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http://www.sikhnet.c...5671#f238873b98 Recently I went to a Chinese restaurant near work; I have found they make the best ‘vegetarian’ chicken. Being an avid meat eater for most of my life, I still crave meat, even after not having it over a year, I still remember the taste. I despise veggie burgers which ‘claim’ they are just like the meat equivalent and find them lacking in so many regards. But at this Chinese restaurant, their vegetarian chicken is better, it’s still not chicken obviously, but it has the closest texture and taste that I have eaten so far. This is a small carryout restaurant, sort of a mom and pop place, the workers seem like they are all related and there are a few seats in the front area so you can wait for your carry out order. As I sat down, there was an elderly Chinese man sitting on the seat beside me. It seemed like he was an elderly relative of the family as he was not waiting for food. As soon as he looked at me he said: “Are you Hindu?” I said "no, I am not," to which he questioned again “Are you Muslim?” I smile and shake my head indicating I am not. I was waiting for him to guess again but since it was a long pause I decided to tell him “I am Sikh.” “What do you believe?” was his follow-up, and in my mind I was fully prepared with my answer ready from years of constant questioning of what a Sikh is, what Sikhism is, why I wear the turban, why we don’t cut hair, all these thoughts were on the tip of my tongue but something else came out. “I believe in Ek Onkar” He had a confused look on his face, and I was surprised that all of a sudden I had given such an atypical answer. I started to panic a little wondering what did I just say, why didn’t I answer normally? I started to look around the restaurant, a little hesitant, I had completely lost the train of thought of my standard answer. “What is that?” he prodded further. I had his full attention now. “It means there is one God. We are all part of one creation and we are all one.” That was the only thing I could think about at that second, whatever came out. I was growing increasingly uncomfortable with my own lack of thinking, how could I forget everything and give such a simple response. “What else do you believe?” He was directly focused on me, and I was totally brain dead, I was like how come there is nothing else coming to my mind? How could I not do a better job of explaining my own faith? “That’s it, that’s all I believe, Ik Onkar.” was my quick reply, as I looked away. By now I was repeating Ik Onkar in my mind and thinking about Guru Nanak. I had sort of left this uncomfortable question and answer session and indulged in my own thoughts. The old man looked away, I figured he was either disappointed with my answer or he just felt that I was not willing or unable to explain my faith to him. Neither was the case I was just stuck. My mind was just, for some reason at that moment, not able to think further. I sat there uncomfortably next to this old man for what seemed like such a long time, but was only a few minutes. I kept thinking about Guru Nanak and Japji and Ik Onkar and how the Buddha statue was also Ik Onkar; this old man next to me was Ik Onkar; all the workers working at that restaurant were Ik Onkar, and that everything was One, what a great, great start to our religion that was, to bring everything together. Finally they called me for my order; I got up and grabbed the bag, as I turned to walk towards the door, the old man suddenly said “HEY!” I stopped and was like ok, he’s going to start asking me more questions, and by now I had somewhat come back from my Ik Onkar trance and was ready with my standard history lesson about Sikhism. “I know why you only believe that one thing…. it is the only thing worth believing!” At that second I felt myself exhale, I was amazed how this old man, who knew nothing of Sikhism summed it up more perfectly than I could have ever done. All I could do was smile and wave, I didn’t even have a response, and as I sat in my car I kept thinking "wow, what a simple and profound philosophy our religion was started upon, and how in all the messages we try to give, in all the translations and explanations we forget the simplicity of our religion." The first message, Ik Onkar. There is only One. In the complexities of our lives we sometimes forget; in our intellect and explanations we try to give so much more, yet it is as simple as understanding that in the first two words that Sikhism was founded upon, all questions are answered. Ik Onkar, the only thing worth believing.

probably the Sikh Secretariat who grassed on him. Some posters have been saying how its been so many years and he has atoned for his wrongdoings, im afraid in an ideal world yes, but there are crimes and there are crimes, and violence/sexual assaults against women/children will always have a stigma even after death, as opposed to someone who robbed a bank, murdered someone in a fight etc, as these are seen as macho crimes, gloryfying outlaws etc. whereas rapists etc will always be seen as deviant offenders, and you know that in prison the worst thing is for other inmates to find out that you are a rapist, its just as bad as being accused of grassing. When the offender gets into the outside world there is no let up of what he has done. It is always best for people who have committed this type of crime to remain hidden from public, no matter how much they have changed.

I know we have a Sikh channel and that is great. We need a media that is seen/read by masses in Punjab (like the Tribune), which will have a Sikh bias (instead of hindu/india bias). Maybe leaning is a better word than bias. So instead of reading about Sikh terrorist we will read about Hindu terrorists during 1984 attack.

pav is such an <banned word filter activated>. She speaks as if she is some sort of authority on what happened. All she saw was a mere glimpse of Sant Jee and from that she bases her opinion. People like pav and bharadwaj think that everything just started off with Sant Bhindranwalay. They don`t see the discrimination Sikhs faced after 47 such as Punjabi language not getting official recognition, Punjab being unfairly divided and Punjabi speaking land being given to Himachal and Haryana. Chandigarh which was clearly Punjab not belonging to Punjab. The river waters being stolen from Punjab and given to Haryana and Rajasthan. Then how Sikhs from Punjab were not even allowed to enter Delhi through Haryana during the Asian games. Any Sikh that attempted was arrested in Haryana. How the government supported and helped the Nirankaris in 78 instead of doing the right thing and arresting them. What Sant Jee did was to awake the Sikh nation and tell them not to take it anymore and for that he is our hero and centuries to come. People like pav come and go with no one even noticing, but Sant Jee`s memory will always remain cherished amongst the Sikh nation.

