Battling Against Lust

[Guest _Balvinder_]

Sat sri akal,

However much I try to stop it, I always give in to lust. I always feel guilty afterwards.

How can I stop my mind from wanting this and get rid of the demons?

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[Matheen]

Read more Gurbani and put it into practice. Do sewa and keep good Sangat.

Also, be careful what type of movies you watch etc.

[Kali]

Lust is easy to overcome. Sikhi tells us to overcome five demons/vices, one of them being lust.

You have to listen to everything I tell you to do, so that you can get to my level of being uneffected by lust. Just remember lust is sick, from it people watch porn and think it is fine. But in their next human life whenever they get it again, they become rapists/pedaphiles. This is because they did not control themselves in their previous human life.

Anyway, whatever I have listed below is from Gurbani, here it is:

- Ardaas - do this everyday, don't miss a day. amritvela is a good time to do this.

- kirtan (singing praises of God's Gun (quailties)) - do this every evening, even amritvela if possible.

- Japping Naam (Vahiguroo) at amritvela, evening time AND 24Hrs WITH EVERY BREATH - that way you will be protected. Wherever you are, whatever you are doing don't stop japping naam. Naam is the CURE FOR THE DISEASE EGO, which every being created by God has, also what LUST DERIVES from. Gurbani tells us this.

- Read bawan akhari, japji and jaap sahib. pic one from these three to read a lot, as a favorite bani.

- ALSO STOP WATCHING MOVIES/TV - I DON'T WATCH THAT CRAP because we're meant to be Yogi's living in Maya/society the opposite of Buddha, as he lived outside of society to easily achieve enlightenment. Our Hukam as Sikh Yogis is to live in society and be DEAD TO MAYA!! Otherwise we won't ever achieve Vaheguru's Darshan, which is our enlightenment. Baba Harnaam Singh (rumpurkhera wala) said Guru Ji does not approve of his Sikhs watching TV/movies. Sant Narajan singh Ji said the same. Guru Ji's Gursikhs are ashamed of such lowly acts. TV/Movies is very lowly to be influenced by, how can you ever even challange the biggest of Maya, if we're easily weakened by something as low and inferior as TV/movies.

- Start Practicing Bibek (making your own food from raw materials/eating from amritdharis)

- Good Company, stay away from Manmukhs. Gurbani tells to run away from them. You should stay in Good Amritdhari company, not bad amritdhari company, as you will find a lot who don't have a clue about Sikhi. Now, with Manmukhs don't go following them about . I.E. socialing too much with them, just answer a question if they have one. The trick is talk about God with them, and if they don't want to everytime you do they will stop talking to you altogether.

BTW: Naam only works for those who have Guru Nanak Dev ji as their Guru, I.E. AMRIT. Even Ardaas to Guru Ji works if you have amrit, otherwise Guru Ji won't recognise you.

Hope that helped. If you have any questions about anything, eg about something from the list that you do not know why it would help, don't hesitate to ask.

Remember in order to become one with GOD, do joti jot, we have to be like GOD.

[Harjeet.Singh]

Avoid everything, that has lust, TV, music. Even watching the news contains lust. The internet too, be careful what sites you go on. The above poster has good advice, but remember, you can't defeat lust instantaneously. It does take some time. After a while of being consistant with your banis, and jap naam, it will die down and down. It is not as easy for some as it is for others.

But if you are nearly there, then that will be the hardest part. Example, if you haven't experienced lust for a few days, so you might think it has gone, so you stop doing naam and your bani, then it will easily come back to haunt you again. I know, because it happened to me lots of times, just when i thought i had overcome it, then it came back. Part of the problem was i trying to overcome it myself, but that doesnt work, only Waheguru can remove it from you.

Also try and avoid being alone for too long, this is when your desires will have most effect. Try and hang around with a good bunch of people, who wont get you to act or think in that kind of way. If you are alone however, just jap naam, the feeling goes away quite quick after about a minute. But sometimes in that minute it is quite hard to concentrate, so you can sometimes fail. That is why its important not to just rely on japping naam. Try to keep busy, and not allowing yourself to much free time.

[SunSingh]

remember that the Guru is ang sang. He sees what you do, hears what you say, and knows what you think. All the shaheeds and puratan sants, all of sachkhand, knows. Just remember this next time you feel kaam, it will help. Also, kaam is just a thought, an organised electrical impulse inthe brain. a mere whisp of energy. think of it this way rather than as an urge b/c it is more empowering.

[valli singh]

Number one, you must balance your sleep cycle by going to bed at the same time everyday and waking up at the same time, this will make your mind much easier to control, avoid t.v, music, etc and try doing fast simran out loud three times a day so the mind gets absorbed.

[Nehmat]

Recite SUKHMANI sahib endlessly....endlessly...

It's the GIVER of peace...not just namely SUKHmani...

[Mehtab Singh]

http://naam-jor.blogspot.com/2008/09/how-t...rcome-lust.html

[Pheena]

Sat sri akal,

However much I try to stop it, I always give in to lust. I always feel guilty afterwards.

How can I stop my mind from wanting this and get rid of the demons?

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Sex - Is it bad or good? What is your answer if yes then you are materialistic and if no then too you are materialistic! Sex is neither good nor bad. It is energy- a divine energy. This is the way God wanted human beings to procreate else human beings could have grown on trees like fruits! Interesting just imagine girls and boys hanging like peaches and apples on trees: just pluck them and bring them home! All those who condemn sex are condemning God. All prophets, avatars- divine incarnation, rishi, seers all were born out of sex. The procedure which has been innovated by creator himself how can that be bad.

When we speak for or against sex just shows we don’t know what it is. Sex is just like any other natural force. A child doesn’t has it as the body grows the chemical and hormonal changes brings this natural attraction towards opposite sex body. As it has come, it should go away naturally one day. But it doesn’t happen because people don’t deal with it naturally. It is suppressed, repressed and when energy is pushed or repressed it changes its form and becomes more aggressive and then you have to just fight with it. And can you win from it, the natural force - Never!

Sex is to be understood and lived with open mind. Sex has been considered as a taboo subject and children specially are kept away from this subject but can the adults really do that? No, children will explore other channels to know about it and from here this tussle begins. Body wants it, society says no! and the more it is hidden the more glorified it becomes. Child grows with the repressed ideology about sex and even one day when he or she goes for sex, person carries immense guilt as if he has done something ugly sinfull. So one falls in it and yet wishes not to go in it, cycle goes on. Sex if experienced with awareness soon leads to transgression of sex.

One who is attached to body can never come out of sex, de attachment towards body and deeper experiences of meditation helps person to naturally come out of obsessive sexual behavior.

[Guest j@mmEeS1nGh]

Just get married