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Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Vaheguru Ji Ke Fateh

Why shouldn't I kill myself?

I wish my soul never existed to be in this cycle of life and death. I feel like I don't deserve to be happy, and that Vaheguru Ji hates me. Why did He bother with me?

My eyes well up when I think of how much I've let down my Guru, and how I'll never experience Gursikhi Jeevan. I'll get worse. I feel like I won't get any help in my life because I am a waste. My Guru is disappointing with me. No one sees any hope in me.

I simply don't care anymore, I might as well add to my bad deeds by killing myself in every life because what is the point of never being happy in the life I am living?

I've messed my life up big time.

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Vjkk Vjkf penji,

I saw the title of your post and knew I had to reply - because I've also been going through something similar, some tough times these past few months and it's had a real negative effect on me; psychologically & my jeevan... 

But I know that Maharaj has been and will always be there for us, even after we make mistakes - He forgives but teaches us a lesson in the process.

The only thing that keeps me motivated to keep going is a Gurmantar jaap I've been trying to complete (in hope this will please Maharaj even in the slightest to help me in life) and sitting in Maharajs hazoori for as long as I can. I think you should try the same, as Maharaj will always help those who go to Him and beg, He knows our inner hearts and our pain and has done so many miracles for us all and will continue doing so.

Also this video helped me a lot - as Bhai Sahib explains he was majorly depressed but after he offered his heart to Maharaj things started falling in place. I think its a lesson for us all. 

Your life is worth living, regardless of the mistakes you have made, if you go to Maharaj and do a heartfelt ardaas he will show you the way, although it may take effort and time - He is the ultimate giver.

I hope you are slightly appeased after reading this.

Vjkk Vjkf! :-)

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Depending on what your bad deeds are, it is highly unlikely that guruji will hate you. He will want you back on the right path.

While you are alive, you have options. Options to change your life, albeit that might involve courage and difficult decisions. But there is a possibility of a better life and happiness. If you are dead, you have no options and the future will never improve and your life on this earth will have had no meaning and will have been a waste..

There is a lot of poison fanaticism being thrown around these forums. Ignore hostile answers and the fanatics. Repent for whatever it is you have done in front of the Guru, and have faith in the gurus path. But before all of that, calm your mind and evaluate what it is that makes you feel like that, what you can do to improve it, and for the rest put your faith in the guru. Things will turn around.

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Penji Singhni, Don't worry about anything, Waheguru doesn't hate anybody. 

Dont lose hope, You need to put your trust back into Waheguru and that will happen with time, if you let it and love Guruji. Guruji probably has something good lined up for you. You may not see it now, but you have to think this phase you are going through is temporary, it will not last, good days will come. 

Don't do anything stupid, is there anybody you can talk to? 

These links were pasted by Singhbj paji on another post, but I'm adding them here for you too. 

Contact one of them:

As Daljit paji has asked, how do you feel you have messed up? 

Stay in Hukam. 

Some shabads for you to sing, ask Guruji to help you. 



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You can mess-up a trillion times and counting and Vaheguru will still love you. Your love for the Vaheguru will provide a strong reason to live; and he won't let you fail, he loves you so much that he's blessed you with something 99% of the world will never know, and that is that Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Nanak Dev Ji will hold your hand every step of the way till the end of the time because he loves you. Don't do anything that will lead to sorrow for Vaheguru, human life is very valuable chance to meet Vaheguru: regardless of your past, as our way is through grace and love, not actions. (Though still important). Vaheguru loves you!

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this is my opinion based on my limited knowledge

it doesn't matter what you have done, what matters is that you realise it now; your lack of understanding probably underlies your feelings and leads to confusion

if you realise your shortcomings then you can make the changes. i would suggest you try to understand your purpose - that you have been given this chance of a human existence - you can learn this by doing what every sikh should do which is : be a sikh- a sikh is a learner and have your own personal development paln for sikhi - do your own research/study and become a student of Nanak- once you understand his teachings you will have your answers

remember Guru Nanak went and sat amongst those who had sinned too, from murders to thieves - and they changed....and so can you, become Nanak's student and he will show you the way

all the best 

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Listen toSarabRogKaAukhadNaam daily,and we are not here to impress anyone, but Vahiguroo Jio; who only expects us to Jaap Naam, so we can see Him within us:)


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You know, one thing Sikhs need to calm the hell down with is the crazy expectations of having x type of job, and having some sort of high flyer career in society and top university 'dagree'. Many times over the years, we come across brothers and sisters on the Interweb that are outright depressed and demoralised because they haven't got these things. Or because they went uni and things never went the way they wanted. 

I think that is dangerous. 

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7 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

You know, one thing Sikhs need to calm the hell down with is the crazy expectations of having x type of job, and having some sort of high flyer career in society and top university 'dagree'. Many times over the years, we come across brothers and sisters on the Interweb that are outright depressed and demoralised because they haven't got these things. Or because they went uni and things never went the way they wanted. 

I think that is dangerous. 

She never said what she did wrong.

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27 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

I was just making a general observation. Seen a few people post like I've mentioned over the years.

