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I was on the bus this morning, looking out the window and I see an adult man, with a dhari and patka... and a cigarette in hand. The immediate thought came in my mind that I should get off at the next stop and go back to speak to him. Then I just thought, forget it the bus is going hes not going to listen, but just as the bus doors were closing I could not bear it and got off to go find him. There he was on a busy high street shamelessly smoking away. He did not even seem to care when he saw me, with my dumalla and open dhari, approaching. I started speaking to him in punjabi saying "sardarji tusi ki kare ho, ah ki ah?", with no sharam at all he replied, 'cigarette hai' . I said to him how can you do this with a dastaar on (dastar automatically came out of my mouth). And with complete confidence his gobsmacking reply was 'Eh dastaar nai hai, patka hai'! I said, 'Kes ta rakhe ne, kara ta hai' (a gold 'kara' was on the same hand with which he was holding the cigarette). I said to him do you not know what Sikhi says about this? While blowing smoke into my face he just mumbled away and then told me to just go and get on with my own business. I replied that I cannot do this as you have taken my Guru's roop and are doing badnaami of it. I recalled to him the sakhi of Guru Sahib's ghora but of course he did not care. After a while he just chucked his cigarette away and walked into a shop which I think was his. I bore his insulting attitude as I believe our approach, especially the first approach should be one of pyar (but of course firmness) and the giving benefit of the doubt. I think if I see him again I will not be taking this approach. Some important points to take away from this: -A guy with sikhi saroop is smoking on a busy high street with no care that this is wrong -This street has a fair amount of Sikhs walking up and down it, the confidence with which he is openly smoking tells me that other Sikhs must not be confronting him. -No sharam even infront of someone who clearly looks amritdhari. The purpose of me posting this is mainly to say, if you see something like this, make sure you don't just ignore it but give the person a piece of your mind. At the very least we must make sure that such people do not dare smoke out in public like this, or realise they must get rid of all outward displays of Sikhi if they insist on continuing. I had to walk the rest of the way home but I just could not tolerate what I saw. It is our duty to make such people account for themselves.

For someone like me who goes into central london nearly every day, I would be going pesh literally every week if that is what is necessary after having cigarette smoke around me. I am not a Brahmin, I am a Sikh of Dashmesh Pita.

your married singh surely this is a discussion you should have with your wife...asking sangat if you should kiss your wife is a bit weird

No offence but I don't your idea of using a Gutka would take off. The majority rightly believe that the Anand Karaj is the real wedding and the registry wedding is just something to do because the law requires it. No one will go for the watered down Anand Karaj. Possibly the answer to this issue is a combination of things. 1. Make both couple sign an agreement that there will no other religious marriage ceremony apart from a civil one before or after the Anand Karaj. This would foil the type of things that happen where the Anand Karaj is followed by the Hindu or Christian wedding ceremony making a mockery of the Anand Karaj. 2. There will have to be some discrimination with regard to how the non-Sikh bride is handled as opposed to a non-Sikh groom. As the likelihood is that the female follows the religion of the male or at least does not attempt to convert him to her faith, then probably a declaration from her that she will follow the Sikh lifestyle should be sufficient. 3. For the non-Sikh groom, it would have to be different. Probably a formal comversion to Sikhism. This will root out some of the unsavory characters whose sole aim is to convert the girl to their religion.

I think she went in for the short back and sides with some red highlights. Her hairstyle is what my big bro used to have in late 70s and 80s! Dread to think what kind of bollywood beauty salon make up she would have come in had the ceremony gone ahead! You can just imagine the misplaced akkarh the family must have had to think they could ride roughshod over the Hukumnama of the Akal Takht. Bet when someone pointed out there would be protest to stop the ceremony going head the mum and dad probably said' Koi na Put, dekhde ha kaun sadi laadli diyan anandan hutonda'!

Beat the committee members who stand in opposition to progress. What do you think?

Sri Maan Brahmgiani Sant Giani Gurbachan Singh Jee Khalsa Bhindranwale, 12th Jathedar of Damdami Taksaal.

