Wearing Dastaar (Female)

[waheguru27]

So basically, I've recently taken Amrit two days ago away from my family and there finding it so hard to accept what I've done. Making me feel quite guilty about it. I don't regret the taking of Amrit but I may have rushed the decision when thinking about wearing the Dastaar. I understand its a huge huge step, but I feel like it's making me fall into a state where I don't want to leave my room, because I'm being judged. Although I should feel proud, I don't think I'm ready to wear the Dastaar, dishonouring Waheguru I fully understand. But it's knocking me down quite a bit; any suggestions or advice from anyone would be good please.

WJKK WJKF.

[savinderpalsingh]

wjkk wjkf

welcome and congrats .

you can wear a scarf over head. covering heading is a necessity all times

[pleetto091]

Dastaar is for both male and female. Guru Gobind Singh Ji didn't discriminate, so why should we?

Scarf does not substitute for Guru ji's crown, which is the Dastaar.

[ms514]

VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH

Dastaar is a mandated Hukam from Guru Sahib (52 Hukams from Nander Sahib). And unfortunately, it is not uncommon for parents to express initial apprehension to the Dastaar.

Give them time, patience and do not fight back. If they ask, politely respond that it is Guru Sahib's Hukam. Your parents love you and will come around and accept you for you.

Also understand that you have new parents - Sahib Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji and Mata Sahib Kaur Ji - you also want to make sure you keep them happy. You were inspired correctly to wear the Dastaar and should take pride in that you are keeping a Rehat of Gursikhs like Mata Bhag Kaur. Do not retract from this but rather carry forward, knowing that Guru Sahib is with you at all times.

[manvimattu]

Myself and my wife do not live together due to some issues involving two different countries. For 3 years she was very hesitant to wear a Distar. Our relationship started to fall apart due to some reasons. We both wanted to resolve all the differences. I told her that she must wear a Distar. She was very scared of her mother. The day came when she put her foot down and started to wear a distar. Her mother just started to say so many things but once she put the distar on few days maybe a month later her mother quietened down. Another words if wish to do something people might not like it but remember people are so busy in their own life they forget.

[pavitarsk]

Myself and my wife do not live together due to some issues involving two different countries. For 3 years she was very hesitant to wear a Distar. Our relationship started to fall apart due to some reasons. We both wanted to resolve all the differences. I told her that she must wear a Distar. She was very scared of her mother. The day came when she put her foot down and started to wear a distar. Her mother just started to say so many things but once she put the distar on few days maybe a month later her mother quietened down. Another words if wish to do something people might not like it but remember people are so busy in their own life they forget.

Good read! :toohappy:

[TurbanGuys]

Just watched some Iranian Girls in asian games and the notable thing is that how they are proud of wearing scarf on their heads ..really inspiring... then whats wrong with you? even being a sikh girl its your obligation to cover up your head.

[S1ngh]

Congrats ! You should be happy that you got blessed with Amrit.

Go with what you really want but make sure you don't end up doing something for sake of others.

It is time for you to develop your soul for Naam Simran and that alone will help you out down the road.

[simran345]

So basically, I've recently taken Amrit two days ago away from my family and there finding it so hard to accept what I've done. Making me feel quite guilty about it. I don't regret the taking of Amrit but I may have rushed the decision when thinking about wearing the Dastaar. I understand its a huge huge step, but I feel like it's making me fall into a state where I don't want to leave my room, because I'm being judged. Although I should feel proud, I don't think I'm ready to wear the Dastaar, dishonouring Waheguru I fully understand. But it's knocking me down quite a bit; any suggestions or advice from anyone would be good please.

WJKK WJKF.

Oh no that's sad, they should be proud of u. I guess it affects family too when u make the step but don't let it stop u. Don't rebel back as will make things worse, just wear it with pride. They will have to adjust as long as u are not forcing them to you should wear if u want to. What exactly are they making u feel guilty about? Is it coz they don't see any girls with dastars where u live ?