Whenever I see this Singh my heart fills with pride and joy. He has so many qualities , truly blessed. Waheguru.

Can be forgiven but not head of community. We need some internal vetting. Do you think someone with such a history would become USA president? No because his community would object. What's wrong with us. Yes we can forgive his past mistakes but why we saying this man is out best/role model/ represents what we are all like. There are a million possible candidates

He is just too beautiful. His aura is somehting else His approach is calm cool and collected. I LOVE THE WAY HE WEARS HIS KIRPAN GATRA OVER THE SUIT- SO SMART - May Guru sahib jee bless him with even more kirpa and for young sikhs to aspire -to him as a role model and take on this world and show this world what a KHALSA IS WHAT KHALSA REPRESENTS.

The issue of Ranas conviction and projecting himself as a representative of the Sikh quom was raised in 2002. http://icbirmingham....#story_continue He should have accepted a non media facing role if sewa was his true goal. He appears to enjoy the media attention and being photographed with Royalty. Sajjan Thag embraced Guru Ji and accepted what he had done in the past was wrong. For years Rana has been telling people it was a case of mistaken identity rather than accepting what he did was wrong.

This Singh is killing it out here in Canada. He is not just one of those politicians who takes a seat as a minister in the federal government and then votes against South Asians rights for an apology from Canada (one of the saddest days in Canada.....seeing a Sikh with Dastar and flowing beard........stand up from his seat to vote against an apology for South Asians). Jagmeet Singh does not just define himself by wearing a blue Dastar and having a flowing beard. His lion appearance matches his actions. This is a lion roaring, without fear and without hatred. A very respected, accomplished, and educated Singh that is showing the youth of today that a lot can be accomplished without lifting the sword. Satguru Sri Guru Nanak Dev ji Maharaj teachings are being put into practice in Canadian government offices because we have a Singh who is not scared to speak the truth to power and authority.

1. Desire Believe with all of your heart that you will do what you were made to do. When the mind has once formed the habit of holding cheerful, happy, prosperous pictures, it will not be easy to form the opposite habit. It does not matter how improbable or how far away this realization may seem, or how dark the prospects may be, if we visualize them as best we can, as vividly as possible, hold tenaciously to them and vigorously struggle to attain them, they will gradually become actualized, realized in the life. But a desire, a longing without endeavor, a yearning abandoned or held indifferently will vanish without realization. It is only when desire is crystallized into resolve, however, that it is effective. Think and say only that which you wish to become true. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the outline of the image itself; the real substance, not merely a mental image. What we believe is coming to us is a tremendous creative motive. Your whole thought current must be set in the direction of your life purpose. Whatever comes to us in life, we create first in our mentality.

They turned into Sant-Dokhis well that's there life laid out for them by Sukhmani Sahib

Yeah I agree with this. But the 'dardh' to become a journalist and make a difference for Sikhi only comes if a person actually knows what it is they're combatting. There's a few Sikh journalists in the UK (a guy called Satnam Sanghera writes for the Times) but you'll never get his sort highlighting any Sikh issues or even criticising GOI policies. The reason is because they believe the official line from the Indian propaganda machine, i.e. Sikh "militants", etc. That's where the blinkers come up and it's game over. Actually, they may be aware of the real issues at hand but have no desire to create waves by highlighting them. Plus, the hostility towards anyone challenging apparently democractic countries in favour of fringe movements - especially armed movements (despite evidence of un-democratic policies and issues being perpetrated by such countries) in this day and age, even in a professional, political environment, gets a person nowhere, especially if said journalist wants to climb their career ladder. You know how much our people like climbing career ladders and thus reaping the finanical and status related rewards that brings. :biggrin2:

What are you expecting people to say? Give you ageya and say you have our blessings to go confess you fancy him and he will get down on one knee? You're 18, he's amrtidhari, you are bound by your parents until they find you a guy to marry. You're looking for those idiots on this website who give the liberal view and tell you there's nothing wrong with your feelings, it's normal, tell him how you feel, he might feel the same etc etc, it's all bullsh*t. you need to fix up and wait until your parents find you a husband - end of.

