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Try this, think of the person you hate the most or the person who hates you the most. Now close your eyes and in your mind say "<Name of person>, Guru Nanak Dev Ji tay-ra bhulla karay" do this every day for a week. This kills your hate, that bitterness, that negativity you have for this person starts to dissipate. Guru Ji also blesses you. It is easy to say good things about the people we love but very hard to say positive things about those we hate. We then start to mold our mind away from negativity towards people and not only do we feel better but our Mann gets proper chittar, because he is the one who takes us down the wrong road. Little changes make a difference, little changes we can manage in this hectic world. So make those little changes do not stay stationary make those changes. Make changes about naam and simran. One day do meditation on "nothing" clear your mind, the next day try 5 mallas of Waheguru, the next try 5 chaupai sahibs, the next just repeat Dhan Guru Nanak, Dhan Guru Nanak. Make that change.

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Our body is like a temple and we need to keep it clean outside and in. Outside, because it houses our soul and if it does not function properly then we cannot concentrate on our soul. So set goals for your body: Lose weight; we can all do with losing a little weight. Eat more greens. The deeper the vegetable colours are the better they are for the body, full of antioxidants. Deep breathing exercises, good for calming the nerves and prepares the body for meditation. Set goals for the soul: This is our main goal everything else is peripheral. Set goal to get up amritwella. Set goal to recite daily the panj banies. Set goal to mentally do mutha-take of jyote of AkaalPurkh that resides within you. Set goal to recite mool mantra whenever you are cooking or making a sandwich or making a cup of tea. Think about what you are good at, if you doodle on pieces of paper then try taking up drawing. Do you have an eye for a good picture then try photography. Be creative , open your mind, be happy and keep Guru Jis name on your lips at all time.

Habits can make or break a person. This change happens slowly without us realizing it. Then one day all of a sudden we stop to think and wonder - what went wrong there? Developing a new habit can help you keep up with things. A new habit has to be a conscious thing. That means you need to have a goal to achieve. For instance you want to loose weight. Therefore you will start to eat healthy. When you start a new habit you will automatically drop a bad or less healthier one. The purpose of this thread is to make us aware of the good habits floating around. So this thread goes like this GOAL : weight loss When I started drinking black tea then I left drinking tea with milk. GOAL: Spiritual awareness When I started reading Sikh sangat I stopped reading mumsnet GOAL: Healthy Eating When I started eating beans on toast I stopped eating paronthe. GOAL: Controlling anger When I started praying regularly I stopped shouting and negative talk Please share and lets learn what others are doing too.

I'm getting the big trolley, lol.

Here we come Waitrose waleo ?I was talking to a nutritionist today and she mentioned Quinoa being a good protein alternative to meat. She did tell me a curry recipe but I didn't the notes and forgot it ?

I like these thoughts.

Quorn now have a VEGAN range available here in Uk ...I have seen it available on Ocado.com but I'm sure if we badger local supermarkets they will start to stock it

Have you ever noticed people who go to the Gurdwara and they have been going to the Gurdwara for years yet they are the same now as they were years ago. Nothing has changed in their lives they come to the Gurdwara do mutha-take, listen and go home. Some come to the Gurdwara, they even do sewa in the langar hall or elsewhere, for years, yet they remain the same. Why has meeting the sangat or doing sewa of the sangat not affected their lives? Why are they the same now as they were years ago? Why has all that bani all that sewa not had an effect on their soul? Because it goes in one ear and out the other. They have not made a conscious effort to follow Guru’s path, they have not made a conscious effort to make changes in their lives to move closer to Guru Ji. To them going to the Gurdwara is just something you do on a Sunday and maybe meet friends and relatives. Even doing sewa has not the motive it should have. Rather than thinking that sewa to the sangat is sewa to the Guru, that sewa brings nimarta and humbleness, that sewa washes away your paap, that sewa is a form of bhagati and through it one moves closer to your Guru, instead it is more of a social thing and as such it does not bring about the changes within oneself that it should. One example contrary to this, at Soho road Gurdwara there is a man who on weekends cleans the toilets. He cleans the bowls and the sinks and mops the floor and replenishes the toilet rolls and the soap. When I first saw him he was clean shaven, now years later he is keshdhari. Well done that man, I say. Your humbleness in cleaning the toilets (who amongst us would do this on a regular basis) has been seen and blessed by AkaalPurkh Guru Ji so positive changes have come into his life. Apart from this person, I see the same faces week in week out, some come just for the langar and go home with full bellies. Some come and do sewa but then partake in langar and all that pun-dhaan built up is cancelled out, they go home with nothing it all balances out. We want to increase our punn/good deeds but if we write them off by eating all that langar then it all balances out. If you are doing sewa then for that day why not abstain from langar, at least go home with something in your karmic account. I have seen sewadhars who do sewa and then sit down to double helpings of saag with extra adhakar/ginger and makkhi rotis with two full glasses of lassi. I am not criticising them in the least, it is Gurughar and it is Guru-ka-langar and they can eat as much as they like, however this is not what Guru-ka-langar is all about. So make those changes, little ones, ones that you can cope with and progress in your life. Do sewa, very important, but make sure you take something home with you spiritual wise.

