The Issue With Sari's

[Wicked Warrior]

i live in soton and well theres no1 here to teach us, this area is well... well u can say there is no sikhi inspiration here. no1 wants to spread Waheguru's bani.

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Don't worry bout the Soton thing. We're trying to get the Sikh Society established here in Soton. At the mo, it's just starting up and we're trying to sort out future events.

You'll hear more in the future.

[randip singh]

wjkk wjkf

hey im a sikh girl with amritdhari rents and for my prom i bought a sari to wear, bt most guys ive spoken to have said its rong to wear sari's and well i havent heard a valid reason for sikh girls not being allowed to wear sari's

if anyone is able to give a good reason y we aren't allowed to wear saris i would love to know :lol:

they've told me tht its easier for a guy to rape you, but lyk thts not relli a good enuff arguement becoz well it doesnt happen (i know ppl r gona say tht it does and i accept tht bt lyk thts not a good enuff arguement to put me off frm wearin one u get me?)

and anova reason i got was because it makes the opposite sex look at ur sexually well to b honest anything worn will make the ova sex look no mata if ur fully covered or not

and it is possible to wear a sari tht covers mostly everything so having bare legs or stomach isnt reali a problem either

so anyone else got a beta reason?

would be happy to know

thank you

wjkk wjkf

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Wear what you like and tell these sexist idiots to get lost.

I personally don't like Saree's but if you want to wear them then that is your choice.

Don't wear this, don't wear that...honestly ....next we will have our own Sikh version of the Sharia Law. :cool:

[Tera]

Kirandeep phenji...

Wear something you are comfortable in and ask yourself if you would wear the same, do the same, in front of 'sacha pita' Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji.

If you thought it was ok and 'right' to wear it, then you would not have asked the question in the first place, so my answer is no. Dont wear a Sari.

Think about this... A guy's walking down the street, dressed bare minimum, bound to attract attention. A Singhni other side of the road doing simran, glances over and some obvoius thoughts spring to mind. Who would get the paap there?

And talk of does a Bana get you closer to God... You must have Bani and Bana. Papee like me have neither. I would so love to wear a Bana everyday but without Bani, Bana is useless. But with Bani and Bana comes great responsibility.

[jss]

tera

i'm not following your logic behind the paap?

so if i do something that makes someone have jealousy and envy...(which happens all the time when you're me..hehe) i get the paap?

so if kirandeep wears a sari..and some pervert starts checking her out..she gets the paap?

i don't follow your logic...maybe i misread what you said...but pls clarify...

[kirandeep]

thank you everyone for ur responses

they are sooo different bt good in there own way

i dnt realli know wot i believe now

i reallli lyked faujkaurs reply

i do agree tht if the 5 kakkar are on and u keep waheguru in mind, there shudnt b a problem about wot u wear, bt lyk sm1 else said that r u able to do kirtan and seva in wot u wear, then its ok is also a valid point

i jst set up this topic becz i wanted to no wt ppl's view were on such modern issues lyk this. i know its not as extreme as ova topics on this site, bt its the lil fings tht make the big impacts on our lives.

does GGSJi say nefink about it?

bhul chuk maf

wjkk wjkf

[Akaali]

http://www.sikhionline.com/gurbani/gurbani-html/Clothes.htm

[Guest lowest of the low singhni]

"does GGSJi say nefink about it?"

we should all make an effort to read what Guru Saheb says to us on a daily basis through sehaj paath. if we do that then most of these questions are answered, even though issues like sari-wearing and prom-attending aren't mentioned specifically. an understanding of Gurbani is attained and then you're pretty much sorted. it's so important to know what Guru Saheb says. quoting bits and pieces of Gurbani is good, but not enough. it's important to have the full account and to understand every aspect of a Gursikh's life. most of us make little effort to do sehaj paath and until we do we're going to be stuck, and cannot progress further.

Gurbani = Shabad Guru.

kiran, in answer to your question, start wearing bana. that's the khalsa uniform, laid down for us as sant-sipahis. it encourages us to follow Guru Saheb's path, because we know we must act according to Guru Ji's will - which can be explored in greater detail when reading Gurbani.

of course, there's the issue of going to a prom in the first place which can probably occupy another thread. personally i can't see Guru Gobind Singh going to a prom. we should ask ourselves what the purpose is in whatever we do, and should always act as if Guru Gobind Singh is standing with us.

~l~

[Prem]

There is nothing wrong with going to the Prom. Going to the prom is just a way of socialising and marking the end of a period of your life at school or college and a way to say goodbye to friends as you move on to the next stage in your life. Sometimes I worry that people can take things too literally and suggest that innocuous things are forbidden. I do not believe that Guru Gobind Singhji wanted us to live apart from society and not to partake in the rites of passage and socialise with friends and have fun.

[Guest lowest of the low singhni]

lol, depends on your impression of fun.

Prem, i respect your opinion. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. :lol:

~l~

[jss]

i'd like to say..that the PANTH hasn't even figured out what bana is...collectively...

every jatha, every sampardha has their own bana...some wear all white..some wear cholas, some wear all blue...

so what bana means to one person could be different than what bana means to somoene else...and all are valid...cuz there's been no directive from akal takt..and all the quotes from gurbani where guru ji talks about clothes...guru ji doesn't forbid the clothing..or styling...he's talking about where our minds are concentrating...our gurus lived like kings..yet their humility was that of a beggar at the door of waheguru...it doesn't matter how fancy your clothes are..they say NOTHING about your avastha..and even if you wear a chola yet don't do anything a khalsa should be doing...it doesn't increase your avastha by wearing the chola...

personally...for me my bana means having my panj kakkar on me at all times...

if yours is different..that's cool...

but making broad statements like " you should wear guru ji's bana"...isn't very directional...maybe people can outline what they believe to be bana when they tell someone to wear bana...