do a arti arta after rehras....seriously Aarti Aarta Dohraa Lohp Chanddka hoe gai surpat kau de raaj. Daanav maarey abhekh kar keeney Santan kaaj (53) Savaiya. Yaatey parsann bhaye he maha mun devan ke tap me sukh pavey. Jagh karey ik bed rarey bhav taap harey mil dhiaaneh lavey. Jhaalar taal mirdang upang rabaab leeye sur saaj milaavey. Kinnar gandhrap gaan karey gan jash appashar nirt dikhavey.(54) Sankhan kee dhunn ghantan kee kar phoolan kee barkha barkhaavey. Aarti kot karey sur sundar pekh purandar ke bal jaavey. Daanat dashan de ke pardashan bhaal me kunkam ashat laavey. Hot kulaahal devpuri mil devan ke kul mangal gaavey. (55) Dohra. Aisey chand partaap te devan badheho partaap. Teen lok jai jai karey rarey naam sat jaap. (56) Savaya. He rav he sas he karunanidh meri abey binti sun leejey. Aorh na mangat hao tum te kash chaahat hao chit me soi keejey. Shastran sion at hee rann bheetar joojh marau kah saach pateejey. Sant sahai sada jag maye kirpa kar shyaam ihey bar deejey. (1900) Kabitt. Sankatt haran sabh sidh kee karan chand taaran taran saran lochan bisaal he. Aad ja ke aaaham he ant ko na paraavaar saran ubaaran karan pritpaal he. asar sanghaaran anik dukh jaaran so patit udhaaran shadaaey jam jaal he. Devi barlaaik sbudh hu kee daaik su deh bar paaik banaavey granth haal he. (7) Kabitt. Mil ke su devan badaai karee kaalka ke eho jagmaat te to katiyo bado paap he. Detan ko maar raaj deeno te sures hu ko bado jas leeno jag tero ee partaap he. Det he asees dij raaj rikh baar baar taha hee parheho he Brahm kauch hoo ko jaap he. Aesey jas poor raheo chandka ko teen lok jaisey dhaar saagar me ganga ji ko aap he. (227) Savaiya. Taaran lok udhaaran bhoomeh det sanghaaran chand tuhi he. Kaaran ees kala kamla har adarsuta jah dekho ohi he. Taamasta mamta namta kavta kav ke man madh guhi he. Keeno he kanchan loh jagatar me paaras moorat jah shoohee he. (4) Savaiya. Kaal hee paiye bhayo bhagwaan su jaagat ya jag ja ki kala he. Kaal hee paiye bhayo brahma shiv kaal hee paiye bhanno jugeeaa he. Kaal hee paiye suraa sur gandhrab jash bhujang disaa bidisaa he. Aur su kaal sabhey bas kaal ke ek hee kaal Akaal sada he. (84) Savaiya. Merr karo trinn te muh jah gareeb nivaaj n doosar to so. Bhool shimo hamri prabh aapan bhoolanhaar kahoo kauoo mo so. Sev karee tumri tin ke sabh hee gireh dekheeat drab bhroso. Ya kal me sabh kaal kirpan ke bhaari bhujaan ko bhaari bhroso.(92) Savaiya. Bhaaj gaiyo magva jin ke darr brahm te aad sabhe bhe bheetey. Taiee ve det parai gaye ran haar nihaar bhaye bal reetey. Jambuk girajh niraas bhaye banbaas gaye jug jaaman beetey. Sant sahai sada jag maye su sumbh nisumbh baddey ar jeetey (225) Dev sabhey mil ke ik thaur su ashat kunkam chandan leeno. Tashan lashan kunkam chandan leeno. Tashan lashan dey key pardashan teeka su chand ke bhaal me deeno. Ta shab ko upjayo tah bhaav ehey kav ne man me lakh leeno. Manho chand ke mandal me subh mangal aan parveseh keeno.(226) Savaiya. Deh asses sabhey sur maar sudhaar ke aarti deep jagaaeho. Phool sugandh su ashat dashan jashan jeet ko geet su gaaeho. Dhoop jagaaei ke sankh bajaei ke sees nivaaei ke ben sunaeho. He jag maie sada sukh dai te sumbh ko ghaie bado jas paieho(228) Sakreh saaj samaajdey chand su mod maha man mah rai he. Soor sasi nabh thaap ke tej dey aap tahante su lohp bhai hey. Beech akaas parkaas badheho tah ki upma man te n gai he. Dhoor ke poor maleen huto rav maanhu chandka ohp dai he (229) Deh shiva bar moh ehe shubh karman te kabhun n taron. Na daron ar so jab jaeh larau nischey kar aapni jeet karo. ar sikh hau apney hee man kau eh laalach hau gun tao uchrau. Jab aav kee audh nidaan baney at hee ran me tab juujh maro.(231) Chand charitar kavitan me barneo sab hi ras rudr mai he. Ek te ek rasaal bhaeo nakh te sikh laoupma su nai he. Kaotak het kari kav ne satsaya kee katha eh poori bhai he. Jah namit parhe sun he nar so nischey kar taah dai he. (232) Dohra. Granth satsaiaa ko kareho ja sam avar n koi. Jeh namit kav ne kaheyo su deh chanka soi. (233) Dohra. Namaskaar sree kharag ko karau su hit chit lai. Pooran karau granth eh tum moh rahau sahai.(1) Tribhangi chhant Sri Kaal ji ki ustat khag khand bihandang khal dal khandang at rann mandang barbhandang. Bhuj dand akhandang tej parchandang jot amandang bhaan prabhang. Sukh santa karanang durmat daranang kilbik haranang as saranang. Jai Jai jag kaaran shrist ubaarann mam pritpaarann Jai Tegang. (2) Rogan te ar sogan te jal jogan te bahu bhant bachaavey, Shatr anek chalaavat ghaav taoo tan ek n laagan paavey. Raakhat he apanokar de kar paap sbooh n bhetan paavey. Aur kee baat kaha kah to sau su pet hee ke pat beech bachavey. (6.248) Savaiya. Pai(n)e gahe jab te tumre tab te ko-oo aankh tare nahi aanyo. Raam raheem puraan kuraan anek kahey mat ek n manyo. Simrat sastr bed sabey bahu bhed kahey ham ek n jaanyo. Sri aspaan kirpa tumri kar me n kahyo sabh tohe bakhaanyo.