A Marrage Dilema?

[Into the Light]

If you want to marry her in a Gurdwara You WILL have to convert to Sikhi and reconigise Dhan Dhan Shri Guru Granth Sahib Ji as the True Guru. You will also have to Add Singh as your middle name in passports and all other documents.

May the Guru bless your marrige (if her family agree's)

Sorry maybe i should have been more clear.

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my girlfriends mum was born in india and moved with her family to england when she was 4, when she was 19 she fell in love with an english man and had to leave her family for him, which she did and has not spoken to them since then, she cut all ties so to speak.

my girlfriend is half indian and half english and we would be having an english wedding in a church which is what she want's

i suppose i am just worried about her mum, i just wanted to make sure i respected her faith

It appears your girlfriend doesn't consider herself as Sikh else she wouldn't choose to get married in a Church over a Gurdwara Sahib...so there really is no dilema!

[japmans]

Into The Light:

That really wasn't ever the dilemma, actually. His dilemma is approaching and taking into consideration the mothers spirituality, feelings, and mental well being... He is trying to make and keep peace with the entire family, instead of just thinking solely about his own self and doing whatever he pleases.

[JustME]

Sorry maybe i should have been more clear.

start from the top

my girlfriends mum was born in india and moved with her family to england when she was 4, when she was 19 she fell in love with an english man and had to leave her family for him, which she did and has not spoken to them since then, she cut all ties so to speak.

my girlfriend is half indian and half english and we would be having an english wedding in a church which is what she want's

i suppose i am just worried about her mum, i just wanted to make sure i respected her faith

aaaw that so sweet, well best of luck to you both and may waheguru bless u with much contentment, peace and well being

[fatehe]

"One person lost, means a whole generation lost"

These types of marriages are on the rise.

[JustME]

"One person lost, means a whole generation lost"

These types of marriages are on the rise.

and a mixed marraige is now what constitutes becoming "lost" is it?

and once someone is "lost" u saying they cant ever be found?

:gg:

[Bahney]

Into The Light:

That really wasn't ever the dilemma, actually. His dilemma is approaching and taking into consideration the mothers spirituality, feelings, and mental well being... He is trying to make and keep peace with the entire family, instead of just thinking solely about his own self and doing whatever he pleases.

exactly that was my point! wish i had said that from the begining lol i mean her mum will not be bothered either way i think if i got her anything or not but i would hate for there to be a sikh tradition which i was not aware of and if i found out later that i should have gotten her something or done something then i would have felt guilty that i did not consider her beliefs before asking for her daughters hand in marrage...if you understand me, my sole aim here is to be respectful to everyone concerned and make sure that i do not offend anyone in the process sounds simple enough...lol

"One person lost, means a whole generation lost"

These types of marriages are on the rise.

i can understand your views on this, i suppose it all depends on the individual, my girlfriend is quite educated about relegions and knows proabibly as much as her mum about being a sikh, but she also knows a lot about christianity buddism and has one or two beliefs of her own, i suppose i am saying she has done enough reading and spoken to enough people to make her own mind up about her own beliefs, she believe's in god and believes in an afterlife and is a very compasionate and loving and caring person, she is a wonderful human being and someone who i adore with all my heart and soul. her being a sikh or any relegion would not change who she is or how much i care about her.

and i suppose at the end of the day we are all individuals and we all have the right to choose or own belief's and rightly or wrongly no one can change that. and in the same breath we all have our own views and opinions which we are entitled to which is why i respect what you have said as your own view and your own opinion and even though i dont agree with it i will not deny anyone there own opinion

and a mixed marraige is now what constitutes becoming "lost" is it?

and once someone is "lost" u saying they cant ever be found?

:gg:

a very valid point, thank you.

and i would like to thank the kind messages i have had as well in pm, you have all been very kind and i have been more then a little taken back by the kind words and good will sent my way, Thank you all very much

lets just hope she says yes!!

[Bahney]

she said yes

[naujawanidotcom]

Congratulations! Perhaps when you have children you might return to heed some Sikh advice about the Punjab? It'd be nice to know where there nanny came from!! (I bet your thinking, one step at a time mate!!)

Wishing you the very best in your future!

[kuthaman]

she said yes

Congrads and since I guess your kinda marrying into a Sikh family I urge you to explore the mission of Guru Nanak. I am sure you can learn a lot and it will enrich your life.

Best of Luck!!!

[JustME]

she said yes

aaaaaaaaaaaaaw! Waheguru

congratulations.........may waheguru keep u and your financee in high spirits and bless you both much much love, contentment and spirituality.........

Waheguru!!