Scary Stuff, What Should I Do ?

[simran345]

please tuhintuhin penji dont say ji, im not even worth that additional word, mere ch koi gunh vi nai jis nal ji nal koi manu bulaa sakeh, even dogs get more respect that me and love from their owners, as they are loyal to their maliks, i cant even be loyal to Maharaj ji, just Simran is fine, i feel ashamed u sayin ji to me.

Jaspreetooo choti penji sanu dasi jaiyii ok ke tek hegi? Bit worried about you, did u eat something?>

[13Mirch]

Well got to a gynacologist should be free if ur overseas. In India it isn't (even if it was I would stay well clear) and tell them ur problems. Better to get it sorted out. By the way what age r u? If u don't mind me inquiring.

[MaiVelleeHaan]

I ate something started feeling better cuz my masi made me come out and she gave me roti and I had some fun and now my dad ruined everything why can't he ever keep his mouth shut I hate my dad now I'm going to go hide again :( :(

I'm 18

[simran345]

Hun ki hogea? Hide and seek kio kheli jandi? Can you talk to your masi about this? What's your dad sayin? Are you very sensitive that whenever an elder says somethin you have to hide? If its somethin else you should talk to a professional. You see choti penji we can only give you honsla on here, but god does rest. We dont know exactly what is happening with you and your family, and any advice would be harmful without the full details.

You need to talk to a professional. Kado thak hide and seek khelugi?

You have to push yourself a bit to get that help. Sounds like either you got hormonal issues depression or you are on receiving end of some sort of abuse? These are just guesses so sorry if i said wrong, but we can only give you moral support you understand that right?

Sometimes desi elders say things and it hurts us. Nothin is officially over, Sherni ban choti penji, you have to talk to somebody, your masii suggest.

[GKaur1315]

Hi,

Why dont you try waking up and going for a run/jog/walk. I think you need to start doing things in your spare time to stop you over thinking.

Maybe start little craft projects. i'm not sure where youre from but in the UK we have places like Hobbycraft. It will keep your mind occupied.

Maybe start going to the gym etc too.

Over-thinking is horrible. A lot of us do it but everyone has different ways of handling it. You just need to find yours.

[VanHelsingh]

Sis, you need to attack this on two fronts: 1) Professional help --- not some random therapist from school but someone from your local health authority. If your parents are unwilling to help you (or even acknowledge your issues) then don't worry, but go to your GP and demand he puts you in touch with the correct person. You can't go on like this. 2) Light, basic jap of whatever bani you feel like you can do even when lying in bed or when you can barely think, i.e. "Waheguru, Waheguru" or Mool Mantar, etc. You have no idea how this will help you; you won't want to do it at first because it'll physically anger you to even think about it, but once you begin, day-by-day, you'll feel better. It won't be a flash of light from the heavens, but it'll be something gradual inside you that begins to improve. Re-awaken a bit of that Khalsa spirit and fight for yourself and your future, because it seems nobody else wants to do anything for you.

[jasdeepsingh2k125]

ok on lighter side i will now do some dialogue :lol2: bagi :tongue2: from kal ho na ho ......... hmm tumhe kya lagta hai ke ishwar ne saari duniya ka bhoj tumhare nazuk kandho par daal diya hai

ishwar se prarthana karne ka kya fiada ,agar tum uske de gaye zindagi ki kadar na kar sako

Tumhare paas joh hai tumhare hisaab se kam hai ... lekin kisi doosre ke nazar se dekho

tumhare paas bahut kuch hai jiyo muskurao kya pta kal ho na ho............ :chairspin: :happytyper: :angeljump:

[tuhintuhin]

Op ji.......at the end of the day you have to deal with it.....whatever these hidings, starvations lead to....your body is being affected........one of my friend was at your situation, no support from family......24/7 hiding in her room, maybe just half a roti or no roti a day.....crying, badly hurt, increasing burden on herself.......only help available was Guru sahib....no sisters, no mom, no masi, no freind.........so you are not the only one..........she prayed to Guru sahib for help.....and Guru sahib did kirpa and she became adamant or say strong from inside, kept her unaffected by what others say as she realized nobody except Guru sahib cares and she should not waste her life for those who don't care.............nobody was talking to her in whole family......but she started coming out of her room, making her own meal and eating it, going out to gurdwara and family was surprised to see the change, it was a blow on their ego//how could she do that on her own...and couldn't take it and had to bow down......

you know jadon gheo sidhi ungli naal na nikle, tedhi karni paindi aa..........if nobody cares, then why do you care ( I know many members won't agree, but only he knows who suffers)......

just think tomorrow you get married and will have kids.....this hide and seek, self torture will affect your body and immune system.....you can have some complications later(rab na kare).....so think about that............yaar family can come back to you but your health loss won't.........so be prepared now so you don't have to regret these days........your happiness should't be dependent on anyone or family members...just on Guru sahib......you should be like..."mera ruse na kalgian wala, jag bhawein sara rus jaye"

another thing just think of your achievements:

1. where was you 5 years ago?

2. where are you now?

3. where will you be 5 years after?

So why wasting your precious life by this childish hide n seek for nobody? Your family members will start saying eventually "eh ta edan di hi aa",, but who's loosing....it's YOU

[simran345]

Bhen ji eho sleep paralysis di awastha hai ji

Loki esnu paise kharach ke, trainings kar kar ke, sikhde aa

Sleep paralysis vi ahnde jisto agge thodi aatma bahar nikal ke fer wapis aa jndi hai

Scary lgda hunda bahut jiada kioki tusi eh dimensions to bina kisey doosri dimension vich enter krke fer es dimension vich wapis aa jnde ho, daro na

Jo hunda osnu shaanti naal naam japde dekhi jawo

Yes I've had sleep paralysis too. It's important to have full sleep, as fatigue may affect one also.

Also listening to shabads before going to sleep helps.

[sikhni777]

UTI uninary tract infection can cause considerable pain. When your body is down then you are more prone. Drinking lots of water definitely helps. At 18 your hormones are all haywire. That is why you are going through all these mixed emotions. A trip to the doctor and perhaps a urine test will get you sorted. UTI or ear infections can sometimes make you feel dizzy.

I myself was a mess at 18. Believe me life gets better as those teenage years come to a gradual end. Good healthy diet and positive thoughts are vital to a healthy existence. Stop hating people too. You still got a lot to learn.

Youth does not come again. The seconds you waste in hate and self pity will never come back ever again. They are lost forever. Therefore always use your time wisely.