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Trust me, the anger and heartache is not worth it.

I've been here and done this before. I've learnt from my mistakes.

In all honesty, you need to keep doing what you're doing in the right way and keep your head down at the same time. This will add to your character and test your personal resolve.

You will be a stronger person for acknowledging that there may be some negativity towards you in some way, but you have to fight it by being quiet and ignoring it.

I have been in exactly the same situation. I took the wrong path and let my heat inside me burn so much that i do regret some of the things that i did. I did what you were thinking of doing, i smashed up a section of the open office. Computers, screens, desks, mugs, you name it - i let it all out. I had very heated exchanges with my Boss in the open office and accused him of discrimination. I confronted my Boss and asked him to his face about having a problem with me - i like to be honest and share my feelings and it did not work, just got lies and excuses and denial from him. I drove one of the company cars straight into his car in the carpark at high speed. I did some stupid things and i'm honestly going to tell you not to do stuff like that. It's not worth it when you look back.

If you cant manage to keep quiet and may feel as though you shouldn't have to isolate yourself from everyone, then you need to elevate your experience firstly to the HR department and then become a member of the Union and have a representative to give you advice if you want to go public and make an official complaint.

First and foremost, just remember that you are not guilty of anything, just keep your head down and do the work. Keep calm and get advice from the correct channels. Just like Bhenji said above, you need to ask God why this is happening and listen to the answer - which will be to do the right thing and not stoop to a level you have never to before. Just be a decent person at work and support the team. There are always going to be haters, but it takes a change in your attitude to never think like that, as long as you know you are doing the right thing.

Bhul Chukk Maaf

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Bhaji

Trust me, the anger and heartache is not worth it.

I've been here and done this before. I've learnt from my mistakes.

In all honesty, you need to keep doing what you're doing in the right way and keep your head down at the same time. This will add to your character and test your personal resolve.

You will be a stronger person for acknowledging that there may be some negativity towards you in some way, but you have to fight it by being quiet and ignoring it.

I have been in exactly the same situation. I took the wrong path and let my heat inside me burn so much that i do regret some of the things that i did. I did what you were thinking of doing, i smashed up a section of the open office. Computers, screens, desks, mugs, you name it - i let it all out. I had very heated exchanges with my Boss in the open office and accused him of discrimination. I confronted my Boss and asked him to his face about having a problem with me - i like to be honest and share my feelings and it did not work, just got lies and excuses and denial from him. I drove one of the company cars straight into his car in the carpark at high speed. I did some stupid things and i'm honestly going to tell you not to do stuff like that. It's not worth it when you look back.

If you cant manage to keep quiet and may feel as though you shouldn't have to isolate yourself from everyone, then you need to elevate your experience firstly to the HR department and then become a member of the Union and have a representative to give you advice if you want to go public and make an official complaint.

First and foremost, just remember that you are not guilty of anything, just keep your head down and do the work. Keep calm and get advice from the correct channels. Just like Bhenji said above, you need to ask God why this is happening and listen to the answer - which will be to do the right thing and not stoop to a level you have never to before. Just be a decent person at work and support the team. There are always going to be haters, but it takes a change in your attitude to never think like that, as long as you know you are doing the right thing.

Bhul Chukk Maaf

What job were u doing at the time , did u find a better job

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I was an IT Consultant and i took my job seriously.

My end result was to take action via HR and get a union rep on my side. We had meetings upon meetings and most of it was fabricated by his denial, then i took the initiative to just keep quiet and carry on doing my job. That Manager knew he couldn't handle me, but i didn't want to intimidate him, because i knew at the time i could easily take his head of, but i wouldn't resolve anything.

I didn't give into his powers, but i changed my attitude and learned to ignore him. I humbled myself and ask God - if this is the way its meant to be, then let it be - i knew i was the stronger person. Not that i wanted to prove my strength, but i felt that i was being oppressed for no reason or fault of my own. I like to stand up against that kind of stuff and i always will do, there's just a way of doing it correctly.

At the end of the day, you see these people 40+ hours a week, so you don't want any friction at all. Just leave people to be how they are and do your own thing.

Best of luck with it all.


I moved on and found a better job later on. He was not the reason for the change at all, but i just excelled to a different level.

Even if i was still in the same job with the same manager, i have the strength to look past these things. The more you may think about it, the more you may even attract. Surround yourself with positive energy. Be chardi kalaa at all times.

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Document it - EVERYTHING with time/date/witness etc !!!!

Make sure you print copies of any incriminating or relevant emails/memos as they come in, and take them home!

A common tactic is to start disciplinary proceedings against someone and bar them from the work premises including accessing emails, they'll even stop you accessing them from home! Then they might get the IT dept. to 'tidy up' incriminating emails etc. Then you end up short of evidence that supports your case at any tribunal in future.

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