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tell me here pls?

Mukti Nama says: 'Gursikh should marry Gursikh', but the Gott ( surname) of mother and Gott of father has to be avoided.

i.e. Satnam Singh has father's surname 'Jones' and Mother's surname 'Smith'. On that basis, Satnam Singh CANNOT marry anyone with the surnames 'Jones' or 'Smith'.

Does that clarify Guru Ji's Hukum?....

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It doesnt make it any different it one family was from the sun , and the other the moon. It still against the culture of Panjab, and jatts especially. Even Khatris avoid same ghotra marriage.

depends on the region. The further west the Khatris lived, they adopted the customs of the Muslim population such as marrying cousins and doing watta satta. The the ones from central and eastern Punjab did not.

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Mukti Nama says: 'Gursikh should marry Gursikh', but the Gott ( surname) of mother and Gott of father has to be avoided.

i.e. Satnam Singh has father's surname 'Jones' and Mother's surname 'Smith'. On that basis, Satnam Singh CANNOT marry anyone with the surnames 'Jones' or 'Smith'.

Does that clarify Guru Ji's Hukum?....

No... I mean Give me some Genuine links/scriptures/notes of this hukam Where I can Read the same thing.....

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Mukti Nama says: 'Gursikh should marry Gursikh', but the Gott ( surname) of mother and Gott of father has to be avoided.

i.e. Satnam Singh has father's surname 'Jones' and Mother's surname 'Smith'. On that basis, Satnam Singh CANNOT marry anyone with the surnames 'Jones' or 'Smith'.

Does that clarify Guru Ji's Hukum?....

Please clarify why would Guru Gobind Singh Ji Maharaj give us Singh and Kaur as names and then specify non marriage of same Gotra....I am non punjabi and names in west are based on fathers name (Jones is John;s Son) and others are work based so (smith would be a smithy ie blacksmith) So most Jones wont be related even remotely because they are son of john...there are many Johns - the same with smith. Lets be honest here if you are not marrying anyone thats your sibling, first cousin of parent/uncles/aunties then surely the genetic mutation thing goes out the window? Based on this your great great great grandfather could be the same as your partners great great great grandfather and its still wrong? Really? Surely you should marry the person thats going to have the strongest Sikh jeevan than just ones that appease your family?

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I agree with this post about not being from the same pind. As long as you are not related, it really should not matter.

Infact there are some last names that intermarry. Such as Brars, Sidhus and Gills. I have two massi that are married (my mom's cousins) to men with the same last name. These were arranged marriages.

It is a cultural thing....but some districts like bhatinda...most of those people are Brar's and Sidhus...who marry each other.

So really its about that. Apparently...the Punjab politician "Badal"...is from the pind Badal...but he is a Dhillon...who's daughter is married to a Dhillon as well...

People are really not caring about this anymore, as it is hard to find good people out there.

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I agree with this post about not being from the same pind. As long as you are not related, it really should not matter.

Infact there are some last names that intermarry. Such as Brars, Sidhus and Gills. I have two massi that are married (my mom's cousins) to men with the same last name. These were arranged marriages.

It is a cultural thing....but some districts like bhatinda...most of those people are Brar's and Sidhus...who marry each other.

So really its about that. Apparently...the Punjab politician "Badal"...is from the pind Badal...but he is a Dhillon...who's daughter is married to a Dhillon as well...

People are really not caring about this anymore, as it is hard to find good people out there.

when will you people get rid of your backward, tribal tail names and adapt only SINGH and Kaur as your last names??????????????

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