(863) Dohra. Sagal duaar kao shaad ke gahyo tuhaaro duaar. Baa(n)eh gahe ke laaj as gobind daas tuhaar. Aarti Dhanaasri Mahalla 1 Aarti ek Onkaar satgur Prsaad Gagan me thaal rav chand deepak baney taarika mandal janak moti. Dhoop malaanlo pavan chavro karey sagal banraie phoolant joti. (1) Kaisi aarti hoie bhav khandna teri aarti. Anhataa shabad vaajant bheri (1) Rahao. Sahas tav nain nan nain he toh kao sahas moorat nana ek tohi. Sahas pad bimal nan ek pad gandh bin sahas tav gandh iv chalat mohi.(2) Sabh meh jot jot he soi. Tis ke chanann sabh meh chanan hoie. Gur saakhi jot pargat hoie. Jo tis bhavey su aarti hoie.(3) Har charan kamal makrand mano andino moh aahi peeaasaa. Kirpa jal deh Nanak sarang kau hoe ja te terey naam vaasaa.(8.1.7.9) Naam tero aarti majan muraarey. har ke naam bin jhutey sagal paasaarey.(1) Rahao. Naam tero aasano naam tero ursa nam tera kesro le chhitkaarey. Naam tera ambhula naam tero chandno ghass jappey naam le tujheh kau chaarey. (1) Naam tera deeva naam tero baati naam tero tel le mahe pasaarey. Naam tere kee jot lagai bhaio ujeaaro bhavan saglaarey(2) Naam tero tagaa naam phool maala bhar athareh sagal juthaarey. Tero keeaa tujheh keeaa arpao naam tera tuhi chavar dhholaarey (3) Das atha athsathey charey khaani ihey vartan he sagal sansaarey. Kahe Ravidaas naam tero aarti sat nam he har bhog tuhaarey.(4)(3) Sri Sain Dhup deep ghirt saaj aarti. Vaarney jao kamala patti.(1) Mangala har mangala. Nit mangal raja raam rai ko. (1) Rahao. Uuthum deeara nirmal baati. Tuhi niranjan kamla paati.(2) Raamaa bhagat raamanand janey. Pooran paramanand bakhaaney.(3) Madan moorat bhey taar gobindey. Sain bhaney bhaj paramanandey. (4)(2) Parbhaati. Sunn Sandheaa teri dev devakar adhpat aad samai. Sidh samadh ant nahi paiaa laag rahe sarnai(1) Leh aarti ho purakh niranjan satgur poojeh bhai. Thhaddha brahma nigam beechaarey alakh n lakhia jai.(1) Rahao Tat Tel naam keeaa baati deepak deh ujaara. Jot lae jagdees jagaiaia bujhey bujhanhara.(2) Panchey shabad anahad baajey sangey saarengpaani. Kabeer daas teri aarti keeni nirankaar nirbaani.(3)(5) Dhanna. Gopal Teraa Aartaa. Jo jan tumri bhagat karantey tin ke kaaj savaarta. (1) rahao Daal Seedha maagao gheeo. Tumra khusi karey nit jeeo. Paneeaa shaadan neeka. Anaaj magao sat see ka.(1) Gao bhais magao laaveri. Ik taajan turi changeri. Ghar kee geehan changi. Jan Dhanna Levey mangi. Raag Sorath. Bhukhey bhagat n keejey. Yah mala apni leejai. Hao mangao santan rena. Me nahi kisee ka dena(1) Madho kaisee banai tum sangey. Aap n deh t levao mani. Rahao. Dueh ser mangao choona. Pao Gheeo sang loona. Adh ser mangao daaley. Mau kau donau vakat jivaaley. (2) Khaat Mangao chaupaai. Sir Haanaa avar tulai. Oopar kau mangau kheendha. Teri bhagat karey jan theendhaa.(3) Me nahee keeta labo. Ik nau tera me fabo. Keh kabeer man maneha. Man Maaneha tao har jaaneaa.(4)(11) Salok Mahala 1 Gur Data Gur Hihey Ghar Gur Deepak Teh Loe. Amar padarath Nanaka man manaiey sukh hoe.(1) Gur Data Gur Soorma Gur Seetal Nirdokh. Nanak Gur te paiey seel dharam santokh. Chinta ta kee keejeeey jo anhoni hoe. Eh marag sansaar ko Nanak thir nahi koie. (51) Jo upjio so binas he paro aaj ke kaal. nanak har gun gaie le shaad sagal janjaal. (52) Naam rahio sadhoo rahio rahio gur gobind. Keh Nanak eh jagat me kin japio gur mant (56) Raam Naam ur me gaheo ja ke sam nahi koi. Jeh simrat sankat mittey dars tuharo hoe. (57)(1) As Kirpan Khando Kharagh Tupak tabar ar teer. Saf Sarohi saihthi yehe hamarey Peer. (3) Teer Tuhi Saithi Tuhi Tuhi Tabar Tarvaar. naam Tihaaro jo jappey bhey sindh bhav paar. (4) Jithey Shastar Naamang. Namaskaar Taamang. Jithey Astar Bheyang. Namaskaar Teyang. (91) Teero Tufango Bado raam Jango Dhamak Dhar anneeaar kamand korrha Panj Shastar Parvaan. Suno Nand lal Yeh saaj. Pargat karoo apna raaj. Chaar varan ik varan karaau. Waheguru Singh ko Namm japaao. Charrey Singh tis mukut karau. Jhoolan nejey hasti saajey. Duaar duaar pur naubat baajey. Sava Laakh jab dhukhey paleeta. Tabhe Khalsa udhey ast lau jeeta. Raaj Karega Khalsa aaki rahe n koi. Khuaar hoey sabh milengey bachey sharan jo hoey. Uth gaye safa malesh kee kar koorha paasaar. Danka baajey fateh ka nihklank avtaar. Bijai Chhant. Lank Loot liaa-au plak pesh khana chala-au nard gard me milaa-au jo maatey abhiman ke. Room naubat bajau sham mohara chalau. Patshahi le karau takaht sachey sahiban ke. N Aap laraoo n fauj laraoo. Bhat beeran seti bandh mangaaoo. N shaadoo khalk n shaadoo balakh parbat kaatu iraan khurasaan ke. Mero nao Guru Gobind Singh Sodhi Rai as khalona sabh khalkat raaj saaj bandh mangaoo goshey kaman ke. Hukum sat. Sri Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh. Sikka zad bar har do aalam fazal sachey Sahibsat. Gobind Singh khud shahenshah tegh Nanak Vahibsat. Degh Tegh Fateh Nusrat Bedrang Yaafatz Nanak Guru Gobind Singh. Sri Akaal Purakh ji Sahai. Ji Darbaaran me tero darbara Sach Khand Vasai Nirankara. Lashmi khari tumrey darbara. Sarab devtey karey namaskara. Dohra. Nanak Guru Gobind Singh Ji Pooran Gur Avtaar. Jagmag Jot Biraaj Rahi Siri Abchal Nagar Majhaar. Sach Khand Ke Darbaar. Chatr Chakr Varti Chatr Chakr Bhugatey. Suyambhav Subhang sarab Da sarab Jugatey. Dukaalankang Parnnaasi Daiaalang saroopey. Sada Ang Sangey Abhangang Bibhootey. (199). full arti arta

