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8 hours ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

So basically I wasn't expecting a scene in our home today noon but it did happen.

My mom wasn't feeling well today , and the little kid keeps my wife busy other times , but he was sleeping.So my wife made some food. 

When I asked if the food was done, she said "yes, but don't criticize it please . I have been in kitchen for 'n' hours now doing cookking" 

I honestly started losing my temparament . I mean can she not even do this much ! Do I have no right to criticize the food she made. what if its tasteless. I mean my dad has criticized and got dishes made from mom for long.

As I started eating and saying as to why I cannot criticize the food she made. Thats the only thing she handles right now , if at all. My dad said I should not criticize too much and that made me fuming because here's the man who always got things made from mom. So I started shouting on him as well. Mom immediately came to my rescue and started shouting at dad. Then mom's outburst came at my wife saying why she can't handle criticism of food . Then past issues suddenly came into arguments. My wife has a habit of arguing. 

I told her its her duty to make wholesome, tasty food for her husband (me). Thats the least a husband expects from wife. I also said if she can't do that I will start eating in restaurants. All this discussions happened in front of entire family. I was crying a little. 

Honestly though, I deserve good food with a wife. What's wrong in this ? I know toxic feminists will say your housewife isn't a domestic thing, I would like to tell them then I ain't an ATM either. I never b*tched about having to earn for her.

Couple of things:

Never, ever criticise the chef, simple, you'll end up with food poisoning, just sayin....

Grow up, you had an Anand Karaj, have it explained to you, it's not about marrying a woman and she becomes your slave, it's deeper than that.

Earning money doesn't make you the boss of the house, running the house make's you the boss of the house, raising the kids makes you the boss of the house, your a cog in that machine, if your always going to moan like a pre-pubescent teenager then your your own worst enemy, again, grow up.

Lastly, your a parent now, everything you do is an example to your child, so yeah stop coming online and moaning about how bad your life is when the world has slightly bigger problems at the moment and grow up.

 

 

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 Sat Sri Akal all

I just bumped into this thread and read your post @AjeetSingh2019 Singh ji you may be a wonderful son to your parents but not a good husband for sure. Girls see us man as their hero's ( at least that's what they have asked for) but they didn't get in your case.

She put all her trust in you to tell you in the kitchen itself so that you don't criticize her in front of your parents and you broke it in a moment. Is that why she left all her 'world' and followed you to your house?? 

Trust me man, I have been happily married 15 years now and I cook for my wife at times. Whatever I may cook ( initially, I didn't know how to- so they were major disasters) she never said a word wrong even if it's crap.. anyway ...                                                    Have you heard the sakhi of Bibi Rajni who's father was Ahankari and got her married to a ' kori' cos she said ki oh Waheguru da ditta khaandi hai?? You sound like that hankari Raja - I earn for her. "Am I an ATM?" BRO it's. Their 'kismat' that we earn. Waheguru ji's kirpa. 

You have a big time ego. Work upon it. They are our soulmates - put yourself into her shoes. You are still with both your parents. She has left them for u. I was like you when I got married - we had a typical arrange marriage. I noticed as I treated her so did my parents. I have seen my parents treat her badly, keeping her away from ' our' home issues and taunting on her parents- but when I started taking her side and putting myself in her shoes - ( as I got to know her- I started loving her) they loosened up. 

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The OP has exposed some good points, that today's modern feminist would never agree with. Unfortunately we have come to such a low point in our community that asking for just the basics from a women is considered subjecting them to slavery. A mothers/wife's first duty is to provide nourishment. That's why they are born to provide milk to their offspring and not the father. Now just because they are a little stressed with dealing babies why does that have to effect the way they cook. How hard is it to make a simple sabji taste good, especially when they live with the same person for many years and know their needs. We want to promote Dietary Vivek; how will our panth to follow rehit if  their mother/wife can't provide them with simple tasty food. This will lead them to wanting to eat from restaurants and away from Sikhi.

Just whatever you do, make sure you do it with Pyaar. If you have to get a little upset that is fine but don't do it with anger in your heart rather as a way for her to take you seriously. Tell her how important her duty is and explain how stressed you yourself are with work or other worldly duties. If they still don't understand then do Ardas until Guru Sahib gives her the ability to perform her household duties diligently

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Punjabi women collapsed long back.  No one takes them seriously nomore,  and we all know what men of other communities think of them. 

Only matter of time when we gnna see lots of men starting to marry outside the community   dnt blame them. 

 

 

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38 minutes ago, TatKhalsaa said:

The OP has exposed some good points, that today's modern feminist would never agree with. Unfortunately we have come to such a low point in our community that asking for just the basics from a women is considered subjecting them to slavery. A mothers/wife's first duty is to provide nourishment. That's why they are born to provide milk to their offspring and not the father. Now just because they are a little stressed with dealing babies why does that have to effect the way they cook. How hard is it to make a simple sabji taste good, especially when they live with the same person for many years and know their needs. We want to promote Dietary Vivek; how will our panth to follow rehit if  their mother/wife can't provide them with simple tasty food. This will lead them to wanting to eat from restaurants and away from Sikhi.

Just whatever you do, make sure you do it with Pyaar. If you have to get a little upset that is fine but don't do it with anger in your heart rather as a way for her to take you seriously. Tell her how important her duty is and explain how stressed you yourself are with work or other worldly duties. If they still don't understand then do Ardas until Guru Sahib gives her the ability to perform her household duties diligently

Good points, but his wife cooked bro. 

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