Kalyug: Mami having affair with nephew

[puzzled]

right under Guru Nanak Dev ji

 

[puzzled]

They not blood related though are they? that's his mami, so i'm guessing the guy making the video is the guys mama. 

[Kaurr]

Blood related or not it's still disturbing, wrong and disgusting. 

[Kau89r8]

[MisterrSingh]

Jokes aside, this highlights a phenomenon that I thought wasn't related to a wider trend, but on second thoughts I think there's definitely some substance to it. 

Sikh guys who migrated to the West in the early to mid 00s are now (and have been for a few years) returning to their homes after securing a long-term visa, and they're now getting married.

The problem is this: the guys themselves are in their very late 30s or early to mid 40s in most cases, but on returning to their ancestral homes they seem to be picking wives for themselves from the early to mid-20s demographic. The age gap is, in some cases, 13 or 14 years.

Normally in a socially, morally conservative and respectable society, this age disparity wouldn't be a problem (as proven through historical precedent), but with the current degradation of cultural and moral norms, it's natural that these young women are going to be attracted (and in some cases have already had numerous partners) to guys in their own age bracket.

The core issue on the part of the male returning home for a wife is rooted in ego. He assumes that because he has the visa - and therefore a guaranteed golden ticket by which to attract the so-called cream of the female crop - the age gap will not prove to be problematic. Unfortunately for him, what he neglects to take into account is the fact that the Punjabi girls that he considers to be his for the taking, are biologically attracted to males of her own age regardless of what tempting inducements the returning champion has at his disposal to secure a rishta.

Of course, the returning male also assumes that because he's a relatively recent immigrant (and not, for example, a foreign-born "Beletiya" etc) he won't get betrayed because he's still basically part of the "tribe" in a cultural sense albeit one who had to depart for a while to secure a future for himself. Again, sadly for him, that departure is enough to create distance where he IS considered as the "other."

It's very interesting. I've seen a few cases of these older Punjabi / young Punjaban in the previous few months but I wasn't quite getting what was going on. Now I get it, and it's quite sad.

[Ranjeet01]

I think as beletiya we were always led to believe that people from Punjab had higher standards of behaviour despite their higher levels of cunning. 

We have been told by our elders that the gorah is immoral and have no standards.

We kind of hold people from Punjab on a pedestal and high esteem but that pedestal and respect is disappearing and it has come to point where the beletiya hold these people with contempt and disgust. 

In some ways these people are worse than goreh. They have less shame in many regards.

How we can call Punjab "back home" at this moment of time is beyond me.

[MisterrSingh]

1 hour ago, Ranjeet01 said:

I think as beletiya we were always led to believe that people from Punjab had higher standards of behaviour despite their higher levels of cunning. 

We have been told by our elders that the gorah is immoral and have no standards.

We kind of hold people from Punjab on a pedestal and high esteem but that pedestal and respect is disappearing and it has come to point where the beletiya hold these people with contempt and disgust. 

In some ways these people are worse than goreh. They have less shame in many regards.

How we can call Punjab "back home" at this moment of time is beyond me.

It's very subtle but they seem to resent us purely because of the accident of us being born overseas. I'd understand if the person in question is a clown, but not so much if he or she are fairly decent and respectable.

There's a palpable yet very subtle hostility even between cousins from the same family when Beletiyeh return to their family home on an excursion. This type of mentality is a telltale sign of a primitive intellect, and it's those people who require minimal prodding to turn into actual and dangerous threats.

[Ranjeet01]

28 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

It's very subtle but they seem to resent us purely because of the accident of us being born overseas. I'd understand if the person in question is a clown, but not so much if he or she are fairly decent and respectable.

There's a palpable yet very subtle hostility even between cousins from the same family when Beletiyeh return to their family home on an excursion. This type of mentality is a telltale sign of a primitive intellect, and it's those people who require minimal prodding to turn into actual and dangerous threats.

They definitely have resentment.

I have heard some of this underlying remarks which suggest this, " Tu te sirf baharo  aiya vah "

But the "incest " like thing gets to me and they have no shame.

Where as we have grown up with goreh's, " bonk them, <banned word filter activated> that, dump them to get off with that one!"

Our elders need to be questioned. How can they bring us up to feel inferior to people from Punjab when the people are this way.

Was Punjab always this way and were they b.s'ing all along? 

[MisterrSingh]

44 minutes ago, Ranjeet01 said:

They definitely have resentment.

I have heard some of this underlying remarks which suggest this, " Tu te sirf baharo  aiya vah "

But the "incest " like thing gets to me and they have no shame.

Where as we have grown up with goreh's, " bonk them, <banned word filter activated> that, dump them to get off with that one!"

Our elders need to be questioned. How can they bring us up to feel inferior to people from Punjab when the people are this way.

Was Punjab always this way and were they b.s'ing all along? 

I mentioned this Mami-Bhanja situation to my mum as obliquely as I could manage it, lol, and to my surprise she said there's always been whispers of this kind of gandh when she was growing up during her childhood / teens, which was throughout the 70s. I'm shocked, tbh. Another common sordid interaction is the Bhua's Son and Mama's Daughter. This is truly taboo stuff. Disgusting.

[Ranjeet01]

12 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

I mentioned this Mami-Bhanja situation to my mum as obliquely as I could manage it, lol, and to my surprise she said there's always been whispers of this kind of gandh when she was growing up during her childhood / teens, which was throughout the 70s. I'm shocked, tbh. Another common sordid interaction is the Bhua's Son and Mama's Daughter. This is truly taboo stuff. Disgusting.

Rakhri must truly be Valentine's day for these types.