Why Do So Many Sikh Girls Run Off With Muslims

[Pyara 288]

why do so many sikh girls run off with muslms

Maybe because young muslims know their religion better than young Sikhs..so are able to market themselves better to girls..face it you get more dharam pukay muslim lads then sikh lads..so when a girl thinks she's found someone with strong moral values she chooses the muslim lad over the sikh lad..

[G-Kaur 3]

Sad that these Muslim guys refuse to convert but our Sikh girls think nothing of turning their back on Sikhi. Lack of knowledge, no pyaar between the family members, putting the sons first and no explanations for religious questions.

You see these Muslims sending their kids to learn the Quran, they do a lot more for their kids to learn their religion, Sikh girls are influenced by films, clubs, music and these silly notions of being in love and are just weak, that's the reality of the situation.

We should ask the Sikh channel to highlight this issue, it's been going on for ages, I thought it was a myth or a few cases but someone I know closely, as in my dad's family friend's daughter got pregnant by a Muslim and has now run off with him, her dad's disowned her. Sad thing is he used to beat his kids and wife up, and stayed away from them for years and left them to it. I think it's a lot of issues that contribute to this problem, the biggest is probably the crappy punjabi culture.

[inderking 6]

I tell you why this is all happening , its becuase we are weak SIKHS and are not even worthy of kissing the dust of our ancestors let alone bowing our heads to the Guru Granth Sahib. WE Sikhs have to stand up to be counted and stop moaning about cases that we do not do anyhting about, and I absolutley hate this attuide of "giving in " that some Sikhs have, normally saying that "if God wants this way then this is the way it should go" I feel this is a pathetic attuide, our GURUS taught us to standup for each other and not fear anyone. STOP MOANING OR DO SOMETHING these are the options we have .

OK I agree the Punjabi culture has alot of failings, but so do other cultures . The muslims culture is the worse of them all .

G-Kaur talks about a young lady running away and her father disowning her, this is exactly what muslims want the old support structure of her Sikh family rejecting her, once she had told them that she was pregant by a Mulslim, the young lady has fallen into a trap. Now all the young lady can do is turn to the Muslim, and she will find it really hard to talk to her family again. If she is pregant and her family will not except her, why can't the Gurdwara's help her and keep her away from these mulsims and accept the unborn child as Sikh, the sangat should stop thinking this is just "standard " and common. We need to stop this, before it is your daughter.

All we have to do is have the basic belief that we should not trust muslims no matter what weather someone knows about the GURU's teaching or not.

If any of you have problems please contact the Sikh Awareness Society - 07780 601 351. They have a website check it out. There the only group that seem to be doing anyhting. Please report all cases to them . G - Kaur, Southall youth, Jagmeet maybe you can report the case you know of and the family may get help.

WE JUST NEED TO STANDUP FOR EACH OTHER, LIKE THE GURUS TAUGHT US. STOP THINKING THAT YOU MAY GET LOCKED AWAY, IF YOU WILL NOT FIGHT FOR YOUR DAUGHTERS, THEN WHO WILL YOU FIGHT FOR.

[Singh559 2,640]

Just befriend people and talk to them about relationships and how they don't need it, that's what I do to friends that I have that are girls. It actually works, you just need to be confident in yourself and do it in a way that makes the other individual respect you...You don't have to have a relationship to be a friend.

[yubacitysingh 4]

i think the solution to the problem is easy

1. no more favoring boys over girls, treat them and love them the same

2. punjabis work 18 hours a day trying to buy the biggest house and nicest car to show off to their neibours to try boosting their egos, they should instead forget about trying to show off to others and spend time with their children, teach them good morals, and to build a close relationship with their children were their kids can talk to them about anything and the parants can guide them in the right direction, and not force their kids to do what they want but rather have open communication, educate them on sikhi or have programs in the gurdwara that inspire youth to learn sikhi

(their our programs for youth to learn sikhi in the gurdwaras but their usually boring and just involve lecturing, we need some exciting teachers who can teach the youth sikhi)

3. i believe a father/brother, i believe a father/brother should build their daughters/sisters self esteem and confidence and build a close relationship and have open communication were they can talk about anything so they can guide them in the right direction, and don't try telling them what to do or they'll rebell but instead just communicate and guide them, and should be up to father/brotehr to teach their daughter/sister strong morals

by doing this their is no way a sikh girl would do anything to hurt her family and if she has bin tought good morals and has high self esteem and has bin educated on sikh history and sikhi no way she would run away with a guy or do anything that could hurt her family

[whyhellothere 17]

sherepunjab93 you make some really good points, alot of sikh fathers do not treat their daughters and sons equally and this damages daughters so much and is typically carried into adulthood.

Punjabi culture's spun out of control, why couldn't most sikhs just stay god fearing like they were in the old days instead of being sexist beer guzzling chauvinists who have no respect for our gurus and all that they did and still do for us.

The fact is, if sikh girls are brought up in a family with brothers and fathers they cannot respect as they themselves have no respect for anything or anyone, they're not going to want to marry a sikh guy with the same lack of values and crappy attitude which is probably all the choice they're gonna have unless they're lucky to find a genuinely good sikh.

Girls want a guy who no matter how tough he can act is caring on the inside and who will care about and love them, a guy that they can depend on. Someone made the point that muslim guys care about their religion alot and this shows girls that they actually have the ability to care and the stability and discipline of their religion can indicate dependability in their nature.

