At what age should Sikhs get married?

[Guest Sikh]

The age people get married is increasing in the world and Punjab. Sikhs in the past married and started families at much younger ages but today many delay it till their late 20s or early 30s. Recently, India proposed a bill to increase the legal age of women getting married to 21 from 18 while it's already 21 for men.  

Is it better to get married early like Sikhs of the past or follow the global trend of getting married later? 

[S1ngh 2,418]

On 1/18/2022 at 6:02 PM, Guest Sikh said:

Is it better to get married early like Sikhs of the past or follow the global trend of getting married later? 

I agree with above but then also we have to look at the divorce rate in our community (young age not mature enough etc). 

[Jacfsing2 873]

On 1/18/2022 at 9:02 PM, Guest Sikh said:

Is it better to get married early like Sikhs of the past or follow the global trend of getting married later? 

It’s best to be married at the youngest age that you can be mature, most people these days are immature well into their 20s, while in the past teens were mature. 

[GurjantGnostic 4,644]

As the average age of marriage has gone up, I'm not sure the success rate has. 

[NaamTiharoJoJape 460]

pragmatically speaking, it would be easier for youth to control desire for opposite gender when they are tied to commitment, like at least a roka if not a marraige 

[Jacfsing2 873]

9 hours ago, NaamTiharoJoJape said:

pragmatically speaking, it would be easier for youth to control desire for opposite gender when they are tied to commitment, like at least a roka if not a marraige 

I’m not married, but I don’t think lust ends with marriage. It’s something people have to fight with until they get mukti. 

[dallysingh101 7,289]

Coming as an older, I'd advise younguns:

Get married while you're young. It isn't like getting married when older is some guarantee of not getting divorced.  

Plus you can get baggage as you get older, that can make relationships harder. 

It's best when you have a good supportive network around you.  You'll need it. 

[dallysingh101 7,289]

Your tolerance levels go down as you get older. You get more easily irritated. Better to get into a relationship before this. lol! 

 

 

 

[Premi5 3,255]

12 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

Your tolerance levels go down as you get older. You get more easily irritated. Better to get into a relationship before this. lol! 

 

 

 

Conversely, I think a lot of 'angry young men' for example, mellow with age. 

I think when for example one is younger and makes mistakes due to anger/impatience, you learn a lesson each time and then better control it. 

But it might depend on how 'high maintenance' your partner is , lol

[Jacfsing2 873]

2 hours ago, Premi5 said:

Conversely, I think a lot of 'angry young men' for example, mellow with age. 

I think when for example one is younger and makes mistakes due to anger/impatience, you learn a lesson each time and then better control it. 

But it might depend on how 'high maintenance' your partner is , lol

I think men become more high maintenance with age, while women become less high maintenance with age; the problem is when many guys are more high maintenance than their value, as their value isn’t just their looks, controversially a woman who’s more more high maintenance than what’s her value would still be able to get guys at a young enough age. 

[Premi5 3,255]

17 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

 while women become less high maintenance with age; 

Not sure that's true, lol . Actually, I think a lot of women retain more of their personality traits as they get older than men. I think men learn from their mistakes, experiences and inter-personal relationships (nature of women and how to manage relationships better) than women do

[dallysingh101 7,289]

21 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

I think men become more high maintenance with age, while women become less high maintenance with age; the problem is when many guys are more high maintenance than their value, as their value isn’t just their looks, controversially a woman who’s more more high maintenance than what’s her value would still be able to get guys at a young enough age. 

I think as well, some men's 'boat races' (faces) can start to look more attractive to women as they get older, because they look like they are more 'distinguished' or have more 'character' because of it?

Plus a lot of bloke-ish or laddish geezers can be quite immature, and only grow up mentally a bit later. That's why you get 40/50 year olds in the UK who still get drunk, and start fighting with other football teams fans even after reaching middle age maybe?   

[Jacfsing2 873]

38 minutes ago, Premi5 said:

Not sure that's true, lol . Actually, I think a lot of women retain more of their personality traits as they get older than men. I think men learn from their mistakes, experiences and inter-personal relationships (nature of women and how to manage relationships better) than women do

Women’s prime is in their 20s, and mens prime is in their 30s.  

[Jacfsing2 873]

@Premi5idk if you’re a girl or some hardcore feminist munda. 

[Premi5 3,255]

3 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

Women’s prime is in their 20s, and mens prime is in their 30s.  

'Prime' meaning what ?

@Jacfsing2 feminist munda ?