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Waheguru ji ka khalsa

 

waheguru ji ki fateh 

im in 7th grade and a a couple of days ago I  this new amritdhari girl came in my class and I got a crush on her. I don't want to have a girlfriend right now but my mind won't let go of her. What should I do?? 

(Pls keep my identity gupt)

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On 2017-6-24 at 11:55 PM, Guest Manjit singh said:

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

 

waheguru ji ki fateh 

im in 7th grade and a a couple of days ago I  this new amritdhari girl came in my class and I got a crush on her. I don't want to have a girlfriend right now but my mind won't let go of her. What should I do?? 

(Pls keep my identity gupt)

take a cold shower :p 

 

nah but in all seriousness that's perfectly natural in a boy your age. Just relax and don't act on it, rather than falling for her redirect that love to Akaal Purkh. Bhai Gurdas Ji said there were many Premis (lovers) in the world (Heer-Ranjha, Majnu-Lehila etc) but none can even compare to loving the Lord.

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On 6/24/2017 at 6:55 PM, Guest Manjit singh said:

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

 

waheguru ji ki fateh 

im in 7th grade and a a couple of days ago I  this new amritdhari girl came in my class and I got a crush on her. I don't want to have a girlfriend right now but my mind won't let go of her. What should I do?? 

(Pls keep my identity gupt)

Try to analyze and smajaa ur mind. Like why do you like her mind? Is it because shes pretty? Well beauty fades and we all become old and ugly. So beauty is just a trap and mind u should be ashamed to have fallen for such a simple trick of maya. As that beauty is really just skin, bones, hair, blood, and guts arranged in a certain way to trick us. And if we really must admire beauty, why not admire the one who designed the beautiful mountains, streams, rivers, which have no parallel. The beautiful One from which all creation comes from, Waheguru

Is it because of her good qualities? Then love the qualities not the person they adorn. Try to adopt those good qualities yourself. Because God is the source, he is all Goodness, so all good qualities flow from him. So imagine how beautiful, how Good waheguru is! The one who created all the goodness in the world.only he is worthy of falling in love. As that love will purify us and make us as Great, Good, and beautiful as waheguru is. 

Is it because she is amritdhari? In that case thank the guru who accepted all of us mere humans and made us singhs and kaurs. He trusted us to be the best khalsa, to not be like other mere humans, engrossed in worldly things. Instead compete with the girl for the gurus affection. If she wears a dastaar, you wear a dumalla. Is she does nitnem, u do nitnem plus simran. If she wakes up at 4am, u wake up at 3am. You know ur mind is engrossed in thinking of her, use that to make urself a better sikh. Start working out, do more paath and simran. Do ardaas to guruji to make you a true sikh, who gets over this crush.

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On 2017-6-25 at 4:25 AM, Guest Manjit singh said:

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

 

waheguru ji ki fateh 

im in 7th grade and a a couple of days ago I  this new amritdhari girl came in my class and I got a crush on her. I don't want to have a girlfriend right now but my mind won't let go of her. What should I do?? 

(Pls keep my identity gupt)

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

Manjit at your age you should be playing sports & competing with your mates on xbox/playstation.

Keep your self busy. Take up a hobby ie drone flying, skating, learn to play a guitar.

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

P.S - If her brothers come to know they might beat you up so better stay away !

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On 6/24/2017 at 6:55 PM, Guest Manjit singh said:

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

 

waheguru ji ki fateh 

im in 7th grade and a a couple of days ago I  this new amritdhari girl came in my class and I got a crush on her. I don't want to have a girlfriend right now but my mind won't let go of her. What should I do?? 

(Pls keep my identity gupt)

You are in 7th grade, and expecting what from a crush? You just reached puberty most likely, so almost everything your feeling is probably just hormonal. At your age you'll probably have 100s of crushes by the time your done with your education, you just had your first crush later than most people. In the very best case scenario, she might think you're attractive as well, but if you are going to be having relationships, it won't really help any of you, since this age is hormonal changes. 

If in the future she does become your future wife, that will happen then with Guru Sahib making it happen, but for now, focus on something that makes you happy, (and if you can't control your feelings, try not being to close to her).

Do your Bhagti and Amrit Velas, some Seva and grow with Guru Sahib. 😇:waheguru:

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On 6/24/2017 at 11:55 PM, Guest Manjit singh said:

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

 

waheguru ji ki fateh 

im in 7th grade and a a couple of days ago I  this new amritdhari girl came in my class and I got a crush on her. I don't want to have a girlfriend right now but my mind won't let go of her. What should I do?? 

(Pls keep my identity gupt)

Take a cold shower and concentrate on your studies.

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Its kaam which is saying you to do so, 

Remember this thing always, never go beyond friendship, plus atleast if you are having problem atleast dnt distract her.

Breaking someone's right direction is the biggest sin you can do. 

Dnt let kalyug take over your mind.

Beyond frndship is not acceptable. 

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