Here's why I am permanently boycotting this forum ...

[AjeetSingh2019 67]

Too much support for daughter-in-laws even when they have been known to create issues.

General low IQ of "sikhs" on this forum even on other topics because of which they are short-sighted.

DO NOT automatically assume girls are victims and boys and mother-in-laws are the villains. Many of you will also have a daughter in law some day . then we will see

This forum is a waste of time , and even on other sensible topics I have contributed a lot positively. But now its not worth it .

Keep up the feline sympathy up. See where this takes you all , certainly not sovereign khalistan I guess lol 

 

PS : How I have been vilified and demonized in the last thread, going to the extent of calling me a sociopath and narcissist . The people on this forum likes to conjure up things that don't exist, you all are crazy over conspiracy theories and see them where they don't exist, 

Story is simple : I am gay and married a woman and felt guilty for it , I married her not because I had a deliberate intention to destroy another person's life but because I had no other option, and I always felt I would give her best treatment because of the guilt i felt , however she soon showed her colors as well . Thats the only story. You can conjure up the rest. 

[Akalifauj 900]

This guy doesn't live in india or is not married.  He is gay and is here to gain sympathy for the gay community who are pushed to get married.  He made up the story of his marriage to a girl to gain sympathy.  

He knows gullible people are on this site and views this site.  So hes trying his very best to mislead people .  

Hes throwing a fit because his lies did not work on anyone.  Now like a typical gay person he will bad mouth everyone and leave.  

Sikhi will not change for those who cut hair and neither will it change for gay or any other sexual orientation.   

[Big_Tera 1,115]

8 hours ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

Too much support for daughter-in-laws even when they have been known to create issues.

General low IQ of "sikhs" on this forum even on other topics because of which they are short-sighted.

DO NOT automatically assume girls are victims and boys and mother-in-laws are the villains. Many of you will also have a daughter in law some day . then we will see

This forum is a waste of time , and even on other sensible topics I have contributed a lot positively. But now its not worth it .

Keep up the feline sympathy up. See where this takes you all , certainly not sovereign khalistan I guess lol 

 

PS : How I have been vilified and demonized in the last thread, going to the extent of calling me a sociopath and narcissist . The people on this forum likes to conjure up things that don't exist, you all are crazy over conspiracy theories and see them where they don't exist, 

Story is simple : I am gay and married a woman and felt guilty for it , I married her not because I had a deliberate intention to destroy another person's life but because I had no other option, and I always felt I would give her best treatment because of the guilt i felt , however she soon showed her colors as well . Thats the only story. You can conjure up the rest. 

Although I dont agree with all your posts and topics. You have said some good things. Just like other posters on here. .

People calling you all these names are self projecting. Ie its what they think of themselves so lumber these thoughts and comments onto other people

 Theres alot of people on here that like to jump on bandwagons and like to gang up on people. Its very childish and silly. Many are like sheep. Who will go with the crowd. 

To summarise

Many over exaggerate comments and come out with false statements based on wrongly looking at the situation in hand without taking a balanced view. Many are not trained to give advice here so are better off not saying nothing at all. I have seen many instances such mistersingh and others spouting oral diareah when having no idea what they are is taking about and should really be banned from the gupt section for being a liability and cauing unwanted distress. For giving out unbelievable and wrong advice based on their warped mind about issues they know nothing about.  While making all kinds of foolish assumptions about the advice seekers. 

It goes by the saying. 

If you have nothing good to say then dont say nothing at all. 

[MisterrSingh 3,435]

1 hour ago, Big_Tera said:

Although I dont agree with all your posts and topics. You have said some good things. Just like other posters on here. .

People calling you all these names are self projecting. Ie its what they think of themselves so lumber these thoughts and comments onto other people

 Theres alot of people on here that like to jump on bandwagons and like to gang up on people. Its very childish and silly. Many are like sheep. Who will go with the crowd. 

To summarise

Many over exaggerate comments and come out with false statements based on wrongly looking at the situation in hand without taking a balanced view. Many are not trained to give advice here so are better off not saying nothing at all. I have seen many instances such mistersingh and others spouting oral diareah when having no idea what they are is taking about and should really be banned from the gupt section for being a liability and cauing unwanted distress. For giving out unbelievable and wrong advice based on their warped mind about issues they know nothing about.  While making all kinds of foolish assumptions about the advice seekers. 