NO SIKH would do this man or women because they live in hukham ...explain it to me why the abortion figures year on year are highest in Punjab when compared to any other state in the Indian union? Are you saying punjabi women are incapable of getting prescriptons for the pill or intrauterine devices or their partners plain simple condoms - they are that simple and unknowing that they fall pregnant without knowing the facts of life? it takes two people to make the problem so the blame is equal and the sin too...just in case your machismo is getting dinged up by my words. Or perhaps your contention is that sikh women are the biggest slappers going that's why they keep revisiting the clinics . The reason for abortion due handicap, risk to mother is a very very small percentage, and also those resulting from rape/abuse , mostly is done for financial reasons and the truth is all fetuses have to be sexed for accurate counts (as the GOI is concerned about their public image) and over 85% are female...

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why would a child within a sanctified marriage be aborted , when your beloved contraception is available ? ....you know the truth you are just too ashamed of the men who do it ... they and others who do this are not sikhs full stop , they cannot see beyond money and trappings they cannot see it is HUKHAM they should have a daughter. I remember reading a sakhi of kudimarr and they ended up having that daughter reborn in their house after their son , she told them as much 'main vapas agiaa' to the father who murdered her previous janam.

Lecture 124 - What are the 8.4 Milliion Incarnation :

" talking about myself,I think I am beginner.I cant just forget about worldly things completely at this stage.and I wish to feel WAHEGURU by myside always.At this stage I cant be totally selfless,I know it s not right.but it s a journey and i am at first step.slowly a stage will come when I will forget everything else and just do JAAP AND SIMRAN.but till that stage comes I want all you enlightened souls to motivate me so that I can move ahead on this path."There is no beginner, middle, advanced, when it comes to dealing with stress. Everybody has some sort of stress in life. And nobody can predict when they are to get it. It's Waheguru's grace that helps people to cope with it. I know when we are dukhi, we do not like to hear it, but it's truth, Nanak Dukhia Sab Sansaar. Guruji says: ਸੀਤਾ ਲਖਮਣੁ ਵਿਛੁੜਿ ਗਇਆ ॥ सीता लखमणु विछुड़ि गइआ ॥ Sīṯā lakẖmaṇ vicẖẖuṛ ga▫i▫ā. and got separated from Sita and Lachhman. ਰੋਵੈ ਦਹਸਿਰੁ ਲੰਕ ਗਵਾਇ ॥ रोवै दहसिरु लंक गवाइ ॥ Rovai ḏėhsir lank gavā▫e. Ten-headed Rawan, wept when he Lost Ceylon, ਜਿਨਿ ਸੀਤਾ ਆਦੀ ਡਉਰੂ ਵਾਇ ॥ जिनि सीता आदी डउरू वाइ ॥ Jin sīṯā āḏī da▫urū vā▫e. but he who took away Sita with the beat of tambourine. ਰੋਵਹਿ ਪਾਂਡਵ ਭਏ ਮਜੂਰ ॥ रोवहि पांडव भए मजूर ॥ Rovėh pāʼndav bẖa▫e majūr. Became servants and wailed the Pandwas, ਜਿਨ ਕੈ ਸੁਆਮੀ ਰਹਤ ਹਦੂਰਿ ॥ जिन कै सुआमी रहत हदूरि ॥ Jin kai su▫āmī rahaṯ haḏūr. whose Master lived with them. ਰੋਵੈ ਜਨਮੇਜਾ ਖੁਇ ਗਇਆ ॥ रोवै जनमेजा खुइ गइआ ॥ Rovai janmejā kẖu▫e ga▫i▫ā. Janmeja bewailed that he went astray. ਏਕੀ ਕਾਰਣਿ ਪਾਪੀ ਭਇਆ ॥ एकी कारणि पापी भइआ ॥ Ėkī kāraṇ pāpī bẖa▫i▫ā. For an offence he became a sinner. ਰੋਵਹਿ ਸੇਖ ਮਸਾਇਕ ਪੀਰ ॥ रोवहि सेख मसाइक पीर ॥ Rovėh sekẖ masā▫ik pīr. The Divine teachers, seers and religious guides weep, ਅੰਤਿ ਕਾਲਿ ਮਤੁ ਲਾਗੈ ਭੀੜ ॥ अंति कालि मतु लागै भीड़ ॥ Anṯ kāl maṯ lāgai bẖīṛ. lest they should suffer agony at the Last moment. ਰੋਵਹਿ ਰਾਜੇ ਕੰਨ ਪੜਾਇ ॥ रोवहि राजे कंन पड़ाइ ॥ Rovėh rāje kann paṛā▫e. The kings weep, having their ears torn, ਘਰਿ ਘਰਿ ਮਾਗਹਿ ਭੀਖਿਆ ਜਾਇ ॥ घरि घरि मागहि भीखिआ जाइ ॥ Gẖar gẖar māgėh bẖīkẖi▫ā jā▫e. and they go abegging from house to house. ਰੋਵਹਿ ਕਿਰਪਨ ਸੰਚਹਿ ਧਨੁ ਜਾਇ ॥ रोवहि किरपन संचहि धनु जाइ ॥ Rovėh kirpan saʼncẖėh ḏẖan jā▫e. The miser weeps when his amassed wealth parts company with him. ਪੰਡਿਤ ਰੋਵਹਿ ਗਿਆਨੁ ਗਵਾਇ ॥ पंडित रोवहि गिआनु गवाइ ॥ Pandiṯ rovėh gi▫ān gavā▫e. The learned man cries when his learning fails him. ਬਾਲੀ ਰੋਵੈ ਨਾਹਿ ਭਤਾਰੁ ॥ बाली रोवै नाहि भतारु ॥ Bālī rovai nāhi bẖaṯār. The young woman weeps for she has no husband. ਨਾਨਕ ਦੁਖੀਆ ਸਭੁ ਸੰਸਾਰੁ ॥ नानक दुखीआ सभु संसारु ॥ Nānak ḏukẖī▫ā sabẖ sansār. Nanak, the whole world is in distress. ਮੰਨੇ ਨਾਉ ਸੋਈ ਜਿਣਿ ਜਾਇ ॥ मंने नाउ सोई जिणि जाइ ॥ Manne nā▫o so▫ī jiṇ jā▫e. He, who believes in the Name, becomes victorious. ਅਉਰੀ ਕਰਮ ਨ ਲੇਖੈ ਲਾਇ ॥੧॥ अउरी करम न लेखै लाइ ॥१॥ A▫urī karam na lekẖai lā▫e. ||1|| No other deed is of any account. SGGS Ang 954 ?? Dhan Guru Nanak Dev ji You should not forget worldly things and cut off from the world. But to learn how to cope and deal with them. We were not told to run into the mountains by our Gurus, but to live Gristhi Jeevan. Karam, Hukam and Simran. I sometimes look at others that are in worse situations than myself. That helps me to realise I am not alone in dukhi times and the whole world is dukhi too. It's not criticism penji of wanting to feel Waheguru. Every soul wants to feel Waheguru, and that's what we should be doing. It's about not demanding them for it. But that is in their Hukam, whether we like it or not.