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MokhamSingh ji you can contact her direct or find out more information via her YouTube address as she has recently been in contact with me: http://www.youtube.com/user/ManikaKandhari

In the Legislative Assembly of Ontario, Jagmeet Singh made the following statement today:

Someone with a bit of sway and pull should pre-warn the producer of this to show to ensure no disrespect occurs. This is a hugely sensitive and rather upsetting time for Sikhs, because aside from the brave Singhs who willingly fought the Indians, there were many, many innocent Sikh men, women and children who were caught up in the fighting and paid with their lives.

. The bibi you may be referring to is from Dubai (I think). Her name is Manika Kaur. She was born in Melbourne, Australia. After her marriage she has been living in Dubai. (Can someone from Dubai confirm this? ) (Also she may be related to Sardar Surinder Singh Kandhari who is one of the key figures involved in building the Guru Nanak Darbar Gurdwara in Dubai) . .

some photos Shaheed Bhai Avtar Singh Ji Bhrama Photos in begining 23-Shaheed bhai Dilawar Singh 26- some remander gas shells that were throwin in the golden temple n june 1984 27 -1984 protest, cop is on floor and a sikh is helping him out also 29 shaheed bhai Surinder Singh Sodhi, along with their sister standing 40- Ex Jathedar Ranjit Singh Ji In Tiharh Jail

No apologies needed. The Daily Mail headline suggests the Queen was in immediate danger.

Gurbani puts it perfectly...............if you want to play this game of love with me (Guru Sahib)..........then place your head in your hand and don't pay attention to public opinion. If someone asked me how do i get into Sikhi (living by Gurbani and practicing Rehat). First thing i say is start reading Gurbani in the language you understand the best. Then contemplate over the Bani you have read and start practicing. Eventually the person hits a point where their intellect is limited on understanding Gurbani. Thats when they need to start listening to deep Katha from Gurmukhs, so their intellect can be opened to know the higher realms. Some people stop at just reading Gurbani themselves and thats where you get all these contradicting opinions of a Shabad or pankti or tuk......its ignorance. There are two ways to this: either start following rehat and start reading Gurbani now and then attain the understanding later by contemplating over Gurbani many times and listening to katha from Gurmukhs. This is the Gurmat way. Or follow the mind and start reading Gurbani, without following rehat and then struggle with a bigger ego, which does not allow you to follow Gurbani at a deeper level. In this case the hard way is the better choice.

