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At school all my friends have turned their back on me and no one listens to anything I say. I've always been nice to my friends but they just bully me and say I'm too weird to be their friend. Why is Waheguru doing this to me! I do paath and always help others. But now my life is so miserable! I'm a girl in grade 9. Everyday I cry and all I ever hear are rumors about me! No one listens to me and my mom thinks I'm lying! Is Waheguru listening to me? Is there any shabad or paath to help me? I feel so alone and miserable. I have restless nights because I'm scared to wake up and face another terrible day. Sometimes I wish I could just die in my sleep! I cry myself to sleep every night. Even when I do paath it's like Waheguru isn't listening. Please help me, what should I do? I have posted the same thing to another sikhi forum, I would really just like some advice. Thank you so much. Wjkk Wjkf

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Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh

Am sorry to know that you are being bullied, kid there are some things which are part of growing up n schooling which is normal but some stuff should be reported to teachers, parents & counsellors.

So if things are getting out of your hand speak to your elder siblings, cousins. They might have been in the same situation as you are.

Anyway below are some links that will help cope 

http://www.basicsofsikhi.com/?qna=how-do-i-deal-with-bullying-at-school-for-being-sikh-kaurs-united-camp-qa-8

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa 

Waheguru ji ki Fateh

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Ja Tu Mere Val Hai Tha Kya Mushundha... Mahraj is Always with You Sweetheart. Be brave and follow the Path you were Destined for. Beileve me When you are Done with School These People Will Not Even be Worth a Thought and You Will have Learnt so much and You My dear will come out a better person... Why? Becuase Mahraj Is Truly With You

STAY STRONG BEAUTIFUL.O:)

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On 07/07/2017 at 4:24 PM, Guest Sikh said:

At school all my friends have turned their back on me and no one listens to anything I say. I've always been nice to my friends but they just bully me and say I'm too weird to be their friend. Why is Waheguru doing this to me! I do paath and always help others. But now my life is so miserable! I'm a girl in grade 9. Everyday I cry and all I ever hear are rumors about me! No one listens to me and my mom thinks I'm lying! Is Waheguru listening to me? Is there any shabad or paath to help me? I feel so alone and miserable. I have restless nights because I'm scared to wake up and face another terrible day. Sometimes I wish I could just die in my sleep! I cry myself to sleep every night. Even when I do paath it's like Waheguru isn't listening. Please help me, what should I do? I have posted the same thing to another sikhi forum, I would really just like some advice. Thank you so much. Wjkk Wjkf

I understand what you are going through.  This happens to many teens.  You do paath and this is a very good thing.  Don't give up doing paath.  You repetively asked.....is Vaheguru listening to me.  There surely is a comfort in life knowing people respect and like you.  Everyone wants to be liked.  Its a common feeling.  I suggest you take a second and listen to the paath you are doing.  By this I mean, paath brings good feeling in a person.  The mind feels refreshed, alert to the Naam in your environment and an overall feeling of happiness; content with what Guru Sahib has given you by reading the shabad.  After doing paath, it sounds to me you still feel empty inside, sad and frustrated.  So what can you do to improve your experience as you do paath?  When you watch your favorite show or a movie you think that will be really good your mind is completely focused on keeping track of what happened, who did what, how it was done, how the plot was revealed, etc.  After you finish the show or movie you are again thinking about how great of an episode or movie it was to watch.  You tell others and really want them to experience the good feeling you received from watching it.  Now apply the same to doing paath.  Focus on what Guru Sahib is telling you with interest.  Capture the picture Guru Sahib is painting in the shabad.  Listen to the shabad repeatedly and read the shabads multiple times.  Pay close attention to what words Guru Sahib is using and where the pause comes.  Internalize the shabads or shabads by telling your mind over and over what Guru Sahib had said in the shabad.  By doing so, you will realize, you needed to listen to what Guru Sahib is telling you.  Guru Sahib has been listening to you all this time, but when Guru Sahib was speaking through the paath you are doing, you were not paying attention.  As you start paying attention, you will become aware of your true friends.  Each Gurbani shabad is your true friend.  They are always with you, when you need a helping hand.  They helped bhai mani Singh ji when he was being cut limb from limb. They took his pain away. They came to the rescue of Bhagat Naamdev ji and Bhagat Prahlaad ji.  So many have been helped by Gurbani shabads.  I understand you are in grade 9 and having a classmate to socialize with is a great feeling and helps with overall social life at school.  For now try not to think about it and focus on listening to kirtan and reading paath.  Gurbani kirtan is very strong and can get rid of unwanted feelings.  