Alot of the time though, muslim guys will try hard to get a sikh girl because they're on a mission to convert, whether they are religious or not. Even if they themselves aren't very religious, there will almost always be someone whispering in their ear, brothers, uncles, telling them it's their duty, We've all head true stories about rewards and free food for muslim boys who convert sikh girls this is a fact and happens in and around mosques and areas all over britain.

Guys will hide this agenda completely from sikh girls, acting all sensitive, caring and flattering and sikh girls who have not been educated by their fathers or brothers properly or have but are fooled by the guys sweet facade fall into the trap! It's sad but it happens so often!

[kds1980 20]

The fact is, if sikh girls are brought up in a family with brothers and fathers they cannot respect as they themselves have no respect for anything or anyone, they're not going to want to marry a sikh guy with the same lack of values and crappy attitude which is probably all the choice they're gonna have unless they're lucky to find a genuinely good sikh.

In urban India a lot of sikh families treat their daughters as princess.Yet many of these Girls end up marrying in Non sikh homes.Despite so much love from their brothers and fathers they hate sikh image of turban and beard from their heart.Is their any answer why they do that?

[inderking 6]

One thing we have to be aware of also is , the Indian authorities have a interest in causing trouble between the Sikh and Muslim communties abroad like in the UK. Why because they know the respective communties are a threat to them in terms of lobbying the western goverments on issues such as human rights, so instead they make the enemies of the India state fight aginst each other . Indian Agencies like the BJP and RSS take advantge of this.

The last entry made by kds1980 , have you any evidence of this, there maybe a few cases, but not as many as you are trying to indicate. The fact is in India if a woman from a drifferent religion marries into another she is dead the next day.

[Guest fordcapri]

I think daughters need discipline, no who the boss is, at the same time haveing a good relationship with daughter

Parents should consider covert survaliance of daugters while going to and from school,college,uni.

Text message retrieval is another good one, find what shes up to.

[whyhellothere 17]

In urban India a lot of sikh families treat their daughters as princess.Yet many of these Girls end up marrying in Non sikh homes.Despite so much love from their brothers and fathers they hate sikh image of turban and beard from their heart.Is their any answer why they do that?

/quote]

Maybe they think the grass is greener, not too sure. Oh and I forgot to say that loads of silly sikh girls look for rude boys aswell, loads of muslim boys fit into this category (I know some sikh guys do aswell, i'm just saying!) even being members of gangs etc.

But like I said most will do the whole tough around guys, sweet around girlfriend thing, which is silly cuz most are scum anyway, esp the ones who are trying to convert the girl.

And it's not just the guys either, there are muslim girls getting sikh guys to marry them and convert aswell but those guys are idiots.

[hkaurP 29]

Personally I haven't heard of any cases of conversion in America but I know a lot of girls who have had Muslim boyfriends because they're "better looking."

Another case that is common here is a Sikh girl will go out with a Sikh boy who has kes and eventually make him cut his kes.

So many problems with youth today. Without proper knowledge we are going no where. Kaljug is truly kicking in.

[Harinder_Singh 7]

The topic should be "why do PUNJABI girls run off with Muslims"

[yubacitysingh 4]

The fact is, if sikh girls are brought up in a family with brothers and fathers they cannot respect as they themselves have no respect for anything or anyone, they're not going to want to marry a sikh guy with the same lack of values and crappy attitude which is probably all the choice they're gonna have unless they're lucky to find a genuinely good sikh.

In urban India a lot of sikh families treat their daughters as princess.Yet many of these Girls end up marrying in Non sikh homes.Despite so much love from their brothers and fathers they hate sikh image of turban and beard from their heart.Is their any answer why they do that?

in the major city's in india they either treat their daughters second class citizens or spoil the daylights on of them

thats why i said

a father and brother must build a close relationship with open communication, you can't just order the daughter/sister around and tell her what she can or can't do cause then they will rebell against their brother and father, but with open communication you can guide them, and a father rather then working as much as he can to buy the biggest possible house and nicest cars to show off, he should rather invest that time in his daughter building her self esteem, morals, and educating her on sikhi and sikh history, and the brother rather then ignoring his sister should also take time and invest it in his sister and have open communication build her confidence and build or morals up

and at the gurdwaras 95% of gurdwaras suck at educating sikh youth on sikhi, kids get bored and hence why so many sikh youth don't go to the gurdwara or go once in a while

their some great khalsa camps now comming up but the once i went to were boring and most kids just got angry being forced to go to these camps, don't just make a kid get up early in the mournign and have them doing keertan when they rather watch cartoons, you have to make educating sikhs on sikhi fun, and educate them on how to use sikhi to build their self esteem and apply it in their lives, and educate them on our history cause damn is our history inspirational

an you can't just spoil the daughter cause your going to raise a paris hilton or daddy's lil <banned word filter activated>

and family's who think by spoiling their daughter and son would make them good our just idiots

[jaswinder singh 27]

the real question is why sikh youth has been going away from heritage?

answer :-

the parents have no time to spend with them, just forget the quality time

the parents have themselves little or no knowledge (barring a few)

of the rich heritage

The elders do not know how to give covincing logical answers to the queries

and questions of the youth & teenagers regarding religion and spirituality.

The study of religion , spirituality (and philosophy ) is not encouraged (

Actually discouraged) by the parents , thinking that it is intrusion in regular school

curricula.

[mala 0]

Parents should consider covert survaliance of daugters while going to and from school,college,uni.

Text message retrieval is another good one, find what shes up to.

lol :lol:...covert survaliance?..perhaps we can paint our faces and disguise ourselves as bushes so that we can follow our daughters on the way to school..:ph34r:..