Seems like a legit guy and is using his position to create awareness. TOP JOB

No! Reciting alone isn´t enough you need to conteemplate and understand . Just reciting all the time wouldn´t help you. You need to realize, what you are doing, and why you are doing this. Interalise! It is one of the greatest evils that tempts people away from God. It makes an individual weak-willed and unreliable. The normal sexual relationship of house-holders (a married couple) is not restricted in any way in Sikhism. But sex outside of marriage or sex forced against the will of ones partner is taboo, as it can cause unlimited sorrows. ਸ੝ਣਿ ਸ੝ਣਿ ਕਾਮ ਗਹੇਲੀਝ ਕਿਆ ਚਲਹਿ ਬਾਹ ਲ੝ਡਾਇ ॥ सढ़णि सढ़णि काम गहेलीझ किआ चलहि बाह लढ़डाइ ॥ sun sun kaam gahaylee-ay ki-aa chaleh baah ludaa-ay. Listen, listen, Oh, soul-bride: you are overtaken by sexual desire-why do you walk like that, swinging your arms in joy? (Page 37, Line 18) Guru Amar Das) ਅਹਿਨਿਸਿ ਕਾਮਿ ਵਿਆਪਿਆ ਵਣਜਾਰਿਆ ਮਿਤ੝ਰਾ ਅੰਧ੝ਲੇ ਨਾਮ੝ ਨ ਚਿਤਿ ॥ अहिनिसि कामि विआपिआ वणजारिआ मितढ़रा अंधढ़ले नामढ़ न चिति ॥ ahinis kaam vi-aapi-aa vanjaari-aa mitraa anDhulay naam na chit. Day and night, you are engrossed in sexual desire, O my merchant friend, and your consciousness is blind to the Naam. (Guru Nanak Dev page 75 line 16) ਉਛਲਿਆ ਕਾਮ੝ ਕਾਲ ਮਤਿ ਲਾਗੀ ਤਉ ਆਨਿ ਸਕਤਿ ਗਲਿ ਬਾਂਧਿਆ ॥੨॥ उछलिआ कामढ़ काल मति लागी तउ आनि सकति गलि बांधिआ ॥२॥ uchhli-aa kaam kaal mat laagee ta-o aan sakat gal baaNDhi-aa. You are overflowing with sexual desire, and your intellect is stained with darkness; you are held in the grip of Shakti's power. ||2|| (Bhagat Baini page 93 line 7) ਅਵਰ ਮਰਤ ਮਾਇਆ ਮਨ੝ ਤੋਲੇ ਤਉ ਭਗ ਮ੝ਖਿ ਜਨਮ੝ ਵਿਗੋਇਆ ॥੩॥ अवर मरत माइआ मनढ़ तोले तउ भग मढ़खि जनमढ़ विगोइआ ॥३॥ avar marat maa-i-aa man tolay ta-o bhag mukh janam vigo-i-aa. When others die, you measure your own wealth in your mind; you waste your life in the pleasures of the mouth and sexual organs. ||3|| (Devotee Baini page 93 line 10) Your eyebrows are like a bow, from which the arrows of lust are coming out and striking us like the dagger Dasam Granth Page 703, Line 1 WATCHING PORN Sikhs should not watch porn. these things keep you away from not only spiritual life but also effect your normal life. These makes you masturbative and you will loose your virginity all this falls under part of kam. You are watching for internal pleasure. This is banned for sikhs. Actually the buisnessmans of porn know that Kaam(lust) is the main evil which is in every human being they take support of this evil and makes you kami. They earn money through kam And can destroy your life through it. ਤੀਜੈ ਝਾਖ ਝਖਾਇਆ ਚਉਥੈ ਭੋਰ੝ ਭਇਆ ॥ तीजै झाख झखाइआ चउथै भोरढ़ भइआ ॥ teejai jhaakh jhakhaa-i-aa cha-uthai bhor bha-i-aa. In the third, they babble nonsense, and when the fourth watch comes, the day of death has arrived. Guru Arjan Page 43 line 12) ਅਗਿਆਨ ਮਤੀ ਅੰਧੇਰ੝ ਹੈ ਬਿਨ੝ ਪਿਰ ਦੇਖੇ ਭ੝ਖ ਨ ਜਾਇ ॥ अगिआन मती अंधेरढ़ है बिनढ़ पिर देखे भढ़ख न जाइ ॥ agi-aan matee anDhayr hai bin pir daykhay bhukh na jaa-ay. In the darkness of intellectual ignorance, she cannot see her Husband, and her hunger does not depart. Guru amardas page 38 line 5 Bura dekhan main chalea (kabir) Ranna hoyian bodhian purash hoye sinyaar (Kuriyan nu dikhan da shonk te pursh nu wekhan daa) Many things are written in guru granth sahib regarding this. If you don't have self control go towards guru granth sahib and do ardas from the depth of your heart. Waheguru will definitely show you the way. ਜ੝ੱਧ ਜਿਤੇ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕੇ ਪ੝ਰਸਾਦਿ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕੇ ਪ੝ਰਸਾਦਿ ਸ੝ ਦਾਨ ਕਰੇ ॥ ਅਘ ਅਉਘ ਟਰੈ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕੇ ਪ੝ਰਸਾਦਿ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕ੝ਰਿਪਾ ਫ੝ਨ ਧਾਮ ਭਰੇ ॥ जढ़ढ़ध जिते इन ही के पढ़रसादि इन ही के पढ़रसादि सढ़ दान करे ॥ अघ अउघ टरै इन ही के पढ़रसादि इन ही कढ़रिपा फढ़न धाम भरे ॥ By the kindness of these Sikhs, I have conquered the wars and also by their kindness, I have bestowed charities; by their kindness the clusters on sins have been destroyed and by their kindness my house is full of wealth and materials; “O my Master. I am silly, save me, 0 my Lord-God! Thy slave’s praise in thine own glory!” (AG, 166) ਕਾਮ੝ ਕ੝ਰੋਧ੝ ਕਾਇਆ ਕਉ ਗਾਲੈ ॥ ਜਿਉ ਕੰਚਨ ਸੋਹਾਗਾ ਢਾਲੈ ॥ Kĝm kroḝẖ kĝ­i­ĝ ka­o gĝlai. Ji­o kancẖan sohĝgĝ dẖĝlai. Lust and wrath wastes the body away, as borax melts gold. sggs page 932

