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i agree with some of the posters above, it is a BBC article after all, the BBC is anti asian male and loves to portray asian women as tragic heroines and victims of asian men, its a narrative that they love selling.  they love hearing emotional sagas from asian women and other ethnic women.  not that im saying she is false but you should take BBC with a pinch of salt. 

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3 minutes ago, puzzled said:

yeah its odd because she's not bad looking, sounds cultured, talks about importance of faith etc  so i don't get why she's having problems! to say not a single man in the last 10 years wanted to marry her because she is divorced is odd! like not a single man in a whole whopping decade? 

maybe she sounds undesirable during her dates? 

Maybe she is really keen to get married again and comes off a certain way when she meets potential blokes.

I've known girls who are divorced with kids who still find husbands, so.... ????

Appearing too needy is a big turn off (not saying this women is doing this though). That goes for men and women. 

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3 minutes ago, puzzled said:

i think once you her age its hard for you to gel with your in laws because your almost middle aged yourself 

women who marry in their early 20s or mid 20s are more likely to gel with their inlaws because they still young and have a lot to learn 

 

Just now, puzzled said:

i agree with some of the posters above, it is a BBC article after all, the BBC is anti asian male and loves to portray asian women as tragic heroines and victims of asian men, its a narrative that they love selling.  they love hearing emotional sagas from asian and other ethnic women.  not that im saying she is false but you should take BBC with a pinch of salt. 

Spot on both times.

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Just now, puzzled said:

i agree with some of the posters above, it is a BBC article after all, the BBC is anti asian male and loves to portray asian women as tragic heroines and victims of asian men, its a narrative that they love selling.  they love hearing emotional sagas from asian and other ethnic women.  not that im saying she is false but you should take BBC with a pinch of salt. 

Absolutely. Let's not forget the small matter of how they harboured and promoted a whole gang of pedos for decades. I should know, I grew up watching them all on children's TV growing up.....

And they still have the gall to take pot shots at our community. The audacity and sheer hypocrisy of these people is something to be marvelled at. 

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yeah a few years ago i started watching the news especially the bbc but it didn't take long for me to realize that its all bs!   bbc is probably the most biased ones out there,  cant believe some people still take it seriously 

they also feed you with a lot of liberal feminist new age bs    

who remembers that 1984 sikh story doc that they made with sonia deol, they made sikh men look like terrorists and extremists. and then recently they made one on alcoholic sikh men 

its all biased bs and brainwashing 

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You know what. There is a breed of Sikh female who just seems constantly vexed and wants to put the boot into males of the community because of bad experiences. 

Okay I understand this. But if I did the same because I've had x amount of bad experiences with SIkh females - it would just be weird. 

 

Top of the list is this sister: Jasvinder Sanghera

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3 hours ago, puzzled said:

i think once you her age its hard for you to gel with your in laws because your almost middle aged yourself 

women who marry in their early 20s or mid 20s are more likely to gel with their inlaws because they still young and have a lot to learn 

Women generally find it hard to gel with their in law's. 

But her real problem isn't because she is a divorcee, it is the reality she is facing that as a woman in her late 30's,  she is going to find it hard to marry a guy because of her age.

She knows she may not be as pretty as when she was in her 20's.

She left it for 5 years before looking again into her 30's.

Her grandmother being an older wiser woman knew instinctively that there is a shelf life for women in the marriage market and that looks aren't going to last forever. 

Some of the posters here may think that age does not matter but if there is a 35 year old man and he had a choice between a 38 year old woman or a 30 year old woman, it's a no brainer which one he would prefer. 

Men are attracted to youth because biologically we are looking for fertility in women.

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1 hour ago, dallysingh101 said:

You know what. There is a breed of Sikh female who just seems constantly vexed and wants to put the boot into males of the community because of bad experiences. 

Okay I understand this. But if I did the same because I've had x amount of bad experiences with SIkh females - it would just be weird. 

 

Top of the list is this sister: Jasvinder Sanghera

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That sums up most feminists 

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