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[pedrorizzo]

I hear that!

I've seen so many do that. Our guys used to be proper masculine warriors, nowerdays they seem to struggle with it in the 21st century. Can't blame them in one respect, if they act like typical male Panjabis they are 'Neanderthal cavemen' if they try to be more sensitive they become the honorary 'paan ji' you speak of.

Tough times.

A guy knows he is a 'paan ji' when the girl goes, "your so cool, I can talk to you about ANYTHING, you're like one of my girlfriends......." :wow:

Sikh boys nowadays are so needy and so desperate for the company of women, that they will settle for any level of relationship/friendship, even if they have to act like a brother or even sister as you put it lol to get close enough... what a joke

[californiasardar1]

Sikh boys nowadays are so needy and so desperate for the company of women, that they will settle for any level of relationship/friendship, even if they have to act like a brother or even sister as you put it lol to get close enough... what a joke

I didn't know that this was common among Sikh boys (I assume you are talking about guys who keep their kesh).

Anyway, it's tough in our culture for men to meet women in a "proper" way. Less religious functions (parties, clubs, etc.) are likely to have women not interested in Singhs. And it feels inappropriate to try to meet girls are more religious functions. I guess that leaves friendship as an option (since there doesn't seem to be a good setting to just approach a girl). But ending up emasculated is just bad and should definitely be avoided.

[californiasardar1]

Here's another problem with Sikh boys in America: they don't take any care in their appearance.

I see too many young men wearing patkas or very sloppy, unimpressive paghs. This gives the kesh-keeping Sikh an unfavorable general image. They become stereotyped as guys who don't take any care in their appearance. At least in India men attempt to tie proper paghs and make them fashionable.

[VanHelsingh]

All this posturing and preening to attract a fickle female for reproductive purposes and fulfil a key aspect of being a good Sikh.

I'm joking, guys. But it is depressing reading some of these first-hand accounts from fellow forummers.