Hey whats up, here i found a post some unknown wrote: "Paji, trust me - watching porn is in no way right! This is a problem of our socialisation - of your surrondings - I started watching porn in young age - 10.11? I don´t knew anything about Sikhi - I just had Kesh - I lived in a state where hardly you will find any Gursikhs ( German) - The problem was mobbing etc - altough I am strong - It somehow hurt my feelings - so I tried to flee - I revealed "porn"(I am still sorry abou - because over the years it became "addiction") the dopamine eject was what I needed - To feel happier etc.. "friends" told me to realease some pressure with porn(They said it is the greatest thing ever). But then due Maharaj kirpa I revealed Sikhi (I don´t found good Sangat, but I revealed it for myself) Then I started asking myself - WHY the hell I am doing this? I excessively masturbated 5-7 x or more a day? I was depressive. I was tired all day - and I had really really bad mood - my errection were soft and weak - and it hurted. I had no selfconfidence - masturbation - weakens you mentaly. This go on for 6 years... Until I revealed Sikhi 1 year ago - and questioned myself - I am a product of the sexual industry - a victim. I started seeing women as "Sex objects" - and then the real <banned word filter activated> happend... This is a long story... So do you see the point? Do you see what happens? You are leeched out - there is no grain of spirituality in you - you can get maladjusted, see women in totally wrong way - ruin your life - In the end it is very hard to forget this all - these dirty things - but if you try to forget - you will. Why do you want to ruin your life with porns? Fake sex .. etc? If you get addicted - or you feel the urge to watch more - it is over - this <banned word filter activated> will take control over you - if you are weak - yes I am weak /was weak. It is waste of time - and you only get problems due it - there is nothing good in it - and it is very hard to get rid of all this ... I was really sufferin - until Guru ji blessed me - with his Shabads about Kaam - Krodh - Lobh - Moh they are all involved with each other.. I really had physical and mentally problems - I just did it that excecively that I not even feel something of my genitals - It totally ruined my life - in all ways. Be aware of it - I know you have pressure but do your best to get rid of these. Now it got that far that I decided to live alone my whole life - I dont want to marry - I don´t want to expect somebody " I think thats enough to stay away from porn. I know it is hard to control - but you have too instead of watching porn hit yourself i stomach or make some sports. If you kaam is overcoming too ask yourself a math question - The problem is the longer you think about it the more paapi you will get. The first bad thought can lead to porn- first of all searching web use adblock, for chrome or firefox - second if you get thoughts of nude women or whatever immediately try to think on other things. Porn is not good - Once if you don´t manage to control yourself , don´t be afraid - just keep on going. and try harder - Never give up. Any other questions or problems PM me - I can help you. Always remember IF YOU HAVE THE WILL you can do ANYTHING! Remember if you get married , be a man and tell the women that you did such things - don´t left her in lies and marry in lies. HOW TO GET RID of all this Masturbation is not safe It makes you weak. it can lead to both physical and physiological imbalances. Frequent masturbation and ejaculation stimulate acetylcholine/parasympathetic nervous functions excessively, resulting in the over production of sex hormones and neurotransmitters such as acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin. Abundant and unusually amount of these hormones and neurotransmitters can cause the brain and adrenal glands to perform excessive dopamine-norepinephrine-epinephrine conversion and turn the brain and body functions to be extremely sympathetic. In other words, there is a big change of body chemistry when one excessively pratices masturbation. The side effects of such changes to the body include: Fatigue. Feeling tired all the time Lower back pain Stress / Anxiety Thinning hair / Hair Loss Soft / Weak Erection Premature Ejaculation Eye floaters or fuzzy vision Groin / Testicular Pain Peyronie's disease Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity or/and tail bone Self-Control Guidance for Masturbation This is copied from some website and this is useful method and Sikhism encourage those things which help others so salute to that man who wrote the following suggestions: 1. Never touch the intimate parts of your body except during normal toilet processes. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in this good company. 2. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don't suppose that two of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind. The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things. 3. When you bathe, do not admire yourself in a mirror. Never stay in the bath more than five or six minutes -- just long enough to bathe and dry and dress and then get out of the bathroom into a room where you will have some member of your family present. 4. When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your vital parts, and so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing you would have sufficiently controlled your thinking that the temptation would leave you. 5. If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, get out of bed and go into the kitchen and fix yourself a snack, even if it is in the middle of the night, and even if you are not hungry, and despite your fears of gaining weight. The purpose behind this suggestion is that you get your mind on something else. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak. 6. Never read pornographic material. Never read about your problem. Keep it out of mind. Remember -- "First a thought, then an act." The thought pattern must be changed. You must not allow this problem to remain in your mind. When you accomplish that, you soon will be free of the act. 7. Put wholesome thoughts into your mind at all times. Read Gurbani. You can read Japji Sahib, Suhmani Sahib, Anand Sahib, above anything else in the Guru Granth Sahib can be helpful because of the uplifting qualities. 8. Pray. But when you pray, don't pray about this problem, for that will tend to keep it in your mind more than ever. Pray for faith, pray for understanding of the Scriptures, pray for the Missionaries, the General Authorities, your friends, your families, but keep the problem out of your mind by not mentioning it ever -- not in conversation with others, not in your prayers. keep it out of your mind! The attitude of a person toward his problem has an effect on how easy it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment be made to control the habit. As a person understands his reasons for the behavior, and is sensitive to the conditions or situations that may trigger a desire for the act, he develops the power to control it. Suggestions 1. Pray daily, ask for the gifts of the Spirit, that which will strengthen you against temptation. Pray fervently and out lout when the temptations are the strongest. 2. Follow a program of vigorous daily exercise. The exercises reduce emotional tension and depression and are absolutely basic to the solution of this problem. Double your physical activity when you feel stress increasing. 