ਫਰੀਦਾ ਮੈ ਜਾਨਿਆ ਦੁਖੁ ਮੁਝ ਕੂ ਦੁਖੁ ਸਬਾਇਐ ਜਗਿ ॥ फरीदा मै जानिआ दुखु मुझ कू दुखु सबाइऐ जगि ॥ Farīḏā mai jāni▫ā ḏukẖ mujẖ kū ḏukẖ sabā▫i▫ai jag. Fareed, I thought that I was in trouble; the whole world is in trouble! ਊਚੇ ਚੜਿ ਕੈ ਦੇਖਿਆ ਤਾਂ ਘਰਿ ਘਰਿ ਏਹਾ ਅਗਿ ॥੮੧॥ ऊचे चड़ि कै देखिआ तां घरि घरि एहा अगि ॥८१॥ Ūcẖe cẖaṛ kai ḏekẖi▫ā ṯāʼn gẖar gẖar ehā ag. ||81|| When I climbed the hill and looked around, I saw this fire in each and every home. ||81||

I knew it was a mistake to look at the comments under that article. The number of muppets who think it was a good thing that he was detained and refused entry. Hope they get the same treatment when they try to disappear to the Costa del Sol.

wow, very nice idea to kill hate BUNDHA.i am surely going to try this cause when we have bad feelings for someone it disturbs our own peace.

I will not be able to write regularly today onwards.but I will keep doing one hour JAAP not for just 30 days but beyond that.pray for me. I want to share my experience till now. doing Jaap and SIMRAN DEFINITELY HELPS.it adds to your confidence.it gives you strength.all you need to have is patience and devotion.for me it did wonders.and one thing is so very true that our thinking is too small;Waheguru's plans for us are beyond our imagination so always just remember HIM have faith. I feel i am lucky i got this phase in my life,otherwise i was so lost in worldly things I could have never searched for things and never got this forum and never learned this way of life.people on this forum are a blessing.they help you motivate you and they all are so wise so enlightened,I got a new vision to look at things.I am very grateful to everyone on this forum. At times some people criticize some posts when someone wishes to feel Waheguru,to see and feel HIS presence and when someone asks for some worldy things.Some enlightened souls say our sole motive should be beyond worldly things.I just want to say one thing everyone has his own journey.some are lucky they have got enlightened they can talk and feel about things in depth but few are beginners like me,we are at our step 1,dont expect us to understand things at higher steps. talking about myself,I think I am beginner.I cant just forget about worldly things completely at this stage.and I wish to feel WAHEGURU by myside always.At this stage I cant be totally selfless,I know it s not right.but it s a journey and i am at first step.slowly a stage will come when I will forget everything else and just do JAAP AND SIMRAN.but till that stage comes I want all you enlightened souls to motivate me so that I can move ahead on this path.

It's a bit of both IMO, when it comes to apportioning blame for who's responsible for instigating abortions back home. In some cases where the guy is top-dog and isn't the kind to be pushed around and manipulated by women, he keeps a keen eye on such developments and gets them sorted when and if they occur. In most other cases, especially where the guy is one of those carefree, overgrown children who hasn't got a clue about anything, it's definitely the mother-in-law who gets the ball rolling. And then there's the few cases where ingrained cultural attitudes transcend gender and education - as posted by Jonny Ji above - where even professional, educated women don't baulk at terminations. For them, it's as routine as going to get a filling for a tooth. I kid you not.

