Theres someone I know who has took their Sri sahib off but still had the remaining kakkar. I think maybe this person has got involved in a premarital physical relationship hence the person's excuse was 'I'm not good enough'.
I've tried explaining that nobody is 'good enough' and we all make mistakes. We are sikhs- learners.
I have noticed this person's sangat being a bit dodgy hence there's no actual feeling of guilt.
I don't know what I can do to help this person because explaining just evokes arguments and tension.