3. When the temptation to masturbate is strong, yell STOP to those thoughts as loudly as you can in your mind and then recite a prechosen Scripture or sing an inspirational hymn. It is important to turn your thoughts away from the selfish need to indulge. 4. Set goals of abstinence, begin with a day, then a week, month, year and finally commit to never doing it again. Until you commit yourself to _never again_ you will always be open to temptation. 5. Change in behavior and attitude is most easily achieved through a changed self-image. Spend time every day imagining yourself strong and in control, easily overcoming tempting situations. 6. Begin to work daily on a self-improvement program. Relate this plan to improving your Church service, to improving your relationships with your family, God and others. Strive to enhance your strengths and talents. 7. Be outgoing and friendly. Force yourself to be with others and learn to enjoy working and talking to them. Use principles of developing friendships found in books such as How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. 8. Be aware of situations that depress you or that cause you to feel lonely, bored, frustrated or discouraged. These emotional states can trigger the desire to masturbate as a way of escape. Plan in advance to counter these low periods through various activities, such as reading a book, visiting a friend, doing something athletic, etc. 9. Make a pocket calendar for a month on a small card. Carry it with you, but show it to no one. If you have a lapse of self control, color the day black. Your goal will be to have no black days. The calendar becomes a strong visual reminder of self control and should be looked at when you are tempted to add another black day. Keep your calendar up until you have at least three clear months. 10. A careful study will indicate you have had the problem at certain times and under certain conditions. Try and recall, in detail, what your particular times and conditions were. Now that you understand how it happens, plan to break the pattern through counter activities. 11. In the field of psychotherapy there is a very effective technique called aversion therapy. When we associate or think of something very distasteful with something which has been pleasurable, but undesirable, the distasteful thought and feeling will begin to cancel out that which was pleasurable. If you associate something very distasteful with your loss of self-control it will help you to stop the act. For example, if you are tempted to masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of worms, and eating several of them as you do the act. 12. During your toileting and shower activities leave the bathroom door or shower curtain partly open, to discourage being alone in total privacy. Take cool brief showers. 13. Arise immediately in the mornings. Do not lie in bed awake, no matter what time of day it is. Get up and do something. Start each day with an enthusiastic activity. 14. Keep your bladder empty. Refrain from drinking large amounts of fluids before retiring. 15. Reduce the amount of spices and condiments in your food. Eat as lightly as possible at night. 16. Wear pajamas that are difficult to open, yet loose and not binding. 17. Avoid people, situations, pictures or reading materials that might create sexual excitement. 18. It is sometimes helpful to have a physical object to use in overcoming this problem. A Book of Mormon, firmly held in hand, even in bed at night has proven helpful in extreme cases. 19. In very severe cases it may be necessary to tie a hand to the bed frame with a tie in order that the habit of masturbating in a semi-sleep condition can be broken. This can also be accomplished by wearing several layers of clothing which would be difficult to remove while half asleep. 20. Set up a reward system for your successes. It does not have to be a big reward. A quarter in a receptacle each time you overcome or reach a goal. Spend it on something which delights you and will be a continuing reminder of your progress. 21. Do not let yourself return to any past habit or attitude patterns which were part of your problem. Satan never gives up. Be calmly and confidently on guard. Keep a positive mental attitude. You can win this fight! The joy and strength you will feel when you do will give your whole life a radiant and spiritual glow of satisfaction and fulfillment. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 1. Wisdom (gyan) : is the complete knowledge of a set of religious principles. It can be achieved by hearing good, thinking good and doing good. A man of wisdom tries to achieve a high moral standard in his life and interaction with others. According to Sikhism, the first steps to wisdom is to consider oneself as an ignorant person who has to learn a lot in life. 2. Truthful Living (sat) : This is more than 'truth'. It means living according to the way of God i.e. the thoughts should match the words that a person speaks and his actions should also match his words. Truthful living brings a person closer to God. 3. Justice (niaon) : means freedom and equal opportunities for all. Respect for the rights of others and strict absence of attempts to exploit a fellow being. Sikhism forbids the desire to loot another's property. It also strictly instructs the Sikhs to show respect even for the women and children of an enemy. 4. Temperance (santokh) : means self control which has to be developed through meditation and prayers. A Sikh has to banish evil thoughts from his mind by constantly repeating Gods name and reciting prayers. Torture to the body to develop self-control is not advocated in Sikhism 5. Patience (dhiraj) : implies a high level of tolerance and empathy for others. It requires control over ones ego and willingness to overlook another's weakness or mistakes. It requires that a Sikh should be strong willed, but kind hearted. 6. Courage (himmat) : means bravery i.e. absence of fear. It is the ability to stake ones life for ones convictions and for saving others from injustice or cruelty. 7. Humility (namarta) : is a deliberate denial of pleasure at one's own praise and admiration. It means underplaying ones own strengths and respecting the abilities of others. It is the antidote to 'ahankar' 8. Contentment (sabar) : means refraining from worldly fears and submitting oneself to the will of God. The typical worldly fears can be fear of death, poverty, disrespect and defeat. It is this virtue that has given the Sikhs the moral strength to withstand the various atrocities committed on their community in the last three centuries. at gurus time, Guru gobind singh said abt sikhs - ਜ੝ੱਧ ਜਿਤੇ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕੇ ਪ੝ਰਸਾਦਿ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕੇ ਪ੝ਰਸਾਦਿ ਸ੝ ਦਾਨ ਕਰੇ ॥ ਅਘ ਅਉਘ ਟਰੈ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕੇ ਪ੝ਰਸਾਦਿ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕ੝ਰਿਪਾ ਫ੝ਨ ਧਾਮ ਭਰੇ ॥ जढ़ढ़ध जिते इन ही के पढ़रसादि इन ही के पढ़रसादि सढ़ दान करे ॥ अघ अउघ टरै इन ही के पढ़रसादि इन ही कढ़रिपा फढ़न धाम भरे ॥ By the kindness of these Sikhs, I have conquered the wars and also by their kindness, I have bestowed charities; by their kindness the clusters on sins have been destroyed and by their kindness my house is full of wealth and materials; What are you giving to gurus know blady kaam, krofh lobh moh & hankaar. How can u think that guru is with you. If you leave all this then guru says o sahib main us daa chela lets bid before god and ask sorry to him - “O my Master. I am silly, save me, 0 my Lord-God! Thy slave’s praise in thine own glory!” (AG, 166) Waheguru ji ka khalsa , Waheguru ji ki Fateh.