Dear Learned GurSikhs, I have been reading through Kabeer's bani in Sri Guru Granth Sabhib Ji and am puzzled by some particular pangtis. They are on Ang 481. Can some learned gursikh please explain the underlying message? Many Thanks. http://www.searchgurbani.com/guru_granth_sahib/ang/481 pihlw pUqu ipCYrI mweI ] pehilaa pooth pishhairee maaee || First, the son was born, and then, his mother. guru lwgo cyly kI pweI ]1] gur laago chaelae kee paaee ||1|| The guru falls at the feet of the disciple. ||1|| eyku AcMBau sunhu qum@ BweI ] eaek acha(n)bho sunahu thumh bhaaee || Listen to this wonderful thing, O Siblings of Destiny! dyKq isMGu crwvq gweI ]1] rhwau ] dhaekhath si(n)gh charaavath gaaee ||1|| rehaao || I saw the lion herding the cows. ||1||Pause|| jl kI mCulI qrvir ibAweI ] jal kee mashhulee tharavar biaaee || The fish of the water gives birth upon a tree. dyKq kuqrw lY geI iblweI ]2] dhaekhath kutharaa lai gee bilaaee ||2|| I saw a cat carrying away a dog. ||2|| qlY ry bYsw aUpir sUlw ] thalai rae baisaa oopar soolaa || The branches are below, and the roots are above. iqs kY pyif lgy Pl PUlw ]3] this kai paedd lagae fal foolaa ||3|| The trunk of that tree bears fruits and flowers. ||3|| GorY cir BYs crwvn jweI ] ghorai char bhais charaavan jaaee || Riding a horse, the buffalo takes him out to graze. bwhir bYlu goin Gir AweI ]4] baahar bail gon ghar aaee ||4|| The bull is away, while his load has come home. ||4|| khq kbIr ju ies pd bUJY ] kehath kabeer j eis padh boojhai || Says Kabeer, one who understands this hymn, rwm rmq iqsu sBu ikCu sUJY ]5]9]22] raam ramath this sabh kishh soojhai ||5||9||22|| and chants the Lord's Name, comes to understand everything. ||5||9||22||

Also there is nothing wrong with tying the beard. I know you are supposed to keep it open. My cousin whos in india is ameit dhari and hes a police officer but has to tie his beard. If it isnt allowed in our own country to leave the beard open than i think its not fair to point the fingers at those who do tie it over here. My dad was diagnosed with cancer and hes a full amrit dhari and never drank, eat meat, or cut his hair has to tie his beard now because of the effect of chemotherapy. One side of the beard did not fully develop as the other side did so he has to keep it tied. If an outsider like you looks at it your obviously going to think that hes not a full amrit dhari since he tied hos beard. We shouldnt be wuick to judge others there might be some reason behind their act.

a liverpool fan living in luton? dear oh dear.

It boils down to this: Attempt to educate people and clear up any misconceptions about what the Anand Karaj actually is about OR scare Sikhs of all flavours into submission. No righteous victory has ever been achieved through fear and force. Whilst short-term goals to stop beadbi going ahead are essential and valuable seva, there must be a concrete plan to move forward from that point onwards.

Great initiative. Keep it up.

Nit picking at its best. Keep it up ,bro.

Swindon is a small community and the likelihood is the Gurdwara needs the money and if it were up to them they would be marrying gaddeh if there was money in it for them. You make a good point about why the committee not stopping the Anand Karaj from being even booked in the first place once they were told that the one of the parties was a non-Sikh. We need a concerted effort to stop these Anand Karajs being booked in the first place. The way to do this is that each and every Gurdwara should be sent a copy of the Hukumnama as well as clippings from previous Anand Karajs that have been stopped from going ahead. A campaign by the media such as Sikh Channel and Sangat TV also needs to be started. Just as it has become the norm that an Anand Karaj can be booked on payment of a fee with no questions asked about the eligibility of the parties which are to take part, if there is a campaign then the norm will soon be that booking an Anand Karaj requires the antecedents of parties be checked for eligibility. The issue should be not clouded by race or turned into a racist issue. The issue is soley a religious one, we want to maintain the sanctity of the Anand karaj ceremony and not allow it to be desecrated by egoist who think they can get their own way against the wishes of the Akal Takht and the rest of the community.

jus saw her pic bro, damn she got shorter hair than me

i wish there were more gursikhs like u virji..our panth would've been in chardikala

This is where you need panthic.org and their guerilla war journalism....where you guys man? tut tut ..lol ..this is a time we need your resources..!!

if youre only kissing youre wife and noone else then i dotn think there anything wrong with that... you love her she loves you... just keep kissing dude

