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I agree with most of the members on this, let your parents decide. Yes, true u can find great ppl online..friends and all but marriage is like da biggest step in life (well, at least for me) so, there shudnt be any rush in jst meeting some1 and jst bec u like their talks u decide to marry. There is more to that...than just two ppl meeting eachother...if you let ur parents decide, the decission is usally taken on by looking at the families as well as the couple.

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enough of these "marriage/dating" threads already

there have been LOADS

make yourself a member and do a search

dont just comment on something like that. yes there hve been many threads but each situation differers somewhat. tell me if u read anything like what is posted by the original poster in other marriage/dating threads?? (not tryin to be harsh or make u feel =( forgve me if it does...jus u are young and these things will make more sense to u when u at that age. life isnt that simple)

somene asks advice ...nd we need to be sensitive.. the thing they are talkin about is something that requires a lot of reflection/thinking and asking advice is normal/GOOD thing.

she is hurt and needs to talk to someone. some cuts/wounds on our body requires different kind of bandage dont it? thus every situation requires somewhat different advice.

to Org poster: Sava Lakh has posted a link and it has many very good articles on marriage etc... read those and see if they help

also...think of it as it wasnt meant to be...u'll find someone better=) and will learn to applicate him(the guy u marry) more because of this incident. But if u liked this guy that much then maybe ask him what went wrong? sometimes its just the way we communicate...when we say something the other person doesn't exactly get what u are trying to say nd make up their own meaning.its imp to make sure the other person is on the same page as u.

hope ur feelin better

bhul chuk muaf karni

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

waheguru ji kakhalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

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dont worry over one guy he sounds like an a hole. you need to meet as many people as you possibly can most of them will not be right for you but eventually one will be. you just need to meet lots. and try to find people in your area so you can actually meet them. don't have a long online relationship before meeting them. meet them as soon as you can so that you will not waste your time. you dont want to text some one for six months online and then relise you don't like the person once you'v met. try different sites too.

just keep your wits about you and meet in a public place bring a friend if you like. and don't let your parents push to do rash things you arnt ready for take your time. just my thoughts on the subject.

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enough of these "marriage/dating" threads already

there have been LOADS

make yourself a member and do a search

dont just comment on something like that. yes there hve been many threads but each situation differers somewhat. tell me if u read anything like what is posted by the original poster in other marriage/dating threads?? (not tryin to be harsh or make u feel =( forgve me if it does...jus u are young and these things will make more sense to u when u at that age. life isnt that simple)

somene asks advice ...nd we need to be sensitive.. the thing they are talkin about is something that requires a lot of reflection/thinking and asking advice is normal/GOOD thing.

she is hurt and needs to talk to someone. some cuts/wounds on our body requires different kind of bandage dont it? thus every situation requires somewhat different advice.

to Org poster: Sava Lakh has posted a link and it has many very good articles on marriage etc... read those and see if they help

also...think of it as it wasnt meant to be...u'll find someone better=) and will learn to applicate him(the guy u marry) more because of this incident. But if u liked this guy that much then maybe ask him what went wrong? sometimes its just the way we communicate...when we say something the other person doesn't exactly get what u are trying to say nd make up their own meaning.its imp to make sure the other person is on the same page as u.

hope ur feelin better

bhul chuk muaf karni

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

waheguru ji kakhalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

yes thats fine, but "dating" is not a thing associated with sikhi

some of the replies on this topic have amazed me

"you need to meet as many people as you possibly can most of them will not be right for you but eventually one will be."

no no no no no

you dont need to meet anyone. let your parents arrange your marriage.

these kind of posts should be put on a "dating and relationships" forum

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Yea we got you the first time akj, and we all know ur views. obv the original poster is different than you so try openin ur mind 2 another person's point of view. She sed she was under pressure to get married from her rents so seems like they're not bein proactive as such.. & im sure u kno that a lot of the tym parents dnt have the same criteria as their child.

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i don' agree with people who are saying let your parents decide. what if your parents are monai and want you to marry a mona? doesn't make sense if you like someone and think they would be good marriage material then get in touch with someone who knows them and ask them to ask if that other person is intrested. if not ask elders to look for suitable match parents only look for money and status, no offense end of the day you should be happy with your partner in every sense

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her post was about asking advice about using dating websites so apparently her parents arnt finding her some one. i don't see any thing wrong with dating as long as the purpose is for finding some one for marriage and you don't get blinded by kam. if dating is against sikhi please enlightin me. i would however strongly suggest consulting parents or some respected gursikhs before you do marry.

ps just out of curiosity don't feel obligated to answer. but have your parents are you married and did your parents arrainge it. just curious. that might make a good thread.

i apoligise if iv offended any one.

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