Very very good answer. You just said what my heart always wanted to hear. Thanks for reminding me who I am “Grihsthi Yogi”. Infact one hour ago I was thinking the exact thing. We are Sadhus, but householder sadhus. I always had an ambition to be a Sadhu.
Is there any benefit to taking cold shower?
You are doing great. Consistency matters more than quantity.
I dont have personal experience but these r some sakhis i have heard.
One was a women, who heard the importance of naam simran and told her family I will do all the work but I will not talk. U can write ur requests down. So all day say would go about loudly saying waheguru waheguru. Without pause. Kids and family heard it constantly from the time she woke and to when she slept. She chanted it as she did all housework. This went on for months. Then suddenly there was silence. They wrote why arent u saying waheguru anymore? She said no need anymore, it is inside now.
Ofc u cant do this. But at home after work, before work in the car, chant loudly. Then while talking to ppl, try saying in ur mind. At first it will be hard to do 2 things with mind, listen to convo and say waheguru mentally. But with practice u can. Another way to practice this is while doing gurbani paath. Say gurbani outloud and mentally chant waheguru. And when saying waheguru outloud, think of gurbani pangtis that describes him. Takes a lot of effort initially.Bhai randheer singh talks about this. He has many books online. Check him out.
Ofc this is in addition to ur 15 mins. This is throughout the day as u work, not as a replacement of ur dedicated simran time.
Secondly, is bhai veer singhs method. Also a great writer found online. He says try to remember waheguru throughout the day. Whenever you do, say waheguru 3x in gratitude and smile while thinking shukar hai, mainu yaad kita, te karaya. And as time goes u will remember more often.
Thats why some things are forbidden while some are just frowned upon. There r different restrictions and different types of bad things.
The things that are considered the worst will affect not only ur spiritual life but also ur physical life such as health and society and ur family as well: such as stealing, using drugs, lust, bf gf stuff.
If u look at people who are poor especially in developed coungries like america is is because they have indulged in these worst things and ruined their life and their families and future generations. Like having kids out of wedlock, stealing and going to jail, drugs etc. (Excluding mental illness)
I know you are going to say, thats not what im referring to. Masturbation wont ruin ur life to that extent, but it is a cop out. U r taking the easy way out. Instead of fighting one of the grandest hardest fights against ur mind, against mahabir lust, ur giving in.
Like bhai jagraj singh of basics used to say, sikhi doeant have too many rules, thats why we have a lot of grey areas and these questions arise, because each person can decide for themselves based on their goals.
People who are really strongly on the path of spirituality will want to avoid movies, songs, sports. And will try to restrain their mind at all times.
But as grihisti sikhs if we arent going to go to that extent. That doesnt mean we give in and allow anything. Just youtube it, so many ppl talking about no fap and its benefits, cold baths, dopamine fast, meditation. Shouldnt sikhs be of a higher caliber?
We r forgetting, more than saint soldiers, we were made monk householders, grihisti yogis. We were supposed to strive for mukti, liberation while raising family, living in the world and trying to save the world. Any of these goals is hard to do and takes a lifetime, so as sikhs how can we have time for pleasures when such heavy duties await us?