There are bigger issues in the panth and bigger chor's in the mind (kam, krodh, lob, moh, ahankar) that we need to get rid of instead of discussing on colors..seriously people need to move on...if not wearing red or green helps good for you, time to move on..whatever your perception (dristhi koun) is thats what you clearly become and discussing or debating the basics, one can easily get stuck in (by wrapping your head around it) to the point where one forgets the bigger picture "eho tari vari aa gobind millan di ".. ..its not as black and white ... if red was manmat nirmale wouldn't wear phagva and red color, its all about perception how you perceive things..!! At the end of day, we are not sullehs/sunnis where most of them are stuck in shariat..!! Ang- 1083 saraa sareeath lae ka(n)maavahu || Let your practice be to live the spiritual life. thareekath tharak khoj ttolaavahu || Let your spiritual cleansing be to renounce the world and seek God. maarafath man maarahu abadhaalaa milahu hakeekath jith fir n maraa ||3|| Let control of the mind be your spiritual wisdom, O holy man; meeting with God, you shall never die again. ||3|| Just for the record- I wear blue/white/skyblue/teal/brown at times and only on canada day - wear red..!!

They're trying to ensure the bride doesn't do a runner. Arranged marriages and all that... :biggrin2:

Maharajah Ranjeet Singh received 50 lashes for marrying a non Sikh. Guru Nanak Dev Ji refused to get married the Hindu way and wrote on a piece of paper ' Ik Onkaar, Sat Gur Prasaad '. This is where Gurbani started, this is the start of the Anand Karaj and set the way for Sikhs to be married as such. Guru Gobind Singh Ji closed the chapter by giving out in one of his 52 Hukams, a Sikh girl should not be given to a clean shaven ( non Sikh ). All Sikhs were meant to Amrithdari, there was not meant to be no middle ground but over the years, we as a community have allowed this to happen.

All your answers are here: http://www.gurmatveechar.com/audios/Katha/01_Puratan_Katha/Sant_Gurbachan_Singh_%28Bhindran_wale%29/Guru_Granth_Sahib_Larivaar_Katha/Volume_06_Ang_0462-0536/030--Sant.Gurbachan.Singh.%28Bhindran.wale%29--Raag.Aasaa.%28Bhagat.Bani%29--Ang-481.mp3

Well done, brother. If all Sikhs show the same guts to challenge these kind of scoundrels, we would be so much better off.

These issues can only be resolved when local sangat take interest and lead in fixes the problems in their areas. Beyond this, these corupt committees will keep quiet for a couple of months and then start up the manmat actions again. We all want a super organisation who we can pass our problems on to but the reality is that its up to the individual and local sangat to make these committees feel that they cannot do this. Sri Akal Takht Sahib have done their part by outruling the use and consumption of meat, alcohol and tobacco on any Gurdwara owned property. It's up to the local sangats to implement in their Gurdwaras, otherwise we simply bemukhs.

The 'sword' accusation needs to be confirmed or debunked. Madness if true. Also, LOL at Pyara Ji's title for this thread.... 'Mixed Marriages Morchay'. :biggrin2:

BHAI SAHIB JI DONT LEAVE, WE NEED GOOD PEOPLE HERE.

competition mate

All i can say guys is approach this issue very sensibly, each and every non sikh be it mona, gora/kala/pila who is marrying an sikh is a potential singh or kaur....we must strike a right balance!!..we have to do this in stages, as mentioned earlier truth is sour, we have to feed them bit by bit.

Actually this is a snap shot of what is happening right now we need to know this to understand where they are coming from if we don't educate ourselves about their questions how will you be ready to answer them!!!!

i am in the legal profession and have dealt with mr bal and his law firm. i can safely say he is not making a penny from sikh channel and is in fact putting in alot of his own money. stop spreading false rumours. i am not his friend or supporter but have any of you had the balls to start a sikh tv channel ? have any of the countless rich sikhs and gurdwara across the uk had the balls to do this ? the answer is no. if you dont like it, go watch glory tv on 832.

I didn't say that. What I said is that this is the excuse they use to not wear a cap, but yet don't wear a turban. To me, it's an idiotic excuse

It's ok don't feel bad and move on, you will understand as you grow along that these things are just tiny bit of worldly pleasure or anand...as you keep growing in sikhi you will find these tiny bit of worldy pleasure are nothing compare to spiritual bliss just to put it contrast what you experienced today its small drop of anand, as you will grow spiritually in sikhi you will find lake of spiritual bliss, river of spiritual bliss, sea of spiritual bliss and finally ocean of spiritual bliss which cannot be compared with worldy pleasures..cannot be described its infinite bliss. So always keep in mind, you deserve more and you are worth more than this lame pleasure, every human being have a potential of experiencing ocean of spiritual bliss..so next time you try to go back to this same worldy pleasure, just think about higher bliss in spirituality and start thinking about striving for it.

