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I am sorry if something has offended to anybody, but the limited amount of information put on that case made mereply that, infact no indepth was written so that i could have known the exact case.

I agree to that extent that when only divorce is the only way out. maybe since the exact problem wasnt mentioned to i could have thoguht of the same reasons with which I find people gets divorce these days without compromising.

again i msorry

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Waheguru jee ka khalsa waheguru jee kee fateh

Re- marriage is fine after having divorce or death of one partner irrespective of gender.

Well as quoted the Parents & boy/ girl should weigh compatability of views etc. before committing. Parents should not force or take decision on family background / caste etc. or emotional influence also boy / girl should also express and act wisely not emotionally (considering beauty, wealth more important than mental (views) match up while selecting the life partner.

Guru Sahib Sarbat daa Bhalla karan jee

Waheguru jee ka khalsa waheguru jee kee fateh

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like i said earlier... most indian marriages are arranged where they did not have a choice... so its not a scenerio wher they each picked out somebody where they thought would be best for them...

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Sorry to give my views again.... but if Indian prospective is considered, india has the lowest divorce rate in the world and if we consider the western view where peoplelive together to know each other first and then marriage still ou will find maximum divorce rate there.... so what couldbe the solution??

i dont want to suggest anything to u or comment coz that would have become a personal thing and which i dont like saying......

peace

fateh

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Veerji/Bhainji,

A low divorce rate does not always mean that everything is good and well. You have to understand that many people dont get divorced in India for many reasons.

1. Girls are not accepted if they are divorced, since most of the time the divorce is blamed on the girl or she is seen as having the problem.

2. It puts down the family name and respect.

3. If a girl is divorced and she has a younger unmarried sister, people tend to think that if the older daughter's marriage didnt work, the younger ones will not either because .. well they are family.

I am generalizing a lot but this is the mentality that many have. There are many reasons people try to avoid divorce in India, but this doesnt mean they are happy in their marriage. women may stay with their husbands even though they get beat because they will have no other place to go. So please dont always go by numbers.

This topic is a very sensative, especially in our community. There is no way to speak of this topic without giving scenarios and going into detail on each individual situation. I believe sometimes things dont work out... you try your best, but ... sometimes you just need to ask Guru ji's forgivness and ask him to guide you in the future.

Bhul Chuk Maaf

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GuruFateh!

I do not agree with re-marriage in this sense. If your first marriage was in a Gurudwara, then your laava were done in Guru's Hazoori. Being divorced in man's court may make you legally single and able to marry again but does divorce make you single from your spouse in the eyes of God?

Other religions tend to be against divorce also.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

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