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Was it okay to leave my mentally ill husband?


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I got married to my husband one year ago, but i left him only a few months later because he was mentally ill. I got married to him because they had a big house. Now i am at my own house. But I dont know if it was right to leave him. We already divorced. Was it a sin? Or was it right to leave him if i was not happy? 

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16 hours ago, Guest WaheguruJiiii said:

I got married to my husband one year ago, but i left him only a few months later because he was mentally ill. I got married to him because they had a big house. Now i am at my own house. But I dont know if it was right to leave him. We already divorced. Was it a sin? Or was it right to leave him if i was not happy? 

you married the house it seems not the man ...maybe you were the one with the mental block . you didn't act like a true partner or wife , you didn't support and help your husband but ran because wasn't going to be a fairy tale in your big house .

The problem my dear it seems was you were shallow  and failed at basic humanity , in marriage it's not always about you,  you actually have to think of your other half and their needs too. You did not mention word one about his family or his problems , guess it wasn't important enough to deal with beyond a couple of months .  Now your conscience is pricking you  but it's a bit late you hurt and abandoned your husband at his most vulnerable time  - live with it, you are selfish

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1 hour ago, puzzled said:

You married the house not the man, your a gold digger and are a danger to men and their families. 

Why did you take laavaan with him if it was his house you wanted? Should of done phere around his house instead. 

SEe ? you never know if the Couple sitting there is actually there to Give themselves to GURU...

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47 minutes ago, Amit12 said:

SEe ? you never know if the Couple sitting there is actually there to Give themselves to GURU...

Yeah they are deceiving everyone like this gold digger was, but waheguru is watching everything

But when it comes to interfaith marriages then it is pretty obvious they are not committed, they don't even try to hide it and are very open about bringing to another faith and yet the masands running the gurdware still let them sit before guru granth sahib ji and are fake vows

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20 hours ago, Guest WaheguruJiiii said:

I got married to my husband one year ago, but i left him only a few months later because he was mentally ill. I got married to him because they had a big house. Now i am at my own house. But I dont know if it was right to leave him. We already divorced. Was it a sin? Or was it right to leave him if i was not happy? 

Everyone on this thread is thrashing this woman, (rightly so, you did not have good intentions going into the marriage and maharaj gave you a lesson by getting married to someone with a mental problem).

But let's focus on what you can do now.

You can go back to him, apologise to him and his family, start reading paath and try to be a good wife and help him on his journey. Don't be so selfish as to just think about your needs.

Or, you can marry another man for his money or big house and the cycle will repeat. I guarantee you will not find happiness chasing materialistic things and wealth. 

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To the OP with the 'problem' that she wants sorted:

It's about decisions. Making the right ones and being held accountable for them. You made wrong decisions....now learn from them.

And then, when you decided you needed advice, you chose a forum that is largely populated by retards and simpletons. You're still making silly decisions. Stop it.

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Ah! Two things have taken place. You both had a pending karma that has finally ended! Or you have postponed to be with the mental man until next time... (next time means next life). If God willing the pending karma's ended this life!

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On 12/3/2018 at 7:54 AM, savalakhsingh said:

 

You can go back to him, apologise to him and his family, start reading paath and try to be a good wife and help him on his journey. Don't be so selfish as to just think about your needs.

Good thought.

There are two (maybe 3) lines of thought on mental illness: 

1) It can be cured with medicine. If so, get him (your husband) the medical help he needs.

2) It can be cured with good life experiences. If so, get your husband to exercise and do happy stuff. Go to the park, or the countryside.

3) It can be cured (or at least remedied) with prayer and devotion. If so, read Gurbani and do or listen to kirtan with him.

 

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30 minutes ago, Singh1989 said:

You both had a pending karma that has finally ended!

I hate it when people say this. It's basically a cop-out and excuse for doing whatever you want to do, and you just say, it was karma for the other individual.

Steal something from someone? It was just karma.

Cuss someone out? It was just karma for him.

Cheat on your husband/wife? It was just karma.

Saying "it was just karma" basically means the death of moral thought, because you're no longer responsible for moral action, you just do whatever strikes your mind, and say "it was karma".

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