Udhoke is playing games on Sri Dasam Granth. Udhoke himself is a Kala-Afghani missionary. The person asking him the questions quotes Udhoke as stating those verses in Sri Bachitar Natak are not Bani and were written afterwards. As you can see, Udhoke doesn't even try to dispute that statement- this proves that he does NOT believe those verses are Bani, but at the same time he tries to state others should not criticize it. On one hand he has already criticized Sri Dasam Bani, and on the other he is telling others not to do so. This is so typical of this guy - all he wants is attention. He is not a Rahitvaan Sikh, he was kicked out of GURSIKH and Shahbaaz Khalsa Organizations for various reasons. He has used the research on RSS done by other GurSikhs and unilaterally published the material and taken credit for everything himself. He is a perfect for modern Khalistanis who like to scream about RSS all the time, but have a soft corner for naastics.

<br /><br /><br />i give my 100 perc to this qoute,do as this post have told ...as many chaupai sahib,aradaas....guru nanak is bada beant oh kirpaaa pakkkaa karu

ਰਾਮ ਨਾਮੁ ਜੋ ਜਨੁ ਜਪੈ ਅਨਦਿਨੁ ਸਦ ਜਾਗੈ ॥ Rām nām jo jan japai an▫ḏin saḏ jāgai. That humble being who chants the Lord's Name, remains always awake and aware, night and day. ਤੰਤੁ ਮੰਤੁ ਨਹ ਜੋਹਈ ਤਿਤੁ ਚਾਖੁ ਨ ਲਾਗੈ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Ŧanṯ manṯ nah joh▫ī ṯiṯ cẖākẖ na lāgai. ||1|| rahā▫o. He is not affected by charms and spells, nor is he harmed by the evil eye. I believe this is all that is needed.