It goes by the saying. 

If you have nothing good to say then dont say nothing at all. 

To summarise:

"I see the various deficencies in myself that are raised during the discussions that people like Misterrsingh contribute to, but I'm so heavily in denial and afraid of the process of change and improvement I'd be forced to undergo that I'd rather pretend the people raising these issues are misinformed and ignorant than confront those issues in myself and become a better person. I'm also envious of people like Misterrsingh but I can't bring myself to admit such a thing because it would reveal various insecurities about my intellect and limited understanding of the world around me."

[MisterrSingh 3,435]

As for Ajeet, I'm not one to kick a man when he's down. I still maintain he's a decent guy who's made some poor decisions when faced with the unenviable issues in his life pertaining to his sexuality and related matters. Regardless of the belief that homosexuality is attributable to nature or nurture, the fact is that he IS gay, and I can only imagine the struggle of trying to come to terms with it all while trying to also deal with uniquely cultural and family issues impacted by his turbulent mental state. The daily constant battle going on his mind is probably unbearable for most people.

Where I diverge from his point of view is with his decision to seek a wife in order to satisfy the expectations of his parents. I would not have brought a woman into the situation (and I certainly wouldn't have borne an innocent child with that woman). Regardless of the pressure from external parties, I'd have been more than ready to labour under the mental anguish of my issues completely alone before I'd ever drag somebody into my conflicted life under duplicitous circumstances. I could never do that no matter how strong the forces acting upon me.

Now that he finds himself in a situation where I sense he feels suffocated and pressured into an ever stressful home life, I worry what he may resort to. Someone of a volatile emotional nature - such as effeminate gay men and shortsighted women - resort to desperate yet ill advised acts in the mistaken belief that they will find a solution to their problems. I can only advise that he doesn't increase the karmic burden on his shoulders in any way. I believe he's incapable of toughening up his state of mind because if it was on the cards it would've happened by how or at least the early stages of the process would've been instigated. Latching onto corrupt, decadent and misleading western ideologies is of no purpose to someone in his situation. He'll never find the answers in what passes for internet-fueled liberalism in this day and age. 

I wish him the best. I hope God blesses him with a solution to his problems.

[Ranjeet01 1,585]

When I tried to give him some advice, I told him to take accountability for his actions. 

I got accused of being homophobic. And a whole load of other abuse. 

If he just wants to air his problems and not want anyone to give any feedback he's better off contacting samaritans. 

Maybe he is better if going on a LGBT forum. If other gays tell him to sort himself out then he cannot accuse them of being homophobic. 

[kcmidlands 144]

15 hours ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

 I am gay and married a woman and felt guilty for it

Then expects not to be criticised, if you can't be honest with yourself what do you expect from others.

[Akalifauj 900]

35 minutes ago, kcmidlands said:

Then expects not to be criticised, if you can't be honest with yourself what do you expect from others.

People use this phrase when talking about Sikhi, "be honest with yourself".  Majority of the time it is placed in the context of follow your prime instincts as it was in the above post.  Which is working against Sikhi because the Guru is taking a person away from prime instincts and the Sikh is to follow the Guru's teachings.   

 

 

[Guest GuestSingh]

op ur jus an attention seeker cuz this aint the first tym uve sed n dun this before.

if ur gna go then leave for gd otherwise take a break from this forum, sort ur problems out then cum bk wen things r better.

[Big_Tera 1,115]

I think we should give ajeet  break. He is a grown man and knows and realises he has made some mistakes. But why keep going on and lecturing the guy. 

Im sure non of us are perfect and have some skeltons in tje closet. Would we be brave enough to come online and tell all. 

Know we would rather hide and pretend we are perfect. Get a grip and realise that we all have done wrong in the past. 

