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Why Do Amratdhari Girls Wanna Move Out?

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Fateh Ji, this is something that is bugging me a lot, I am 28 years old amratdhari singh and last year I started to look for a partner, I had to marry within cast as this was the only the issue my family would have, so I met with elder singhs and they found me a Bibi, all was well and when the family's sat down all I asked was that I would like to live with my parents and look after them, in the past I looked after me Bibi who suffered with dementia and was bed bound to cut a long story short I had to quit my job and studies to look after her full time, eg the reason why I wanna look after my parents down the line. So the girl I met agreed to this we set a date and now one year down the line I'm looking at a divorce! My wife stopped my sisters coming to the house and didn't do much around the house the cleaning was done by me as I was the only child in the house I did it to ease the stress of my mum,I felt as if my inlaws filled Her head in with crap and they even told me I do to much for her! So was it a bad relationship for her? in the end she said I hit and was abusing her, I think she always wanted to have my attention which in real life is virtually impossible, as things escalated on and I didn't give in to her demands my wife accused me of hitting her! But when I offered to put my hand on a gutka to prove that I didn't she later said I didn't do the things that she accused me of Doing, in my head I think she wanted me to herself and in the long run I would have had to move out as my family was angry with her for causing problems for no reason? Anyway sorry for the long message and rant, hopefully maharaj will bless me with getting remarried and if not il always have my guru with me.

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wahegurujikakhalsawahegurujikifateh

singh i cannot solve your home problems but everything is in bhana

NOTE:- never ever and i mean ever swear on guru sahib or gurubani. its restricted .

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Your right singh but If someone accuses you of a thing that can get you sent down then what can you do? In a society wheres courts would believe the women over a man, not only that if I was ever to get remarried I would like my slate to be clean whereas walking around with domestic violence allegation on me

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Your right singh but If someone accuses you of a thing that can get you sent down then what can you do? In a society wheres courts would believe the women over a man, not only that if I was ever to get remarried I would like my slate to be clean whereas walking around with domestic violence allegation on me

Veer ji,

In this country UK , if a woman brings a false accusation and it is found out she will get a case on her for wasting police time and probably more . Anyways, keep up with your Banis and your good character , people know you for that and will automatically dismiss her silliness . We had similar 'mudslinging' going on in our family and the female was also from India , maybe it's the software they are loaded up with these days , the person she accused has NEVER been known for that kind of behaviour with anyone so everyone knew instantly what her game was. Her justification was that her bhabhi told her in-laws are like this and like that , but the truth was in her situation the inlaws were good people who honestly treated her better than own kids. Truth will always come out...stay in chardikala

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She's lied she's is no Singhni.

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She is not true singhni. Don't worry guru Ji is with you. Make your relationship more strong with guru Ji. Please keep yourself in adole avast. True amritdhari bibi cannot break her relationship. Both husband and wife keep support to each in every where in good and b d times.

Guru fateh chore veer.

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She is not true singhni. Don't worry guru Ji is with you. Make your relationship more strong with guru Ji. Please keep yourself in adole avast. True amritdhari bibi cannot break her relationship. Both husband and wife keep support to each in every where in good and b d times.

Guru fateh chore veer.

What is Adole Avastha? Can someone please explain this?

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What is Adole Avastha? Can someone please explain this?

To stay composed and calm in spite of difficult circumstances.

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What is Adole Avastha? Can someone please explain this?

Adol is two words: dol- (waver from dolna the d is the letter duda)

A-dol= not wavering

Avastha= state

Unwavering state= stableness, equipoise

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Better to move out anyways and have your own space. You don't have to live miles and miles away, but just having that little bit of separation and your own room helps alot.

My thinking is same as your Pritpalsingh1 in the way that I'd like to be there to look after my parents. But with us, my mother (who is amritdhari), comes out with typical silly punjabi Sass stuff and eventually it just got too much.

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