A relative of mine in India was very much against abortion as he would discuss this issue with me. But then he got married. His wife is a highly educated woman while he was not. Since he has gotten married they have aborted two times because his wife did not want to have a second daughter. Finally now she has given birth to a boy. I stopped talking to them after I found out because it is hukam for a Sikh to not talk to such murderers.

Waheguru Is Real - So Be Inspired And Keep Up Your Simran And Bhagti and don't waste your time thinking about useless stuff like the end of the world.

Seems like you are not ready to move on. I've tried it, but it didn't go well. But now I have a different approach. Instead of getting angry, I explain that I'm upset because of what they said, etc etc and do it in a more civilised respectable way, rather than coming across as frustrated and angry with them. And this method has worked, it's made some realise that they were wrong and are nicer. So if it's bothering you that much that you can't move, try to do it respectably as you can. And as the gentleman is elder to you, think if your family member did that, that you would forgive them and deal with it in that way. That's how I would go about it, because to me age does matter, and elders do get confused and some don't have the same etiquette as the younger generation because that's just the way they are. Also, have a talk with your family or wife about it and see what they suggest.

Anyone else keeps misreading the title as "mama's" boy, I.E. your mum's brother, lol?

Thanks bro I'm a sis. You have made the thread even greater. Or Waheguru has made the thread greater through you.

I think you need a break. Some time off work perhaps 2 weeks will do you good. However you have to choose the best place on earth to go to. The most peaceful and the most divine place I have ever been to is Mani karan sahib in India. However that means you have to travel to India. If you want to join some jatha that will be the best. There are yatras all the time. You will get the much desired company and support you need. It will take your mind off things and give you the much needed peace and you will be with the most positive company you can get. (that will give you some positive place to spend your money on too) It could be a life changing experience too. Another highly recommended place is Makindu Guradwara in Kenya. You will get the opportunity to do seva as well and the most positive company of Giani Jis and other visitors too. The accomodation there is free. There will be nobody to judge you there. It will allow you to get in touch with your inner self and refresh you from all the negativity you seem to be facing at the moment. If possible, I think you should be looking into this as well. I am positively sure you will come back a totally changed person.

Staying at home, even after marriage, is not what a mommas boy is. A grown man who is still afraid of his mother, cant tell her no, make his own decisions, needs his mom for every small or big thing etc is a mommas boy. Problem is when many of these mommas boys get married, their mom is a conniving mother in law, and he cant tell her to back off. Respect your mothers, but we all know our mothers are ridiculous at times.

Quit your day job, then what? Do you think the maya will go away? Live in the present. Focus on your task before you. The mind becomes untouchable by pain if you remember a shabad, either in kirtan form or just read out. Remember a pankti and let the tune play in your head. Quietly say it as you work. The pain of the mind increases when we start to believe we can do it all by ourselves. Start tasks off by a sincere ardas saying, Guru Sahib you are my only support and you give me all and take care of me every second. It's got to be from the heart, and don't say I can do.... Ask for Guru Sahib to bless you with Doing seva. Try your best to focus on the seva and do the best you can. Don't look for shortcuts in the seva and do simran (remember Vaheguru while doing seva) Seva could be simply going out of your way to do something for someone else without expecting anything back. Without looking at good and bad, do seva. Quitting your job will not make the pain go away. Isolating yourself from the world will not make the world pain free. Sitting in a quiet place to learn Gurbani teachings is virtuous. Recognize Vaheguru is infused in everything. Look at the world through the eyes of Gurbani. The people in the world use many tricks in their lives to cover up their shortcomings. Recognize how maya is used by majority, but stay in the sanctuary of Guru Sahib by staying truthful to the best of your ability. Someone wishes bad for you or tries to do bad to you. Do ardas for your own sake to stay on the narrow path of honesty, compassion, and contentment. One step at a time, Guru Sahib will grab you by the arm, when you truly fall down at his feet by listening to his Kirtan, katha, and paath. Listen with your heart and not your ears. The tongue may repeat his Gurbani, but is the mind absorbing his teachings? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqrusZ_U9sQ

So OP, you think getting your own house & moving out is 'being a an' do you even know about our culture? {good bits} we are not Caucasians who leave their parents to rot and just concern ourselves with our wife & children, this is NOT manly or our roots. Something that's been happening for years now.

Why not try just 3 minutes of meditation? What you got to lose brother? 3 minutes......it's nothing. Over in a jiffy! Worst case scenario - you waste 3 minutes. Alternatively, it might lead to something. Who knows............ <Twilight zone music> lol

If by end of the world you mean some obsessively spelled-out apocalypse scenario, as is to be found in the texts of most other religions, then no it does not. Sikhi is only concerned with one's spiritual well-being. That is all that religion should concern itself with. Knowing how the world ends, or how it was created, is utterly irrelevant to these matters of the soul, it will not make you a better person. Devotees of other religions, particularly Muslims, like to hold the absence of creation and destruction myths over our heads as though it counted against us and the veracity of our faith. In my mind though the inclusion of these stories in the Bible and the Quran only proves that Jesus and Muhammad were not above lying/telling extraneous tales in order to win converts to their new religions from the ranks of the ignorant.

