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I need some help. I am a catholic, British female and my partner is a British sikh male. We want to get married this year and what to do the ceremony in a temple in India. Legally we won't be 'married' as I'm aware we have to be in the country for at least 30 days before they can pass everything and so we just want to do the ceremony in India then when we come home, legalise it here. My question however to you all is.... Will a temple allow me to have the ceremony seeing as I'm not sikh? ?

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I need some help. I am a catholic, British female and my partner is a British sikh male. We want to get married this year and what to do the ceremony in a temple in India. Legally we won't be 'married' as I'm aware we have to be in the country for at least 30 days before they can pass everything and so we just want to do the ceremony in India then when we come home, legalise it here. My question however to you all is.... Will a temple allow me to have the ceremony seeing as I'm not sikh? ?

This video explains it:
Also since you're a Christian, the Bible says something about being unevenly yoked,of course you could just become a Sikh. Interfaith marriages only cause confusion, both of you should accept Christianity or Sikhi, it's much easier that way.
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In response to the last post, though my partner is sikh, he does not attend the temple much etc, he leads a good and honest life etc just doesn't necessarily know the ins and outs of Sikhism. We have plans in place to go to India in December then someone mentioned we may not be able to so now we are concerned. If we can't, it will be very disappointing not to have been accepted.

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In response to the last post, though my partner is sikh, he does not attend the temple much etc, he leads a good and honest life etc just doesn't necessarily know the ins and outs of Sikhism. We have plans in place to go to India in December then someone mentioned we may not be able to so now we are concerned. If we can't, it will be very disappointing not to have been accepted.

I do believe it is best for you 2 to have a court marriage, because when you get an Anand Karaj, you promise that Guru Granth Sahib is the center of your life: how would you do that as a Christian, or how would he do that as a "liberal" Sikh? Did you watch the video?
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I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but why have you decided to marry in an Indian temple, if your intended husband does not know "the ins and outs of " Sikhism. the marriage ceremony involves a commitment to follow Guru Granth Sahibji. if you find a place in india that agrees to go ahead, you and intended husband should look into what the ceremony means and also into the basic values of Sikhi, otherwise it is disrespectful to our Guru and makes a mockery of the Anand Karaj.

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I recommend partying it up. There are pleanty of pre wedding cultural cermonies you can engage in but in terms of the actual marriage not doing it the Sikh way in a gurdwara as others recommenced.. unless you both decide to take amrit or something.

Also see if you are interested in learning more about the wedding and what its about

http://sikhism.about.com/od/sikhweddinghymns/a/Lavan.htm

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