Not a logical reason for suicide. We all want perfection; however, that is only in the form of Vaheguru. Outside of that there is nothing even remotely close, no exceptiond that includes the Mahapurukhs, (Guru Sahib is not just some Mahapurukh, but Vaheguru himself so he doesn't count for this example), expectations are good; however, life doesn't go in the way we want but rarher what Vaheguru wants. We are the children of the one who sat on a burning plate and said, "Tera Kiya Meetha Laaga", (your will is sweet to me), and also the children of the one who gave-up his entire family but not once complained on Vaheguru's Hukam. 

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On 20/02/2017 at 11:11 PM, Guest Singhni said:

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Vaheguru Ji Ke Fateh

Why shouldn't I kill myself?

I wish my soul never existed to be in this cycle of life and death. I feel like I don't deserve to be happy, and that Vaheguru Ji hates me. Why did He bother with me?

My eyes well up when I think of how much I've let down my Guru, and how I'll never experience Gursikhi Jeevan. I'll get worse. I feel like I won't get any help in my life because I am a waste. My Guru is disappointing with me. No one sees any hope in me.

I simply don't care anymore, I might as well add to my bad deeds by killing myself in every life because what is the point of never being happy in the life I am living?

I've messed my life up big time.

God doesn't judge, he respects our decisions on how we choose to live our lives whether good or bad. No matter what you've done, vow to never to it again and do the below.  

I've been In a mindset similar to yours. You need to change your psychology drastically. 

Accept you've messed up, ask for forgiveness, although Hes already forgiven us, start sowing better deeds and hence better karams for yourself, be a good positive soul.


Suicide is digging your hole deeper, instead, start climbing out of the hole youve dug for yourself. I've done it and you can too :)


God bless you.

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lakh khusee-aa paatisaahee-aa jay satgur nadar karay-i

isrIrwgu mhlw(44-4)
sireeraag mehlaa 5
Siree Raag, Fifth Mehl


sBy Qok prwpqy jy AwvY ieku hiQ ]
sabhay thok paraapatay jay aavai ik hath.
All things are received if the One is obtained.

jnmu pdwrQu sPlu hY jy scw sbdu kiQ ]
janam padaarath safal hai jay sachaa sabad kath.
The precious gift of this human life becomes fruitful when one chants the True Word of the Shabad.

gur qy mhlu prwpqy ijsu iliKAw hovY miQ ]1]
gur tay mahal paraapatay jis likhi-aa hovai math. ||1||
One who has such destiny written on his forehead enters the Mansion of the Lord's Presence, through the Guru. ||1||

myry mn eyks isau icqu lwie ]
mayray man aykas si-o chit laa-ay.
O my mind, focus your consciousness on the One.

eyks ibnu sB DMDu hY sB imiQAw mohu mwie ]1] rhwau ]
aykas bin sabh DhanDh hai sabh mithi-aa moh maa-ay. ||1|| rahaa-o.
Without the One, all entanglements are worthless; emotional attachment to Maya is totally false. ||1||Pause||

lK KusIAw pwiqswhIAw jy siqguru ndir kryie ]
lakh khusee-aa paatisaahee-aa jay satgur nadar karay-i.
Hundreds of thousands of princely pleasures are enjoyed, if the True Guru bestows His Glance of Grace.

inmK eyk hir nwmu dyie myrw mnu qnu sIqlu hoie ]
nimakh ayk har naam day-ay mayraa man tan seetal ho-ay.
If He bestows the Name of the Lord, for even a moment, my mind and body are cooled and soothed.

ijs kau pUrib iliKAw iqin siqgur crn ghy ]2]
jis ka-o poorab likhi-aa tin satgur charan gahay. ||2||
Those who have such pre-ordained destiny hold tight to the Feet of the True Guru. ||2||

sPl mUrqu sPlw GVI ijqu scy nwil ipAwru ]
safal moorat saflaa gharhee jit sachay naal pi-aar.
Fruitful is that moment, and fruitful is that time, when one is in love with the True Lord.

dUKu sMqwpu n lgeI ijsu hir kw nwmu ADwru ]
dookh santaap na lag-ee jis har kaa naam aDhaar.
Suffering and sorrow do not touch those who have the Support of the Name of the Lord.

bwh pkiV guir kwiFAw soeI auqirAw pwir ]3]
baah pakarh gur kaadhi-aa so-ee utri-aa paar. ||3||
Grasping him by the arm, the Guru lifts them up and out, and carries them across to the other side. ||3||

Qwnu suhwvw pivqu hY ijQY sMq sBw ]
thaan suhaavaa pavit hai jithai sant sabhaa.
Embellished and immaculate is that place where the Saints gather together.

FoeI iqs hI no imlY ijin pUrw gurU lBw ]
dho-ee tis hee no milai jin pooraa guroo labhaa.
He alone finds shelter, who has met the Perfect Guru.

nwnk bDw Gru qhW ijQY imrqu n jnmu jrw ]4]6]76]
naanak baDhaa ghar tahaaN jithai mirat na janam jaraa. ||4||6||76||
Nanak builds his house upon that site where there is no death, no birth, and no old age. ||4||6||76|

Vahiguroo rakha bhul chuk muaf_/\_

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