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Gurfatheh Khalsa ji..

i'm sure everyones had their own experiences of having racist or silly things said about them.. recently i've had more so than usual, and daas was wondering what would be the right thing to say to the people that say these things? baring in mind they are 16/17 year old goreh and wouldn't care about anything that stood in their way...i dont want to end up starting anything, i just want to be prepared incase this gets worse...part of me just thinks to forget what people say when racist things are said because at the end of the day maharaj ji is by my side all the time...but then it hurts that they are purely like this because of maharajs dastaar, i'm the only singhni in college, and some people aren't so open to that idea it seems..:closedeyes: ...really would appreciate some replies, thank you piyaario..

[Koi 554]

Gurfatheh Khalsa ji..

i'm sure everyones had their own experiences of having racist or silly things said about them.. recently i've had more so than usual, and daas was wondering what would be the right thing to say to the people that say these things? baring in mind they are 16/17 year old goreh and wouldn't care about anything that stood in their way...i dont want to end up starting anything, i just want to be prepared incase this gets worse...part of me just thinks to forget what people say when racist things are said because at the end of the day maharaj ji is by my side all the time...but then it hurts that they are purely like this because of maharajs dastaar, i'm the only singhni in college, and some people aren't so open to that idea it seems.. :closedeyes: ...really would appreciate some replies, thank you piyaario..

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Firstly, Bhain Ji, It makes me very happy that you are keeping your Dastaar, even though you are the only one in your college to do so :vaheguru: .

As far as the racist comments are concerned, you NEED to keep your teachers (and parents) informed about this. Wearing a dastaar means you belong to the Guru, you are special. VERY FEW Sikh Girls (especially at your age) can do this. And yes, you may need to accept the fact that you will be given racist remarks all of your life. However, you cannot let this affect you. BUT THIS DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVE TO PUT UP WITH IT! Especially in college situations. Keep your teachers informed, have faith in Waheguru.

"If someone wrongs you, bare it. Bare it three times, and God himself will fight for you the fourth time" (Sri Guru Amar Daas Ji)

Sri Akaal Ji Sahai

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

[TruSoul 3]

What people don’t understand they are scared of, which makes them offensive and put up a guard.

Like the post above, you need to inform your teacher(s), Parents and even report it to the police (just in case it gets worse).

Keep a log of what’s said, by who and when, even description of the person, even tho you don’t know their names.

I had a very similar situation with my little sisters she went to a all white school she became very distant from family and friends as a result of the racial bullying. We knew something was wrong, but she wouldn’t open up. Until, she broke down on day. I felt so angry, really wanted to knock some heads together. But violence isn't always the answer.

The school said they would do this and that, but made no real effort to tackle the issue.

So i decided to start picking her up after school every day for a few weeks and just making a presence outside the school.

Think i must have scared the bullies, because shes not had any problems since. I try to pick her up when i can, to make sure they don’t forget she’s got a big scary brother .

Try telling your college see if they can help, if you’re getting no joy report it to the police, take your log with you.

Worse case, you’ve got a lot of scary looking brothers that will be willing to help. :D .

[Barfi n Mithai 45]

I think racist is the wrong word....you mean prejudiced. I used to get called turbanator.....and apple head!!

Anyways speak to ure headteacher. Tell them the names and he will chat to them. All they will do is hate you but they cannot call u names because the headteacher has said if you tell him they have said anything, no matter how small, he will expel them on the spot and they won't get GCSE's, he won't give them a reference and he will make sure no school accepts them and the police will be told as its verbal assault etc.. So tell ure head teacher. Make sure he scares them properly!

And its actually really good when this happens....as they stay out of ure way. They will hate you and you know that but who cares - they cannot do anything and its not like you wanted to be their friend!

And later on at uni and when you go to work people are really nice. I only ever got bullied at school. I found that if I worked hard in my exams and got to a good uni everyone loved me. I think its because you finally get to meet intelligent people whereas as school you still have the dumb people around.

And to show this a Gora asked me to pronounce my name in the proper punjabi accent and told me off for saying it in the English way! It was so funny but once you meet clever people they are really open minded and interested in new cultures. So my advice is to carry on going, tell ure teacher and one day you'll leave the dumb people behind!

[TruSoul 3]

I think racist is the wrong word....you mean prejudiced. I used to get called turbanator.....and apple head!!

Anyways speak to ure headteacher. Tell them the names and he will chat to them. All they will do is hate you but they cannot call u names because the headteacher has said if you tell him they have said anything, no matter how small, he will expel them on the spot and they won't get GCSE's, he won't give them a reference and he will make sure no school accepts them and the police will be told as its verbal assault etc.. So tell ure head teacher. Make sure he scares them properly!