What kind of end of the world? Everyday there is a new world so in essence end of yesterday's world. When someone goes from this world it's his end of the world. Btw your question seems suspicious and want a discussion on Dasam bani. Did I not warn you before. Didn't you tell me you didn't believe in the bani? How come the sudden change? You are naughty

Well said Taran veerji. He is scum. Anybody who supports him now are the same scum. We all knew he was a RSS agent. I for one wouldn't worry if he teaches the RSS this fake made up load of crap, because pre determined moves, that look good in slow motion have absolutely no relevance to real fighting. You can't say you do this and I'll do that- because that's what he teaches. Absolute nonsense! It's more the scum ideology that he has brainwashed youth in the UK that will take years to heal and mend. Also that he will continue to do to brainwash gullible youth in Europe and Sikhs in (panjab). You people who still support him after all this are basically fools. Please get this scum out of Gurdwara's for good. They can teach this crap to someone else.

You know it feels like Sikhs are becoming more n more hard lined that we would've even called out Bhai ghanniya ji for doing what he did It takes a lot of guts to be the only Singh in a crowd, to stand up and to call out the wrong I admire this Singh for doing what he did

Thanks that did the trick

We should recite the Mool Mantar as long as we do not understand it fully. Mool mantar, or any Bani of the Bhagats or Guru Sahibans, are means to make us understand the supreme importance of Wahiguru as the only reality and His Naam, as His creative power, or a projection of Himself, as Akhand Jot or Apaar Shabad Dhun, to which, if the soul submits itself by placing itself in its arms, then that Shabad Guru, takes us jeevas back to our Nijh Ghar Sach Khand, That is why the Bani says: IK OANKAR, SATGUR PARSAD JAP. Dhan Dhan Satguru Ram DasMaharaj, tells us in the following line of His paviter Bani in Raag Dhanasree, that, if any bhakti, any jap, any tap, any paath, we have to do, it is of Wahiguru Himself, because only by meditating on Him, we can have total and perfect peace and bliss ਸੋ ਐਸਾ ਹਰਿ ਧਿਆਈਐ ਮੇਰੇ ਜੀਅੜੇ ਤਾ ਸਰਬ ਸੁਖ ਪਾਵਹਿ ਮੇਰੇ ਮਨਾ So Aisaa Har Dhhiaaeeai Maerae Jeearrae Thaa Sarab Sukh Paavehi Maerae Manaa सो ऐसा हरि धिआईऐ मेरे जीअड़े ता सरब सुख पावहि मेरे मना So meditate on such a Lord, O my soul. Then, you shall obtain total peace, O my mind But then we may say, we have not seen Him, how can we meditate on Him or do His Dhyan? For that our query, He beautifully answers us in His following line. ਜਪਿ ਮਨ ਸਤਿ ਨਾਮੁ ਸਦਾ ਸਤਿ ਨਾਮੁ Jap Man Sath Naam Sadhaa Sath Naam जपि मन सति नामु सदा सति नामु Chant, O my mind, the True Name, Sat Naam, the True Name. He says, do not do anything else, just do the Jap of Satnam, then that Satnam, Wahiguru Akal Purukh, will manifest Himself within us. Sangat Jee, these words, this jugtee for us realizing Him, are not the words of any priest, gyani nor an intelectual, but are the words of Wahiguru Himself, disguised in the form of Dhan Dhan Satguru Ram Das Maharaj, so it it would be advisable for our own benefit, if we stop our own manmat, or us watching what others do or tell us to do as per their capacity in being mature. But who can match our beloved Guru Sahibans? Naturally none. Then, why do we hesitate in following what Guru Jee tells us? What is the problem? The answer is, our agyanta, our haume, our moh for the unreal or koor. We shout loud and proudly proclaim we are sikhs, but when it comes to see if we follow the essence of Gurmat, we fail to stand up as per Gurbani. Gurmat is not difficult at all. It is as simple as: IK OANKAR, GURPARSAD JAP. Sat Sree Akal.

I think we should try to at least follow the hukam of leading a grisht jeevan. Clearly, if there are irreversible medical issues or a case of genuine asexuality, then fair enough. But don't cite celibacy or asexuality just because you don't feel like settling down or facing up to your responsibilities as an adult. Obviously nobody is saying settle for a partner who is completely unsuitable. Also, don't be one of those devious individuals that claims to want to serve Sikhi by staying unmarried, when in fact you're getting up to all kinds of filth behind closed doors. There's enough of those jokers around to give Sikhi a bad name.

