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Tarrandeep Kaur
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does it matter if she is?loads of people go through this phase is life. she probably feels alone so the first thing i would say is be there for her. listen, listen and listen, you dont necessarily have to give advice but she will like someone just caring. secondly just let her know its just a phase she is going through she never know what is around the corner.

god bless over and out surj

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I think it matters whether she is or not amritdhari because if all other means have failed to solve her problem, she could start from fresh, take a new birth by taking amrit.

If she isnt amritdhari, maybe otther gursikhs in her area could help her, meeting up for amrit vela, going to the gurdwhara every morning, doing jorian de seva or even cleaning the gurdwhara.

Guru Sahib will then have kirpaa on her and maybe decrease the effect of the problem on her mind and make her accept vaaheguroo's bhanna which is very hard to do. One needs guru's kirpaa!!

It all depending on the situation really, its pointless making a post on ur friend commiting suicide, then not giving a reason. Yes it is personal, but we need to know the roots to the problem and then solve them.

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Gurfateh ji.

1st explain to her what happens to those who commit suicide, lyk get trapped in the pret joon for thousands of years etc. and then when she does get a human janam once again, shes gona have the exact same challanges, cuz she failed on them before (if does suicide), and then the only way out is to take amrit agen and overcome the same challange. what im tryna say, is by commiting suicide no problem is solved, except a whole load of time has been wasted, a whole deal of pain is felt, and then u end up back wer u started cuz u gota pass that test you failed on first. theres no short cut or easy way out accept challenging what shes going through with mahraajs kirpa, and turing to Guru Sahib 4 the answer. tell her to keep faith in her ardas. i think they say prets are made from something like fire and wind. cant image the pain of that.

& get older gursikh on the scene, may be a knowledgeable bibi, probly comunicate better then a singh

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