Missing Sikh women in East London - keep eyes open

[MisterrSingh 3,809]

15 minutes ago, learningkaur said:

So I was referring to the last thing he said about he’s seen a mother drink with her daughter. I can think of a pair like that who completely changed.

I wasn’t thinking to the extremeness of your example. There are psychological reasons why some girls are so crazy, generally tends to be due to a lack of attention or love from their parents, normally those silly families which favour the sons over their daughters. Hence what I mean by looking at everything black and white.

In regards to the example you used about the poor singh- there seems to be a lot of talking about this woman did that that woman did that. You guys need to remember and acknowledge that sometimes or a lot of the times it’s actually the poor woman who had to accept a changed ex kanj*r gross masturbating porn watching man. Read about enough singhs on here with masturbation problems.

A person is more than entitled to undergo their transformation to a better self. But nobody is under any obligation to accept that person either during or after the process. Non-acceptance by a third party shouldn't be a reflection on that person's spirituality or wisdom, etc.

[learningkaur 69]

1 minute ago, MisterrSingh said:

A person is more than entitled to undergo their transformation to a better self. But nobody is under any obligation to accept that person either during or after the process. Non-acceptance by a third party shouldn't be a reflection on that person's spirituality or wisdom, etc.

Yes of course it’s upto the individual, I agree

[learningkaur 69]

2 minutes ago, puzzled said:

I don't understand what is so judgmental about what i said? 

Just said to understand Sikhi you need some traditional values and boundaries. Being raised in an environment where drinking alcohol with your mother pretty much crosses all boundaries, a person raised like that would not see the wrong in it as it is the norm, so how would such a person find Sikhi and conservative Sikh culture appealing?  Yes you will have one or two people change here and there, but I'm talking about the vast majority here. 

A person raised in traditional Punjabi household with all the wrongs of Punjabi "culture" happening in their house, still understands traditional values, morals and boundaries and is more likely to get into Sikhi than someone who has been raised in a very westernized liberal way e.g getting p1ssed with your mother on the weekends! 

Sorry I’ve just generally seen you post so and so did this, so and so done that which stood out. Just an observation that’s all. No offence meant.

[MisterrSingh 3,809]

I honestly hope we're not indirectly slandering the poor girl in the first post. It's just a very interesting situation. It might be completely innocuous. She really might've gone jogging in form-fitting clothing and got lost. Unlikely but you never know.

[ChardikalaUK 133]

When you have 3 daughters, it can be difficult. They will all try to rebel and the father has little chance to stand his ground, 4 women against 1 guy. 

[MisterrSingh 3,809]

11 hours ago, ChardikalaUK said:

When you have 3 daughters, it can be difficult. They will all try to rebel and the father has little chance to stand his ground, 4 women against 1 guy. 

Someone where along the way, perhaps around the middle of the previous century onwards, rebellion was normalised as a rite of passage for most youth. It's been fetished and lauded as a positive quality -- something to aspire to by pandering to the belief that originality and intelligence stem from rebelling -- so much so that most youngsters do it unthinkingly as if it's expected of them. Sikhs, being the sheep they are, fall for and embrance these trends with more enthusiasm than other groups. A shallow, base mentality for a shallow and base people.

[Kau89r8 241]

As everyone thought, she'd run away with her bf...

Curious to know the background this bf

[Premi5 199]

Wouldn’t be surprised if he’s black or Bangladeshi or someone other than the usual

[puzzled 2,762]

Hasn't the family just humiliated themselves now, her face slapped all over the internet and social media, only for her to casually return the next day, and from what i see its really starting to backfire, her family were not being honest all along. Rather than making it into a embarrassing national search party family should of just accepted her relationship and done whatever she was asking for, or given her the boot, its one or the other.  The family knew all along that she isn't "missing"  lol  and they never "found" her she just casually comes back the next day.

 

[puzzled 2,762]

Just had a look on twitter and there were people from all around the globe praying for her return! Whites, Blacks, Muslims etc! 