Just contemplate on today's Hukamnama - Darbar Sahib Amritsar ਗੂਜਰੀ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ॥ गूजरी महला ५ ॥ Gūjrī mėhlā 5. Goojaree, Fifth Mehl: ਮਤਾ ਕਰੈ ਪਛਮ ਕੈ ਤਾਈ ਪੂਰਬ ਹੀ ਲੈ ਜਾਤ ॥ मता करै पछम कै ताई पूरब ही लै जात ॥ Maṯā karai pacẖẖam kai ṯā▫ī pūrab hī lai jāṯ. He decides to go to the west, but the Lord leads him away to the east. ਮਤਾ = ਸਲਾਹ। ਪਛਮ ਕੈ ਤਾਈ = ਪੱਛਮ ਵਲ ਜਾਣ ਵਾਸਤੇ। ਕੈ ਤਾਈ = ਦੇ ਵਾਸਤੇ। ਮਨੁੱਖ ਪੱਛਮ ਵਲ ਜਾਣ ਦੀ ਸਲਾਹ ਬਣਾਂਦਾ ਹੈ, ਪਰਮਾਤਮਾ ਉਸ ਨੂੰ ਚੜ੍ਹਦੇ ਪਾਸੇ ਲੈ ਤੁਰਦਾ ਹੈ। ਖਿਨ ਮਹਿ ਥਾਪਿ ਉਥਾਪਨਹਾਰਾ ਆਪਨ ਹਾਥਿ ਮਤਾਤ ॥੧॥ खिन महि थापि उथापनहारा आपन हाथि मतात ॥१॥ Kẖin mėh thāp uthāpanhārā āpan hāth maṯāṯ. ||1|| In an instant, He establishes and disestablishes; He holds all matters in His hands. ||1|| ਥਾਪਿ = ਸਾਜ ਕੇ। ਉਥਾਪਨਹਾਰਾ = ਨਾਸ ਕਰਨ ਦੀ ਤਾਕਤ ਰੱਖਣ ਵਾਲਾ। ਹਾਥਿ = ਹੱਥ ਵਿਚ। ਮਤਾਤ = ਮਤਾਂਤ, ਸਲਾਹਾਂ ਦਾ ਅੰਤ, ਫ਼ੈਸਲਾ ॥੧॥ ਪਰਮਾਤਮਾ ਇਕ ਖਿਨ ਵਿਚ ਪੈਦਾ ਕਰ ਕੇ ਨਾਸ ਕਰਨ ਦੀ ਤਾਕਤ ਰੱਖਣ ਵਾਲਾ ਹੈ। ਹਰੇਕ ਫ਼ੈਸਲਾ ਉਸ ਨੇ ਆਪਣੇ ਹੱਥ ਵਿਚ ਰੱਖਿਆ ਹੁੰਦਾ ਹੈ ॥੧॥ ਸਿਆਨਪ ਕਾਹੂ ਕਾਮਿ ਨ ਆਤ ॥ सिआनप काहू कामि न आत ॥ Si▫ānap kāhū kām na āṯ. Cleverness is of no use at all. ਕਾਹੂ ਕਾਮਿ = ਕਿਸੇ ਕੰਮ ਵਿਚ। (ਮਨੁੱਖ ਦੀ ਆਪਣੀ) ਚਤੁਰਾਈ ਕਿਸੇ ਕੰਮ ਨਹੀਂ ਆਉਂਦੀ। ਜੋ ਅਨਰੂਪਿਓ ਠਾਕੁਰਿ ਮੇਰੈ ਹੋਇ ਰਹੀ ਉਹ ਬਾਤ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ जो अनरूपिओ ठाकुरि मेरै होइ रही उह बात ॥१॥ रहाउ ॥ Jo anrūpi▫o ṯẖākur merai ho▫e rahī uh bāṯ. ||1|| rahā▫o. Whatever my Lord and Master deems to be right - that alone comes to pass. ||1||Pause|| ਅਨਰੂਪਿਓ = ਮਿਥ ਲਈ, ਠਾਠ ਲਈ। ਠਾਕੁਰਿ ਮੇਰੈ = ਮੇਰੇ ਠਾਕੁਰ ਨੇ। ਹੋਇ ਰਹੀ = ਹੋ ਕੇ ਰਹਿੰਦੀ ਹੈ, ਜ਼ਰੂਰ ਹੁੰਦੀ ਹੈ ॥੧॥ ਜੋ ਗੱਲ ਮੇਰੇ ਠਾਕੁਰ ਨੇ ਮਿਥੀ ਹੁੰਦੀ ਹੈ ਉਹੀ ਹੋ ਕੇ ਰਹਿੰਦੀ ਹੈ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ॥ ਦੇਸੁ ਕਮਾਵਨ ਧਨ ਜੋਰਨ ਕੀ ਮਨਸਾ ਬੀਚੇ ਨਿਕਸੇ ਸਾਸ ॥ देसु कमावन धन जोरन की मनसा बीचे निकसे सास ॥ Ḏes kamāvan ḏẖan joran kī mansā bīcẖe nikse sās. In his desire to acquire land and accumulate wealth, one's breath escapes him. ਮਨਸਾ = ਕਾਮਨਾ, ਇੱਛਾ। ਬੀਚੇ = ਵਿੱਚੇ ਹੀ। ਨਿਕਸੇ = ਨਿਕਲ ਜਾਂਦੇ ਹਨ। ਸਾਸ = ਸਾਹ। (ਵੇਖ,) ਹੋਰ ਦੇਸ ਮੱਲਣ ਤੇ ਧਨ ਇਕੱਠਾ ਕਰਨ ਦੀ ਲਾਲਸਾ ਦੇ ਵਿੱਚ ਹੀ ਮਨੁੱਖ ਦੇ ਪ੍ਰਾਣ ਨਿਕਲ ਜਾਂਦੇ ਹਨ, ਲਸਕਰ ਨੇਬ ਖਵਾਸ ਸਭ ਤਿਆਗੇ ਜਮ ਪੁਰਿ ਊਠਿ ਸਿਧਾਸ ॥੨॥ लसकर नेब खवास सभ तिआगे जम पुरि ऊठि सिधास ॥२॥ Laskar neb kẖavās sabẖ ṯi▫āge jam pur ūṯẖ siḏẖās. ||2|| He must leave all his armies, assistants and servants; rising up, he departs to the City of Death. ||2|| ਲਸਕਰ = ਫ਼ੌਜਾਂ। ਨੇਬ = ਨਾਇਬ, ਅਹਿਲਕਾਰ। ਖਵਾਸ = ਚੋਬ-ਦਾਰ। ਤਿਆਗੇ = ਤਿਆਗਿ, ਛੱਡ ਕੇ। ਜਮ ਪੁਰਿ = ਪਰਲੋਕ ਵਿਚ ॥