 

[AjeetSingh2019 67]

9 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

As for Ajeet, I'm not one to kick a man when he's down. I still maintain he's a decent guy who's made some poor decisions when faced with the unenviable issues in his life pertaining to his sexuality and related matters. Regardless of the belief that homosexuality is attributable to nature or nurture, the fact is that he IS gay, and I can only imagine the struggle of trying to come to terms with it all while trying to also deal with uniquely cultural and family issues impacted by his turbulent mental state. The daily constant battle going on his mind is probably unbearable for most people.

Where I diverge from his point of view is with his decision to seek a wife in order to satisfy the expectations of his parents. I would not have brought a woman into the situation (and I certainly wouldn't have borne an innocent child with that woman). Regardless of the pressure from external parties, I'd have been more than ready to labour under the mental anguish of my issues completely alone before I'd ever drag somebody into my conflicted life under duplicitous circumstances. I could never do that no matter how strong the forces acting upon me.

Now that he finds himself in a situation where I sense he feels suffocated and pressured into an ever stressful home life, I worry what he may resort to. Someone of a volatile emotional nature - such as effeminate gay men and shortsighted women - resort to desperate yet ill advised acts in the mistaken belief that they will find a solution to their problems. I can only advise that he doesn't increase the karmic burden on his shoulders in any way. I believe he's incapable of toughening up his state of mind because if it was on the cards it would've happened by how or at least the early stages of the process would've been instigated. Latching onto corrupt, decadent and misleading western ideologies is of no purpose to someone in his situation. He'll never find the answers in what passes for internet-fueled liberalism in this day and age. 

I wish him the best. I hope God blesses him with a solution to his problems.

Yesterday I almost had an epiphany that maybe it was my mistake for the most part. 

I screamed at my wife last Saturday over the phone because of her persistent illness, something I feared should not have happened in the first trimester at all. It made me so frustrated mostly because of how it's going to impact the baby. I shouldn't have caused additional distress to her. I realized she was equally distressed if not more, as he was going through all of it for the first time and I too hadn't faced anything of that sort before. So I somewhat vindicated myself as well 

After 2 days in hospital she's almost fine now . Although the ultrasound taken during hospital exit showed an elevated  heart rate of child, doctors assured me it's mostly normal. And planned an ultrasound again for next week.

With the epiphany yesterday I also realized my wife is not a woman who is deliberately malignant. Infact it was far fetched of me to assume she has an agenda to pick up fights. I realized in hindsight she only retaliated when she felt distressed. I also realized I should spend more time with her and have a more closer relationship both inside bedroom and outside. Hopefully it should help clear most issues in future

[Redoptics 160]

3 hours ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

Yesterday I almost had an epiphany that maybe it was my mistake for the most part. 

I screamed at my wife last Saturday over the phone because of her persistent illness, something I feared should not have happened in the first trimester at all. It made me so frustrated mostly because of how it's going to impact the baby. I shouldn't have caused additional distress to her. I realized she was equally distressed if not more, as he was going through all of it for the first time and I too hadn't faced anything of that sort before. So I somewhat vindicated myself as well 

After 2 days in hospital she's almost fine now . Although the ultrasound taken during hospital exit showed an elevated  heart rate of child, doctors assured me it's mostly normal. And planned an ultrasound again for next week.

With the epiphany yesterday I also realized my wife is not a woman who is deliberately malignant. Infact it was far fetched of me to assume she has an agenda to pick up fights. I realized in hindsight she only retaliated when she felt distressed. I also realized I should spend more time with her and have a more closer relationship both inside bedroom and outside. Hopefully it should help clear most issues in future

You are just a <banned word filter activated>

[AjeetSingh2019 67]

17 minutes ago, Redoptics said:

You are just a <banned word filter activated>

reading gurbani is of no use if you talk to others this way !

[Redoptics 160]

1 hour ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

reading gurbani is of no use if you talk to others this way !

Two ends of a spectrum I loved my wife and treated her like a queen and I lost her, you treat your wife like garbage and also get blessed with a child, this is just ridiculous. Ohh btw idgaf if you are gay your behaviour is repulsive.

[AjeetSingh2019 67]

1 hour ago, Redoptics said:

 I loved my wife and treated her like a queen and I lost her

sad to know that. What happened to her ?