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Why are there so many scary bossy middle aged women guarding langar halls?


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46 minutes ago, pavitarsk said:

Mostly there is only five of us there but once the women show up the whole scene  changes. The atmosphere becomes tense. Men stop speaking to each other and become mute for fear of reprisals or something.

Should langer hall be a place sangat talk/socialise much in the first place?

 

23 hours ago, puzzled said:

Before lockdown there were two British Punjabi chaps who were builders and probably came to eat langar for lunch. I could hear their convo and one of them wanted more roti but he was to scared to get up and ask for more roti! I even heard him say "she's looking at me" !  And she was! she was standing there with her knuckles on the worktop looking at him. 

These old fossils need to be driven out, they cant continue terrorizing sangat like this! 

I hope they have taken this lockdown as a opportunity to reflect on how they behave in the langar kitchen.

And should we be encouraging Sangat to eat more than basic amounts of food in Langar Hall ?

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On 8/16/2020 at 3:49 AM, jkvlondon said:

simple make youth do langar sewa, they love it

I've tried doing seva with these auntys. They're a nightmare. They don't even keep proper sucham. My dad always has a hard time telling them to be cleaner.

They tell you off for eating more than 3 pakore but they'll be eating a plate full of 8 pakore each.

Scary people!

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9 hours ago, Kaurr said:

I've tried doing seva with these auntys. They're a nightmare. They don't even keep proper sucham. My dad always has a hard time telling them to be cleaner.

They tell you off for eating more than 3 pakore but they'll be eating a plate full of 8 pakore each.

Scary people!

They really are a thing of nightmares! I have never done sewa in langar simply because of those dragons in the kitchen, it's like their little den. 

Iv helped the guys fold the white sheets in diwan hall and done hoover there   it's so much better! 

Feel sorry for the person doing actual sewa and they have to put up with these bullies. 

These same women wear bright yellow hi vis vests on nagar kirtans and boss everyone around.  On nagar kirtans they think they are police officers! 

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12 hours ago, Kaurr said:

I've tried doing seva with these auntys. They're a nightmare. They don't even keep proper sucham. My dad always has a hard time telling them to be cleaner.

They tell you off for eating more than 3 pakore but they'll be eating a plate full of 8 pakore each.

Scary people!

like I said they feel entitled , in one gurdwara I used to go they would literally steal the knives and glasses plates, pots and pans  etc. We had to replace all the knives and peelers when we had  a langar on . Sitting there preplanning which sabji, dessert they would take home before even langar had bhog done , shameful.

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11 hours ago, jkvlondon said:

like I said they feel entitled , in one gurdwara I used to go they would literally steal the knives and glasses plates, pots and pans  etc. We had to replace all the knives and peelers when we had  a langar on . Sitting there preplanning which sabji, dessert they would take home before even langar had bhog done , shameful.

Didn't they ever get called out for stealing?

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5 hours ago, jkvlondon said:

My mum tried to shame their bad intentions but the paardhan was also mistreating the granthis who complained about the theft going on , and it meant they were sent packing instead .

Its really sad to see this happening in gurduaras these days

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On 8/17/2020 at 12:19 AM, Kaurr said:

I've tried doing seva with these auntys. They're a nightmare. They don't even keep proper sucham. My dad always has a hard time telling them to be cleaner.

They tell you off for eating more than 3 pakore but they'll be eating a plate full of 8 pakore each.

Scary people!

They're also super nosy, always asking personal questions, are you married yet, what do you do what do you study job ....whether you're just sitting or doing seva 

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