੨॥ ਫ਼ੌਜਾਂ ਅਹਿਲਕਾਰ ਚੋਬਦਾਰ ਆਦਿਕ ਸਭ ਨੂੰ ਛੱਡ ਕੇ ਉਹ ਪਰਲੋਕ ਵਲ ਤੁਰ ਪੈਂਦਾ ਹੈ। (ਉਸ ਦੀ ਆਪਣੀ ਸਿਆਣਪ ਧਰੀ ਦੀ ਧਰੀ ਰਹਿ ਜਾਂਦੀ ਹੈ) ॥੨॥ ਹੋਇ ਅਨੰਨਿ ਮਨਹਠ ਕੀ ਦ੍ਰਿੜਤਾ ਆਪਸ ਕਉ ਜਾਨਾਤ ॥ होइ अनंनि मनहठ की द्रिड़ता आपस कउ जानात ॥ Ho▫e annan manhaṯẖ kī ḏariṛ▫ṯā āpas ka▫o jānāṯ. Believing himself to be unique, he clings to his stubborn mind, and shows himself off. ਅਨੰਨਿ = {अनन्य} ਜਿਸ ਨੇ ਹੋਰ ਪਾਸੇ ਛੱਡ ਦਿੱਤੇ ਹਨ। (ਮਾਇਆ ਵਾਲਾ ਪਾਸਾ ਛੱਡ ਕੇ=ਹੋਇ ਅਨੰਨਿ)। ਦ੍ਰਿੜਤਾ = ਪਕਿਆਈ। ਆਪਸ ਕਉ = ਆਪਣੇ ਆਪ ਨੂੰ। ਜਾਨਾਤ = (ਵੱਡਾ) ਜਣਾਉਂਦਾ ਹੈ। (ਦੂਜੇ ਪਾਸੇ ਵੇਖੋ ਉਸ ਦਾ ਹਾਲ ਜੋ ਆਪਣੇ ਵੱਲੋਂ ਦੁਨੀਆ ਛੱਡ ਚੁਕਾ ਹੈ) ਆਪਣੇ ਮਨ ਦੇ ਹਠ ਦੀ ਪਕਿਆਈ ਦੇ ਆਸਰੇ ਮਾਇਆ ਵਾਲਾ ਪਾਸਾ ਛੱਡ ਕੇ (ਗ੍ਰਿਹਸਤ ਤਿਆਗ ਕੇ, ਇਸ ਨੂੰ ਬੜਾ ਸ੍ਰੇਸ਼ਟ ਕੰਮ ਸਮਝ ਕੇ ਤਿਆਗੀ ਬਣਿਆ ਹੋਇਆ ਉਹ ਮਨੁੱਖ) ਆਪਣੇ ਆਪ ਨੂੰ ਵੱਡਾ ਜਤਾਂਦਾ ਹੈ। ਜੋ ਅਨਿੰਦੁ ਨਿੰਦੁ ਕਰਿ ਛੋਡਿਓ ਸੋਈ ਫਿਰਿ ਫਿਰਿ ਖਾਤ ॥੩॥ जो अनिंदु निंदु करि छोडिओ सोई फिरि फिरि खात ॥३॥ Jo aninḏ ninḏ kar cẖẖodi▫o so▫ī fir fir kẖāṯ. ||3|| That food, which the blameless people have condemned and discarded, he eats again and again. ||3|| ਅਨਿੰਦੁ = ਨਾਹ ਨਿੰਦਣ-ਯੋਗ ॥੩॥ ਇਹ ਗ੍ਰਿਹਸਤ ਨਿੰਦਣ-ਜੋਗ ਨਹੀਂ ਸੀ ਪਰ ਇਸ ਨੂੰ ਨਿੰਦਣ-ਜੋਗ ਮਿਥ ਕੇ ਇਸ ਨੂੰ ਛੱਡ ਦੇਂਦਾ ਹੈ (ਛੱਡ ਕੇ ਭੀ) ਮੁੜ ਮੁੜ (ਗ੍ਰਿਹਸਤੀਆਂ ਪਾਸੋਂ ਹੀ ਲੈ ਲੈ ਕੇ) ਖਾਂਦਾ ਹੈ ॥੩॥ ਸਹਜ ਸੁਭਾਇ ਭਏ ਕਿਰਪਾਲਾ ਤਿਸੁ ਜਨ ਕੀ ਕਾਟੀ ਫਾਸ ॥ सहज सुभाइ भए किरपाला तिसु जन की काटी फास ॥ Sahj subẖā▫e bẖa▫e kirpālā ṯis jan kī kātī fās. One, unto whom the Lord shows His natural mercy, has the noose of Death cut away from him. ਸਹਜ = {सह जायते इति सहज} ਆਪਣਾ ਨਿੱਜੀ। ਸੁਭਾਇ = ਪ੍ਰੇਮ ਅਨੁਸਾਰ। ਸਹਜ ਸੁਭਾਇ = ਆਪਣੇ ਨਿੱਜੀ ਪ੍ਰੇਮ ਅਨੁਸਾਰ, ਆਪਣੇ ਸੁਭਾਵਿਕ ਪ੍ਰੇਮ ਨਾਲ। (ਸੋ, ਨਾਹ ਧਨ-ਪਦਾਰਥ ਇਕੱਠਾ ਕਰਨ ਵਾਲੀ ਚਤੁਰਾਈ ਕਿਸੇ ਕੰਮ ਹੈ ਤੇ ਨਾਹ ਹੀ ਤਿਆਗ ਦਾ ਮਾਣ ਕੋਈ ਲਾਭ ਪੁਚਾਂਦਾ ਹੈ) ਉਹ ਪਰਮਾਤਮਾ ਆਪਣੇ ਸੁਭਾਵਿਕ ਪਿਆਰ ਦੀ ਪ੍ਰੇਰਨਾ ਨਾਲ ਜਿਸ ਮਨੁੱਖ ਉਤੇ ਦਇਆਵਾਨ ਹੁੰਦਾ ਹੈ ਉਸ ਮਨੁੱਖ ਦੀ (ਮਾਇਆ ਦੇ ਮੋਹ ਦੀ) ਫਾਹੀ ਕੱਟ ਦੇਂਦਾ ਹੈ। ਕਹੁ ਨਾਨਕ ਗੁਰੁ ਪੂਰਾ ਭੇਟਿਆ ਪਰਵਾਣੁ ਗਿਰਸਤ ਉਦਾਸ ॥੪॥੪॥੫॥ कहु नानक गुरु पूरा भेटिआ परवाणु गिरसत उदास ॥४॥४॥५॥ Kaho Nānak gur pūrā bẖeti▫ā parvāṇ girsaṯ uḏās. ||4||4||5|| Says Nanak, one who meets the Perfect Guru, is celebrated as a householder as well as a renunciate. ||4||4||5|| ਭੇਟਿਆ = ਮਿਲਿਆ ॥੪॥੪॥੫॥ ਨਾਨਕ ਆਖਦਾ ਹੈ ਕਿ ਜਿਸ ਮਨੁੱਖ ਨੂੰ ਪੂਰਾ ਗੁਰੂ ਮਿਲ ਪੈਂਦਾ ਹੈ ਉਹ ਗ੍ਰਿਹਸਤ ਵਿਚ ਰਹਿੰਦਾ ਹੋਇਆ ਮਾਇਆ ਵਲੋਂ ਨਿਰਮੋਹ ਹੋ ਕੇ ਪਰਮਾਤਮਾ ਦੀ ਹਜ਼ੂਰੀ ਵਿਚ ਕਬੂਲ ਹੋ ਜਾਂਦਾ ਹੈ ॥੪॥੪॥੫॥ Source - http://www.srigranth.org/servlet/gurbani.gurbani?Action=Page&g=1&h=1&r=1&t=1&p=0&k=1&fb=0&Param=496

