyes now she has given you a child , in that case you are scum .

my masi (mum's bhua's daughter) came to england to be married in the sixties and she had never been taught or rather shown interest in cooking because she grew up with my mum who was the one who did all cooking cleaning etc when they grew up in my great nana ji's home and hostel together. My mum had to explain to her saurey that this was the case and to give her time and to teach her . So no, your picture perfect view of what a bride's skill set is , is  BS . it did not apply in the past and it doesn't apply now . Many women learnt to hone their skills in their own kitchens , but since you've never spent time in one except to  collect your thal  what would you know ?

my own sister was the same , and my cousins too...I used to cook for the family as a teen because my folks  ran a shop so had the skillset but after marriage increased it further into other cuisines as well as gaining more expertise in Indian food .

I think you have such an inferiority complex because of your hidden world you pour all that scorn and spite out on the females in your life because they are easy targets- grow up 

 

[GurjantGnostic]

23 minutes ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

I knew jasvir kaur virk london will come to her rescue soon. 

PseudoFeminism

Bro that isn't feminism. Nor pseudo feminism. That's some advice, spoken nicely, to help you see things from your wife's point of view, maybe help you be less abusive and self entitled and grow up. 

Like bro...you acted like a baby, then cried like a baby because your wife was worried her hard work might not please you?  You still didn't say if the food was even good. 

Like.. she's already accommodated your sexuality in a big way, she doesn't need two infants. She needs a man yes, but a gurmukh not a manmukh baby bruh. 

 

[Big_Tera]

1 hour ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

So basically I wasn't expecting a scene in our home today noon but it did happen.

My mom wasn't feeling well today , and the little kid keeps my wife busy other times , but he was sleeping.So my wife made some food. 

When I asked if the food was done, she said "yes, but don't criticize it please . I have been in kitchen for 'n' hours now doing cookking" 

I honestly started losing my temparament . I mean can she not even do this much ! Do I have no right to criticize the food she made. what if its tasteless. I mean my dad has criticized and got dishes made from mom for long.

As I started eating and saying as to why I cannot criticize the food she made. Thats the only thing she handles right now , if at all. My dad said I should not criticize too much and that made me fuming because here's the man who always got things made from mom. So I started shouting on him as well. Mom immediately came to my rescue and started shouting at dad. Then mom's outburst came at my wife saying why she can't handle criticism of food . Then past issues suddenly came into arguments. My wife has a habit of arguing. 

I told her its her duty to make wholesome, tasty food for her husband (me). Thats the least a husband expects from wife. I also said if she can't do that I will start eating in restaurants. All this discussions happened in front of entire family. I was crying a little. 

Honestly though, I deserve good food with a wife. What's wrong in this ? I know toxic feminists will say your housewife isn't a domestic thing, I would like to tell them then I ain't an ATM either. I never b*tched about having to earn for her.

Alot of negativity and fighting from wife's can actually stem from other issues. Ie she may feel like she is an outsider. She resents the fact that she gets alot of criticism from her in-laws. 

Basically she is taking out all her anger and emotions out on you. She knows she can't do it to anyone else. So your the only guy where she gets to vent some Steem. 

Issues

She sounds like she is very touchy and easily angered by the slightest negative comment. 

If you tell her she is not doing something right she takes it as a personal attack. When she should just do what your family does. Ie a certain way of cooking. Or a certain way of cleaning. She needs to adjust to your household ways. 

Sadly alot of women from back home are quite stubborn and want to do things their way. And if you ask nicely if they can change their methods. They get aggressive won't corporate like a reasonable person. 

Many also talk in a disrespectful way. I don't know if this is a cultural thing. But many women from back home are are plains rude.