The Judgemental "sikh".

[Sarbloh]

Recently I can’t help but notice the judgemental attitude of young Sikhs. As ordinary people we have not attained the mind of true self-control and are still making the distinction between ourselves and others. We continue counting life's successes and failures, rights and wrongs, praise and blame, in the tens of millions and seem far from escaping this condition. No one is immune from criticism and blame. To the ordinary person criticism can sometimes cause such upset, giving rise to suffering, and greatly effecting that persons esteem and spiritual journey.

To avoid being judgemental, we should look at and correct our own mistakes, not watch or discuss the behaviours of others. We are fond of praise, loathe criticism, delight in exposing other people's mistakes while not realising that we ourselves have many more failings and are nothing to be proud of! For this reason, we should observe and correct ourselves, not watch or discuss other people's actions. Examining and correcting our own mistakes will develop our wisdom, while watching and discussing the failings of others will only create bias and prejudice.

When we are the object of slander or blame, we should remain calm and forbearing and not necessarily seek ways to justify ourselves. If a sheet of white paper is stained by a spot of black ink, left alone it will be smudged in only one place and the spot will gradually fade away. If, on the other hand, we try to erase the blot, the whole sheet can become dirty. No amount of praise or ridicule from outside can make us good or bad, free from suffering; everything depends on ourselves and how much faith we have in Sri Akal Purakh.

Just my opinion..

[Khalsa4ever]

Waheguroo jee ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo jee kee Fateh!

Good post!

Waheguroo jee ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo jee kee Fateh!

[Punjabi_Link]

yeah good post.

[kaur_khalistani_lioness]

peaceful!

[lowest of the low singhni]

vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh

nice post.

To avoid being judgemental, we should look at and correct our own mistakes, not watch or discuss the behaviours of others. We are fond of praise, loathe criticism, delight in exposing other people's mistakes while not realising that we ourselves have many more failings and are nothing to be proud of! For this reason, we should observe and correct ourselves, not watch or discuss other people's actions. Examining and correcting our own mistakes will develop our wisdom, while watching and discussing the failings of others will only create bias and prejudice.

this is definately a way to avoid being judgemental, but is it sometimes our duty to correct other people's mistakes? maybe there has to be a balance between self-improvement and helping others. :lol:

also, people often complain about a lack of parcharaks for the youth... is this because the 'Gurmukhs' who have the ability to do parchaar don't want their ego to increase/jeevan to get messed up and so remain 'Gupt'? where's the line between helping or teaching others (preferably in a constructive manner) and concentrating on our own life?

:lol::

~l~

vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh

[Balwinder Singh]

Being judgemental is ingrained in us. It comes out of our own insecurity and ego.

I think its hard to just STOP being judgemental unless we get His grace.

[20legend]

most amrit shakiya people i talk to judge me, they always preach on about how great what there doing is and how the rest of us are all people that can do no right - however, it must also be mentioned that i know alot of amrit shakiya people that talk to me with piyaar and try and explain things to me instead of talking at me!

i think theres a mix of the two in society today, the earlier should be eliminated as it drives more and more people away from sikhi rather than towards sikhi!