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh. I hope my story will be inspirational to the sangat. My family is fairly religious, but my parents have not taken amrit. My grandparents have but none of my cousins or aunts/ uncles have, so i was not introduced to the saadh sangat very early and i was not born in a gursikh family. Those who are, God Bless YOU! Anyways, my dad was a drinker, and still is. My mom is very religious, but did not take amrit (yet i hope) and my brother , unfortunatly is in a wheelchair, but he believes in Waheguru alot. What really inspires me the most is to see sooo much faith my brother has in Waheguru that one day he will start to walk, and everyday i pray to Waheguru to help my brother to start walking very soon. But that isn't quite all the inspiration in my life. I have many moments that i have realised waheguru. I didn't find waheguru, Waheguru found me and everything that happened in my life always led to waheguru. Before i was 11 years old, i would go to the gurudawara when there was a wedding, akhand paht, etc. My nani ji took my brother and i to the gurudawara most of the time. But i didnt understand kirtan or katha, so i would run around with other kids at the gurudawara... i didnt know how to respect waheguru or to be more serious in asking my nani ji what the kirtan was about or what waheguru was saying. During ardaas i remember i would just stand and look around at others, not knowing what the Singh was saying in the microphone. I started doing my eyebrows at the age of 10 after whining and begging my mom because i thought i was hairy and everyone made fun of me. this was a bad decision on my part when i look back at it. When i was 11 years old, i started going to a class every fridays called the Gurmat Training Institution with my mom. Harmeet Singh uncle (the teacher) would address issues and problems many teenagers and families face on an everyday basis, as well as understanding sikhi and keeping the rahit. my brother and my dad were unable to go due to my brother's disability. I stopped eating meating at the age of 12, a year later after watching a slide show a singh made aboiut eating meat. Guru ji's kirpa, my mother and my brother also stopped eating meat. My dad however still eats meat, but with guru ji's kirpa, he will help my dad aswell. My dad isn't "bad", he is religious and believes in waheguru, but its the drinking alcohol and eating meat makes him that seperates him from being EVEN more closer to waheguru. So as years went by, i kept attending the friday classes, and they helped me start doing jap ji saahib everyday. Eventually at 15, at the friday class, a Singh came to the class and told the sangat that those who want to learn how to read gurbani (jurmai akar) form the pothi saahib can attend it on fridays from 6-8:30. I did not know how to read punjabi , i read jap ji saahib in english and i didnt want to miss the Gurmat Class, But my mom told me to come and focus and listen as we read from the pothi saahib. The singh (teacher) knew i didnt know how to read punjabi, but he kept motivating me to keep reading and follow each letter as he read and i said it right after him. WITH GURU JI'S BLESSING i learned how to read punjabi just by attending these classes of reading from the pothi saahib. My mom kept me focused and made me read punjabi at home. I know it sounds like a miracle and it happened so fast, but it took some time, but it was guru ji's blessings that helped me. If i didnt know how to read punjabi, i dont even know how i would have been able to read from the pothi saahib or EVEN read gurbani in general. Let me go on with my story, I started to slowly understand gurbani and i am learning something new everyday. I slowly increased the paht i read in the morning everyday and i now read the entire nitnem in the morning. I started waking up amrit vela. How did i start doing this? Well, Waheguru ji's kirpa, i went to a white high school, so there werent many indian girls who u know "show off, think they are all that, make other girls feel lower or less than them". I am not ssaying every girl is like that. Im sorry to offend anyone, but i was like that in elementary school. But in high school i didnt have any distraction . yeh, there were some indians, but i really didn't care. Doing paht and listening to kirtan was personal to me. I didnt share about this to my friends because i didnt want their "opinions" to influence me. I started listening to kirtan because i felt sooo much pyaar and happiness. i never felt this way if i listen to western hip hop/ rap music. Ever since i was little, that western music wan't my think, i pretended to like it because my friends did, but i was never happy when i listened to it. When i listen to kirtan, i begin to tear up because there is so much power and love in every kirtan and shabad i listen to. i started going to smagaghams, simran, rainsbhyee kirtans and my pyeare for guru ji just got stronger and stronger, and still is getting stronger Now, i am starting university. i am on the path of taking amrit really soon. But my mom believes i should do a year in university and then take amrit because she doesnt want me to take amrit and then stop because i cant handle it. She wants me to balance. she wants me to keep the sikh rahit. I respect that, but what if i die tomorrow. i didnt take amrit, therefore i wont be able to be with waheguru. I really want to take amrit!!!! an even more inspiration for me to take amrit is to clean my slate. i have made alot of mistakes in my life, i also wasted 18 years of my life without taking amrit. I also think, waheguru has blessed me in sikhism, and blessed me to atleast think of taking amrit, i hope one day this will come true. my birthday is coming up and i want to take amrit on my birthday. I have a sukhmani saahib paht at the gurudawara for my birthday and I AM SOO TEMPTED TO take amrit then because it is the PERFECT TIMING!!!! but i leave it in God's hands to help me take amrit. i am waiting for that day. I want to take amrit. Bhul chuck maaf. Im sorry its long and i hope i sent my message across to u all. waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh.