The power of mool manter. A woman (from canada) got married to a guy from punjab (from poor family), they get settled here, had four kids. But after some years, she found out that her husband had some pshycological issues that he had not disclosed to her ever. He was suffereing from "sociopathy", that is a person having no pity or sense of guilty / be-reham. He would not sleep for 21 days when his condition got worse, won't do any job, was abusive to children. He was normal when he's out and a toatlly different person inside. She had forgiven him for his mistakes so many times. One day when they were having heating arguements on the issues, her husband was sitting on the bed, he hit her on her stomach with his foot so hard that she fell down and then he laughed and said "I used you to come here, I have always hated the rich. You have 4 children, I am here in Canada, you can't do anything now". She could see her world shattering right before her eyes so badly and a little bit hope of straightning out the marriage that she had in her mind somewhere, vansihed. She replied, "you are now dead for me and I am a widow from now onwards, you wanna live here or go, your decision". She would always pray to God but at the same time she knew that it's maybe because of her previous karams. And her husband did come back and apologized for what he did, but she was strong enough not to get emotional and risk her childrens lives. He might have thought of her like other indian women who get emotionaly distrubed and find their lives meaningless without husband. But it didn't happned this way. She did think of suicide many times, but also realized that he won't take care of her children, so she has to live for them because it's not their fault because they didn't choose their father, she chose for them. But she never abandoned Guru sahib, Finally her prayers got answered and she got strenth to move out to 1 room apartment with her 4 kids who supported her decision. She got inner courage and started working day as well as night shift for 3 years and today they are living a happy life. Her struggle is paying off, her children have turned out really caring, mature and responsible. The secret that she told me that she never share with anyone, is the mool manter, she survived only because of mool manter, doesn't matter where she is, she has mool manter going on in her head 24/7. And I do want to mention that she is not an amritdhari or too much into sikhi, but I think she is more close to Guru sahib than me. I respect her from the bottom of my heart for her strength and faith in waheguru ji and sharing and inspiring me. Before dealing with her, based on her outer look, I had some negative thoughts, but I feel ashamed now and have learnt that we should not judge anyone by their outer appearance. I hope many would get inspired.