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WJKK WJKF, 

I feel so lonely, it's not a good place and I just needed to tell someone because I don't know what to do. I don't have free time to go out and socialise, I am married (but we don't have a good relationship (he puts me down, calls me names etc.) have kids and have a very busy work schedule. 

 

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If you have busy schedule too , kindly get some time out  for you only . Listen to Dukhbhanjani  sahib path if u wont ve time to do it urselves ,just listen to it , It will  heal ur mind nd provide u strength. Try ito make few friends.

visit gurdwara  sahib daily ,even for five minutes . Try to get conselling from psychiatrist . Do meditation .......recite name of waheguru 

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Thanks for your reply T_Singh, all very sensible advice. I think the whole cultural difference plays a big part, he's from India and I am not. He just keeps telling me not to talk to him, I've just been waiting for a moment where he doesn't seem like he's in a bad mood to talk. 

I think that's the problem, I don't have anyone to talk to, hence why I ended up here. 

 

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On 6/2/2021 at 9:51 AM, T_Singh said:

Very sorry to hear that, you don’t want to keep all these feelings inside.  Please do talk to someone you trust and can confide in. Do try to take sometime and do or listen to some paath for some peace. Also, maybe also try to talk to your husband about how you are currently feeling and possible counselling?

Actually, I think it might be better to speak with someone the OP doesn't know, like a counsellor

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On 6/1/2021 at 8:42 AM, Guest Just Someone said:

WJKK WJKF, 

I feel so lonely, it's not a good place and I just needed to tell someone because I don't know what to do. I don't have free time to go out and socialise, I am married (but we don't have a good relationship (he puts me down, calls me names etc.) have kids and have a very busy work schedule. 

 

Adjust your income expectations in your mind and reduce your work to part time or none. 

You can take your life back Bhenji. Keep talking to us here and get a counselor to speak with in person. 

Go to Gurudwara almost every night for Langar. Reduce your cooking load, get some social time, and save some money. 

Side note. Why is 911 dispatch so bad? Like you'd think I wasn't phoning in a shooting. Someone just bleeding out, please, have more attitude and care less.  Anyway. Kaljug, where was I? 

Oh right, take your life back Bhenji. Your duties are to Maharaja, not this so called society. And you can take it all back and be entirely appropriate about it. Nobody is going to blame you, if you go about it right, and we're here to be of support to you friend. 

 

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On 6/1/2021 at 8:42 AM, Guest Just Someone said:

WJKK WJKF, 

I feel so lonely, it's not a good place and I just needed to tell someone because I don't know what to do. I don't have free time to go out and socialise, I am married (but we don't have a good relationship (he puts me down, calls me names etc.) have kids and have a very busy work schedule. 

 

Which country you in friend? 

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On 6/1/2021 at 8:42 AM, Guest Just Someone said:

WJKK WJKF, 

I feel so lonely, it's not a good place and I just needed to tell someone because I don't know what to do. I don't have free time to go out and socialise, I am married (but we don't have a good relationship (he puts me down, calls me names etc.) have kids and have a very busy work schedule. 

 

Hello Someone.

I feel you.

Thats why its important not to lose touch with friends from before college. Sure they wont understand what youre going through but it would be nice to talk to someone and hang out. Gore are smart they have girls night out.

Also what about your family? Cant you talk to your mom or sister or cousins? You dont have to share personal stuff, just check in with them.

Also in the 1970s many housewives were also lonely and thats when the suburban anti depressant use skyrocketed. They were just lonely.  Its hard being a mom and wife. And women need support. We panjabis are giving up are extended families and losing that.

Also check out Satnam Kaur in instagram. She has a group called mandali just for women to connect. I think you would like it. 

Also try to fit in yoga or meditation. It helps our mind relax and emotions to stop churning. 

Gur Bar Akal

All.the best. 

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On 6/1/2021 at 4:42 PM, Guest Just Someone said:

WJKK WJKF, 

I feel so lonely, it's not a good place and I just needed to tell someone because I don't know what to do. I don't have free time to go out and socialise, I am married (but we don't have a good relationship (he puts me down, calls me names etc.) have kids and have a very busy work schedule. 

 

sorry to hear sis.  maybe you could startup small talk with some of the other mums when you go to pick up your kids from school (don't tell them any personal stuff though).

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Go to Saadhsangat at any cost. Great strength is found in the foundation of Bani, Simran, Saadhsangat, Seva. These days we can get sangat darshan on the internet at home too, and bani on our phones/tapes if nothing else is available or possible. The Guru's support guides us. 

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