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Sikhism is goes very deep into meanings and can be extreeeeemely difficult to explain, but those people who have the knowledge and are highly spiritual can explain very easily, some things are hard to believe in, but Sikhism contains belief, you need to have the belief and not want the proof, the proof will come to you as an individual, but at the moment all you need is belief, and if there is no belief then you cannot proggress to find the proof.

I'm just trying to explain this to others who have questions. I need very precise answers, so others don't get confused when I explain it to them. If you follow a religion, you should know all of it fully and be prepared to answer any questions about it on a moment's notice. Don't pass the buck and say he or she is more spiritural than I. Take responsibility and know everything there is to know, so people get the impression you actually know what you're talking about, especially since you brought this up in the first place.

Sikhs seem very hard on others, so maybe they need people to be hard on them and raise questions.

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good posts from hau apraadhi.

You need to find out what TRUE love is 1st. The love ur tlkin about is maya- attachment for this guy.

How can you love the creator, when you don't love his creation

as i sed, you have to love them but not in in the terms of loving with lust.

Seeing as nobody a lot of u arent understanding what i'm saying i'm just gna leave it up to those who can explain it, i know EXACTLY what i'm trying to say but it's too difficult for me to explain, i'm sorry chris, but i just dont know how to, sorry for starting something and not explaining it fully, sorry for not being any help. Forgive me. No hard feelings yh, I'm out.

Vaaheguroo Jee Kaa Khaalsaa, Vaaheguroo Jee Kee Fatheh

The Khaalsaa Belongs To Vaaheguroo, The Victory Belongs To Vaaheguroo

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i'm sorry if i am harsh but i have to say this.

You are NOT a sikh if you are a jatt, that is not possible, there is no such thing as caste in sikhism, no one cares about caste because everybody is equal, it's stupid and pathetic and 100% wrong and against sikhi.

I am a JATT and a Sikh....caste has nothing to do with sikhism but my family had the name SANDHU even before khalsa came into existence. Its our background and I am proud of it and we will never forget who we are and were....Sandhu's are the bravest and one of the oldest jatts among other kind of jatts. Also ur comment is 100% wrong and pathetic if you think people who are proud of their background(caste) are going against Sikhi. why dont you learn about caste before you make remarks like such?

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yes i have.....we(all the family kids) washed our majha when we lived in our village...I was 8 when I would go wash them with my older cousins on sundays.....pathe v kutre main lol...taar v kadi :) )))) ...then i came to usa...

hmmm have you ever worked in a farm?
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Here's my penny's worth.

It's amazing how people when they fall for persons of another religion suddenly discover quotes from Guru Granth Sahib and are apt to misquote them to suit their own personal situation.

How can you equate the fact that Sikh Rehat Maryada teaches that a Sikh should marry another Sikh with 'hating' another religion? Sorry to be harsh on you but you are trying to fit your Sikhi around your own personal situation. Sikhi is against caste but it does say that you should marry within your religion. This is what the Babaji who your parents took you to seems to be telling you but your ears refuse to listen and you come up with all this 'hating' bukwas. The Babaji quite rightly said that if this person is so much in love with you then why doesn't he become a Sikh. You can run all the 'mills and boones' and bollywood romance scenarios through your head but when it comes to the real world and living as husband and wife and away from the excitement of secret dates and trying not to get discovered by your parents and relatives, and back to the mundane humdrum life your religions will get in the way. |This is what the Babaji was trying to explain to you. You are 27 and you might think that that you know what life is, but believe me you will look back in 10 years when you are 37 and realise how naive you were at 27. Another 10 years later you will again be amazed at how naive you were at 37 and so on. You might think that your parents and other elders including the Babaji are just stuck in the past and your views are modern and forward thinking but trust me they are not. Yours might be a 1% of inter-religious marriages that MIGHT work out. You might be one of the few couple who actually succeed in being able to live up to the usual maxim for inter-religious marriages 'we'll teach them both religions and they can choose which one or none they want to follow when they get older'. Most of these well meaning couples end up with confused kids who don't know the first thing about either of their parents' religions.

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i'm sorry if i am harsh but i have to say this.

You are NOT a sikh if you are a jatt, that is not possible, there is no such thing as caste in sikhism, no one cares about caste because everybody is equal, it's stupid and pathetic and 100% wrong and against sikhi.

I am a JATT and a Sikh....caste has nothing to do with sikhism but my family had the name SANDHU even before khalsa came into existence. Its our background and I am proud of it and we will never forget who we are and were....Sandhu's are the bravest and one of the oldest jatts among other kind of jatts. Also ur comment is 100% wrong and pathetic if you think people who are proud of their background(caste) are going against Sikhi. why dont you learn about caste before you make remarks like such?

How dare you, we are Dhillons and we are the bravest JATTS and one of the oldest amongst other kind of Jatts. I can't believe that a Sandhu is claiming to be the bravest Jatt 'got', the cheek of it all! plus we are from Malwa where all the Jatts are braver than the Jatts in other areas. Our district has the bravest Jatts in all of Malwa, our tehsil has the bravest jatts in our district and our pind has the bravest Jatts in all the tehsil. I think that should be enough evidence for you to go and rethink your outrageous remarks about your 'got' being braver than mine!

Btw long before the Khalsa came into existence, we used to live in caves and I'm so proud of my ancestors from thousands of years ago, I'm going off to light a fire using two sticks!

NB. I'm being sarcastic here in case some people start proceedings with the mods to get me banned :) ))))

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i'm sorry if i am harsh but i have to say this.

You are NOT a sikh if you are a jatt, that is not possible, there is no such thing as caste in sikhism, no one cares about caste because everybody is equal, it's stupid and pathetic and 100% wrong and against sikhi.

I am a JATT and a Sikh....caste has nothing to do with sikhism but my family had the name SANDHU even before khalsa came into existence. Its our background and I am proud of it and we will never forget who we are and were....Sandhu's are the bravest and one of the oldest jatts among other kind of jatts. Also ur comment is 100% wrong and pathetic if you think people who are proud of their background(caste) are going against Sikhi. why dont you learn about caste before you make remarks like such?

:LOLz: :LOLz: :LOLz:

lol did you not read what he said, one cant be a jatt, ramgariah or khatri and a sikh at the same time. and here i was thinking this couldnt be more simple.

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i want to add one thing more in my post that i know him from last 5 years and im 27 year old working in a MNC

it is not matter u know him or u love him, except it is matter , do u love with sikhi ? if u love with sikhi

then u should not marriage with him because true love is vaheguroo.

you say that as far as you know a sikhi can marry a non sikh, wel sikhs cannot marry non sikhs because the children will not be sikhs due to the other partner not wanting their children to be sikhs and it will not help you to get to vaaheguroo.

if u wana sikhi alive in ur family then u sould not marry with him, but decision on u.

thanking u

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