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Yea it basically cultural stuff. When I get married I ain't gonna have any of that mehndi stuff. I know this sounds random but I got my wedding all planned out. I'm gonna wear a bana and make sure I have a kirpan bigger than the guy or maybe we can do equal. Then my wedding is gonna be really early in the morning like at 3-4am. Also I'm gonna make sure the dress code is Bana only. It should be quite fun.

Also I was thinking - I don't think I want the guy to walk in front....so i'll swap that thing with him....or we can take it in turns....but yeah thats my plan - just gots to find someone who will agree....

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i read something on tapoban before explaining why the singh walks in front and the singhni behind....... cant remember at the moment. The singh has always walked infront during lavaa, this was done during bhai randhir singhs time aswell.........

I think you would find it pretty hard to find a singh who would be willing to 'switch places' during the lavaa lol.

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About lava - seriously he gots to have turns...
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And wats wrong with that :D
its against maryada, singhs have always been in front throughout history
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Why women walk behind men

Years ago Shanti Kaur questioning the Siri Singh Sahib Harbhajan Singh about the practice of having the Palay (the shawl) wrapped over the Man's shoulder, and the woman holding it from behind as the man leads the woman. She thought this was some old non Sikh practice and was wondering why we do this. Especially from the aspect of why the woman had to be in the back and following the man (being subservient). There was a first answer which I don't remember...(Maybe Guruka singh can fill in) which she listened to but was not satisfied, so went back to him again. He said the second time....something like "You see the woman being dragged by the man and following him as a lesser than equal. Marriage is a carriage. I see the woman being the leader, holding the shawl like reigns of the horse, directing the Man from behind. It's all how you look at it."

(i got this from a sikh blogger website)

http://singhangad.blogspot.com/2005_07_01_...ad_archive.html

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i once heard from sum bout how natives, when they walk, the man always walks ahead of the woman.... why? the mans 'duty' is to protect his wife and family, so he walks first.. if anythin where to come out of the 'bushes' (bein attacked by a wolf or somethin) then he would be the first one to be targeted... which would allow him to (attempt to) protect his family, and in a situation where it got bad, the family would have time to run...

at the end of the day, it has nothin to do wit in-equality..

seems pretty reasonable to me..

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You see the woman being dragged by the man and following him as a lesser than equal. Marriage is a carriage. I see the woman being the leader, holding the shawl like reigns of the horse, directing the Man from behind. It's all how you look at it."

Interesting way of looking at it!

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