[Kau89r8 241]

49 minutes ago, puzzled said:

Just had a look on twitter and there were people from all around the globe praying for her return! Whites, Blacks, Muslims etc! 

Diljit Dosanj, mandy takhar jazzy b and so many singers celebs were posting about it too on social media

Pure besti..no wander the muslims and everyone else are laughing...whats makes it even more embarrassing is they called Sikh youth uk first and didnt call the police for a while even many were telling them to call police 1st and they seemed hesitant...maybe if'd they'd called police first who would have analysed and look through cctv and take appropriate actions if she was 'missing' it'd be less embarrassments, then get the whole world to say shes 'missing'....

 

[Ranjeet01 1,765]

8 minutes ago, Kau89r8 said:

Diljit Dosanj, mandy takhar jazzy b and so many singers celebs were posting about it too on social media

Pure besti..no wander the muslims and everyone else are laughing...whats makes it even more embarrassing is they called Sikh youth uk first and didnt call the police for a while even many were telling them to call police 1st and they seemed hesitant...maybe if'd they'd called police first who would have analysed and look through cctv and take appropriate actions if she was 'missing' it'd be less embarrassments, then get the whole world to say shes 'missing'....

 

A person has to be missing for more than 24 hours for the police to look for a missing person.

She is not under the age of 16 or 18, where she will be seen as a minor.

[Akalifauj 900]

1 hour ago, puzzled said:

Hasn't the family just humiliated themselves now, her face slapped all over the internet and social media, only for her to casually return the next day, and from what i see its really starting to backfire, her family were not being honest all along. Rather than making it into a embarrassing national search party family should of just accepted her relationship and done whatever she was asking for, or given her the boot, its one or the other.  The family knew all along that she isn't "missing"  lol  and they never "found" her she just casually comes back the next day.

 

You don't know the family situation and who her bf was and what his motives were.   Best to keep the assumptions to yourself,  this goes for every punjabi munching on fast food as they analyze something they have barely any info on.  What if, her bf was a groomer and making a cry for help from the family scared the groomer from trafficking her to another country? This is a big if, but it has happened. Whether she is 23 or 35, there are many scary ways to traffick women in the country and take them to a muslim country where she would be gone forever.  Wouldn't you feel really stupid for judging the family if this was the case?  Majority of punjabis are safe, tucked away from the dark side of the world.  The cruelty that rest on the other side is kept separate by a paper thin wall by your parents.  Be glad, be grateful this wasn't you (speaking to everyone who became sherlock Holmes).  Daddy and mommy don't tuck you in (again speaking to everyone who became sherlock Holmes) at night but their protection layer is around you.  

 

It took a panthic effort to maybe put her on the right track.  I doubt it her mom and dad would want to put their daughter on blast over social media just for having a boyfriend.  Punjabis are big on izzat.  

[AjeetSingh2019 210]

4 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

A shallow, base mentality for a shallow and base people

but if we're sikhs of such elated gurus, how can we be so shallow and base ?

if I dared dig deeper , I might open a pandora's box I fear. 

[AjeetSingh2019 210]

girls eloping with boyfriends ,often non-sikhs , seem to be not uncommon in sikhs 

The daughter of local granthi singh , who himself seems quite a pious and gursikh man, had some affair with her non-sikh bf . It caused quite a gossip in local sikh circle . Poor father had to bear the bezti , so he's marrying off her to some sikh guy in punjab. 

There was another family , 2 daughters, one of them would rarely leave house, was a "homely" girl , quiet and reserved , even did masters in commerce, but apparently ran away with a christian boyfriend . Her family digged her back from that relationship and married her off to some sikh guy in UK and themselves left mumbai. Our immediate neighbors, both daughters, ran away with musleh . 

This seems to be not an uncommon theme in sikh families . I won't say its common, but its not that rare either. 

Do our daughters see bad models of sikh men in their fathers ? we need to introspect