My story …. :D I was 15 Well my family was not really into sikhi they would go to the gurdwara when there was a program or a wedding but that's it. It was the typical Panjabi family meat meat and more meat I was Mona and so was my dad we never had a single Singh from my dads side nor my mums may be from my mums in India but not in UK. My grand mas (bibi ji) bless her used to take me and my cousins to the gurdwara every day I loved it. :D I was into sikhi even but was jus Mona I used to do parkash off gukta sahibs every day in my cupboard used to have 10 gukta sahibs and used to do parkash of 5. Two japji sahib ones one nitnem two sukhmani sahib gukta sahibs I always wanted to take amrit and grow my kesh but I guess was the people around me I.e. family, mates we used to live on a street where all Punjabi people used to live I hated it I tried to grow my kesh 5-6 times but ended up cutting it thinking what would mates say this and that I used to do ardass every day that guru ji let us move house let me keep my kesh and let us have a room for guru ji always that would be on my mind. Got to six-form and I would say to my mates I wanted to grow my hair they were all kool about it and help me out. I was not like every kid most kids when there in there teens would have music on there Ipods and mp3s but I would have kirtan and katha and when sumone would ask what u got on I would jus say path they would just look at me thinking a Mona with path on :6 hmmm. I used to hate music even when I was Mona Guru ji kirpa mum and dad started to look for a new house and we moved right out off town we moved to a area where there was just white people that I loved I started to keep my kesh got a room for guru ji started to go gurdwara and met a bibi who does seva in guru jis darbar she looks after guru jis rumala sahibs she lived near our new house she would take and and drop me off home from the gurdwara she introduced me to guru jis seva I got sanchee sahibs in English and gurmuki from Southall sikh miss started to do parksah of them everyday then I wanted to take amrit but mum dad said wait till u end school and uni and wait till u get married I was like HELLLL NOOO :BL: lool Sunday 15th April 2005 guru ji called me :D On Sunday 15th April 2005 there was an amrit sanchar at our gurdwara put my name down 2 weeks before I was the first one to put my name down never told my mum and dad anyways got up and got ready told parents that im going gurdwara but never told them I was talking amrit lool :BL: Panj told us to wait outside and then got a phone call from mum asking y I have not come home I jus said to her quickly in Punjabi "im taking amrit bye" and put the phone down she phone me back saying do not take it yet ur still young I jus turned my phone of and left everything in guru jis hands :pray: Panj called us in and guru jis kirpa I took amrit at 3.00 Pm waheguru best day of my life yet I was the only kid in the amrit sanchar :TH: Phoned my parents and told them that guru ji gave me amrit and my mum jus said don't come home I was like waheguru pita ji its all in ur hands went home that night no one spoke to me parents never spoke to me for 2 weeks after every one found out that I took amrit my mums sister explain to her that u have to except what he has done then slowly slowly my parents started to talk to me :sleep: Now I just keep my self to my self at home That's my story :wubc: I thank guru ji for bringing me into HIS FAMILY and may guru ji keep me and every one on this path And personal thing to everyone for those who want to take amrit from deep in my heart plz those who wish to take amrit plz do We have come into this world alone and we will go alone And if ur parents are stopping u like mine did guru ji help them but no one should never stop another to get into sikhi or take amrit May guru ji bless u all with sikhi :pray: :pray: sowwie it was long and sowwie for any mistakes made

how can u compare the 2? its not logical... u can't compare a males facial hair to a womans..

Penji i think deep down you know that waxing is wrong. Sorry if you think im being offensive, but i think your just looking for an excuse to support the sin you are commiting. Removing hair ANYWHERE on the body is a bujjar kurehit. So yes it is very wrong. There is no way around this. You have posted your probelms about school and college, and your 'hariy' arms, nearly EVERY singhni i know has been through the same situation, and they managed to get through it with mahrajs kirpaa. At the end of the day who do you want to please, your guru or your work mates? You cant simply say that because you have body hair that you dont get jobs. Some times things dont work out the way we would like them to be, but we have to accept this as the sweet will of mahraj. We have to have faith that mahraj will do the best for us, and accept that he will only do the best for us. You seem to be asking for a scientific reason as to why we should keep hair. You said yourself that you consider yourself to be a sikh of the guru. Then surely you must have enough piaar to try and follow hukam to the best of your ability without questioning it. see i think we should turn this around, what are your reasons for removing your kesh? Are you reasons within gurmat? No, they are just because you care what others think, when clearly mahraj says; kabeer ddoobehigo rae baapurae bahu logan kee kaan || Kabeer, you shall drown, you wretched being, from worrying about what other people think. Penji, forget all these other people! Japp naam, keep rehit and please your GURU! You think you have it tough? Think about all the people who have made such massive sacrifices for sikhi, bibia had their children cut into peices and hung as garlands around their necks, singhs were boiled alive, cut in half and endured so many other tortures! Yet you find it hard to keep your precious kesh. Our kesh isnt a burden, see it as a gift. Its great that you do paath, and i hope you continue to do so, but sikhi isnt just summit, where we can say yes i follow sikhi, full stop, its not just about doing paath. You have to try and find that piaar for mahraj, and try and do every action out of piaar for him; such as doing seva, helping the needy, protecting the weak. Try and keep more singhni sangat, it will help. Dont give up penji, do ardas and have full faith. No one ever said that life was going to be easy, this is one of many obstacles you will come across, you have to turn to mahraj and he will do everything for you. I am sorry if i have offended you, or said anything out of line. Stay strong penji :TH: vahiguroo vahiguroo vahiguroo vahiguroo vahiguroo vahiguroo vahiguroooooo vahiguroo vahiguroo vahigurooooo!! VAHIGURUJEEKAAKHALSA VAHIGURUJEEKEEFATEH!