And its actually really good when this happens....as they stay out of ure way. They will hate you and you know that but who cares - they cannot do anything....its not like you wanted to be their friend. You just wanted them to stay out of ure way and they will! And later on at uni and when you go to work people are really nice. But in my experience you have to go to a top uni and get a top job because people in small jobs still get bullied because they have not met the intelligent people who can see beyond your dastaar, who are open to new cultures, who like travelling etc.

I only ever got bullied at school. I found that if I worked hard in my exams and got to a good uni everyone loved me. I think its because you finally get to meet intelligent people whereas as school you still have the dumb people around. And to show this a Gora asked me to pronounce my name in the proper punjabi accent and told me off that I was saying it in the English way! It was so funny but once you meet clever people they are really open minded and interested. So my advice is to carry on going, you'll leave the dumb people behind!

We don’t know the extent of the comments, they could well be racist remarks.

I agree, with Barfi'. It does get better when you get to uni.

Iv been working for almost 5 years, as a IT contractor. I have to date encountered racism twice out of the 10+ companies iv worked for.

The worse was Sandwell NHS PCT, the snr manager rang my mobile without knowing, left me a voice mail lasting a good few mins. Talking to someone else, about me saying various racial remarks.

The second was in Goa, the Indians didn’t realise that i knew hindi. I got called various crap again.

So regardless, you will encounter racism though out your life. It makes you stronger mentally, you need to just stay professional and deal with it the right way. * Few kidney punches do help .. joking *

[Harvinder singh Babbar 0]

if i was u i wud go and give them a smack in the mouth and set a standard for the rest so that they know u wont take crap from any1. fateh

[Guest Guest13]

Fighting is the issue.. im sure next time they see a person with a dastar they will think twice before saying anything.. you may think fighting aint the issue but taking the pi$$ out of a dastar is out of order you let them carry on they will carry on and will makes remark to every1 thinking its funny..

mainly tell me where u from what school

i wear a dastar got plenty of racist comments and took em all out now no1 says anything

[Singhson 0]

The best you can do is ignore them. Don't say anything back 'cos you're better than that. Plus, you don't want to drop to their level do you.

If it carries on then tell your tutor.

[Guest Guest]

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Do chaupai sahib and Jaap sahib.

[RaamSimar 0]

I watched this film about how society is all about how to fit in. This is a load of bull.

What if the society is corrupt and misled?

[Kaljug Singh 46]

Take all the practical measure suggested above.

On a more personal level, read Chandi di // with your morning nitnem, and sharpen and clean your kirpan every week or so. ;-)

[kookar88 0]

bhenjee .. do ardas and take hukamnama .... and do what guru ji says =)

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(well done for not getting urself affected by these people .. u r taking care of guru jis crown .. guru ji will take care of u )

[Guptkaur1 23]

haha ^^ agree!!

I really do think you need to do someething about it. Maybe give em a few smacks. Once when i was at secondary school,this girl called me a paki and i grabbed her and smacked her in the face.(i was young) but ever since then,no1s ever said anything! but i dunno,it took me a long time to actually build up the courage to do that,it wasnt the first time something like that was said. If you can't..fair enough..but i think its probs the best thing to do.

Are they girls or boys btw?/ a load of singhs n singhnia should go into your college one day/They wont mess with you then!

[Goli Da Vair Sada 3]

wat college do u go to? maybe some 1 here is from the same area. they could help you if needed.

im not sure if what your saying is that people are saying rascist remarks to you in some kind of malicious way or if they are just generally making comments that are wrong because they dont know any better or what it is to wear a dastar.

if its the first 1 then obviously there just trouble makers that probally do need to get sorted out because this kind of thing can get worse. to be honest though i wouldnt suggest that you fight over name calling especially if your on your own against many unless your sure you can defend yourself or you feel that it has to be done.

if its the second 1 then just explain to them how they are wrong, im sure when they know it will stop. just stay safe and pick the times to say tings wisely.

[Jag_s 0]

vjkk vjkf!

Bhainji being a 17 year old myself the only advice that i can give you that seems to have worked for me.. is to jus play along... they only enjoy it when they see that it bugs you.. if you joke around and show them that it doesn't bother you, then they will gradually stop by them selves.. i wear a dastar too and i've been called a turbanator which yes it offended me at first but when i actually thought about it... that sounds pretty cool "TURBANATOR"... and another thing i've noticed is if your comfortable with your religion n you express youself then people are cool with it... i usually take roti to school.. blasting kirtan from my ipod.. everyone knows wht kirtan is and a tabla, vaja, and so on.... without even forcing or trying to teach anyone about sikhi.. jus by how i act at school.. they want to learn n i jus let them know about wht i know.. so wht im saying is jus take it easy... spread sikhi without forcing it.. and by doing so ... im sure you'll have fun listening to kirtan and eating roti... and you be more happy.. it will create a desire to get closer to vaheguru in that way.. so jus wanna say good luck!

bhul chuk maaf

vjkk vjkf!