There are many shabads on youtube.  Here is one of the many that comes to mind

 

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First of it important to tell teachers/ elders what you're going thru and your feelings.

Second, do you do Rakhia di shabd followed by kirtan sohila b4 sleeping? Do this with devotion then there will be an effect of it the following day. This effect will be for the better and will certainly last.

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Is there any sikh organisation that helps kids like this? It's a serious issue, the way the child has spoken reflects the severity of it. 

There must be a professional sikh counselling service? 

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VJKK VJKF

I am in grade 9 too and I really understand where you are coming from. Even I used to be bullied and you know what helped me? Doing Dasam bani helps so much and you can feel the bir-ras in it. It makes you much stronger. I used to be bullied because I didn't do my eyebrows and I had a really light monobrow. It just shows how backwards the world is. I really recommend doing Dasam bani. Listen to it or do it. Its ridiculous how much I can relate.

 

 

VJKK VJKF

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Admin once again, posting details for kids like these would be a great seva. Please can you put stickies with info of organizations that they can speak to?

 

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On 02/12/2017 at 12:47 AM, LightofNaam said:

Is there any sikh organisation that helps kids like this? It's a serious issue, the way the child has spoken reflects the severity of it. 

There must be a professional sikh counselling service? 

 

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9 hours ago, Guest Kaur 2 said:

VJKK VJKF

I am in grade 9 too and I really understand where you are coming from. Even I used to be bullied and you know what helped me? Doing Dasam bani helps so much and you can feel the bir-ras in it. It makes you much stronger. I used to be bullied because I didn't do my eyebrows and I had a really light monobrow. It just shows how backwards the world is. I really recommend doing Dasam bani. Listen to it or do it. Its ridiculous how much I can relate.

 

 

VJKK VJKF

How are things now for you? Are you ok? 

Here’s some organisations if you or anybody else you know ever need them:

 

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9 hours ago, lostconfussedsingh said:

Yes there is get a kirpan and slash it across your tormenters eyes and chest be a brave lioness of Guru Gobind Singh Ji and give them hell

That’s not wise advise. She will end up in jail for doing that. There’s other ways of dealing with it. 

Are mods monitoring these posts? Why hasn’t anything been written for the above post? 

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17 hours ago, simran345 said:

How are things now for you? Are you ok? 

VJKK VJKF

I am completely fine now. Gurbani helped me so that's why I suggest it to everyone. To the OP I really hope things get better for you and Vaheguru answers your prayers.

VJKK VJKF

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3 hours ago, Guest Kaur 2 said:

VJKK VJKF

I am completely fine now. Gurbani helped me so that's why I suggest it to everyone. To the OP I really hope things get better for you and Vaheguru answers your prayers.

VJKK VJKF

That’s good to hear, you’re doing good by helping others too. 

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VJKK VJKF

12 hours ago, simran345 said:

That’s good to hear, you’re doing good by helping others too. 

I know what it feels like so I thought helping others will help them get through it.

VJKK VJKF

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Just remember it may feel difficult but when you look back it will just seem like a bad dream. The point is that bad times don't last forever, although it may feel like it at the time. Go through it and be patient that good times will come. Do plenty of Paath and Simran and Guru ji will sooner or later bless you with happiness.

Don't fail the test! This difficult time will pass eventually!

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