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16 hours ago, kidsama said:

it's so easy to get ahead in today's world (materially). People always talking about how there's high competition all that, it's super easy to get ahead. Porn, Masturbation, alcohol, weed, casual sex, video games, junk foods, and just people not using their brains fully (they know what they should do but still make dumb choices etc). As a man if you avoid all this, retain your seed, and use this brain that's been given to us, this life is super easy. Sit back plan out and move forward. Watch all these fools drown. Don't bother helping them, they won't listen. Only when you become the light, those who want help will come to you, and those people you help and guide. 

true, discipline is what makes you strong. it gives you this strong positive energy.    if you can fight temptation whatever it may be then you are strong.   discipline makes you strong in many ways.  it helps you in your spiritual growth, in fact i think discipline is what you need to grow spiritually.  its a good feeling too   

if you fall for every temptation then you are lazy and weak.   

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16 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

We're considered odd for noticing such things. I'm fine with being odd.

sad, weird, dinosaurs    all sorts of names for us      

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2 hours ago, puzzled said:

true, discipline is what makes you strong. it gives you this strong positive energy.    if you can fight temptation whatever it may be then you are strong.   discipline makes you strong in many ways.  it helps you in your spiritual growth, in fact i think discipline is what you need to grow spiritually.  its a good feeling too   

if you fall for every temptation then you are lazy and weak.   

One thing I've learned over the years when trying to create consistent routines of discipline and control is not to retreat into arrogance or become judgemental which is one of the easiest traps to fall into when things begin clicking spiritually. Yes, I'm allowed to have opinions and thoughts on things I see and encounter which I find to be objectionable based on my buddhi at that specific period of my life. I'm not quite at the stage of "Hum nahi changeh, burra nahi koe" because I don't feel this particular janam of mine was ever destined to be one of peace and serenity. When I'm content and "happy" I feel exposed and almost weak. I'm at my best when I'm "fighting" and alert. I feel alive when struggling. Vegetating in comfort is something I detest. That's not to say I'm not striving for those qualities, but I've come to the realisation that this lifetime, for me, is one of trials. You've got to be honest with yourself, brutally at times, to really begin to know and learn things. 

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7 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

One thing I've learned over the years when trying to create consistent routines of discipline and control is not to retreat into arrogance or become judgemental which is one of the easiest traps to fall into when things begin clicking spiritually. Yes, I'm allowed to have opinions and thoughts on things I see and encounter which I find to be objectionable based on my buddhi at that specific period of my life. I'm not quite at the stage of "Hum nahi changeh, burra nahi koe" because I don't feel this particular janam of mine was ever destined to be one of peace and serenity. When I'm content and "happy" I feel exposed and almost weak. I'm at my best when I'm "fighting" and alert. I feel alive when struggling. Vegetating in comfort is something I detest. That's not to say I'm not striving for those qualities, but I've come to the realisation that this lifetime, for me, is one of trials. You've got to be honest with yourself, brutally at times, to really begin to know and learn things. 

You must be the Sikh David Goggins or should I say Davinder Gagan 

 

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18 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

One thing I've learned over the years when trying to create consistent routines of discipline and control is not to retreat into arrogance or become judgemental which is one of the easiest traps to fall into when things begin clicking spiritually. Yes, I'm allowed to have opinions and thoughts on things I see and encounter which I find to be objectionable based on my buddhi at that specific period of my life. I'm not quite at the stage of "Hum nahi changeh, burra nahi koe" because I don't feel this particular janam of mine was ever destined to be one of peace and serenity. When I'm content and "happy" I feel exposed and almost weak. I'm at my best when I'm "fighting" and alert. I feel alive when struggling. Vegetating in comfort is something I detest. That's not to say I'm not striving for those qualities, but I've come to the realisation that this lifetime, for me, is one of trials. You've got to be honest with yourself, brutally at times, to really begin to know and learn things. 

sometimes when you look back  you realize its the times that you hated the most that strengthen your faith. 

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i see it as, us being a product of our past lives and karma. your battling the bad karma which you gathered in your previous life. I dont see it as life throwing things at me but me simply facing what i sowed in the past.    tackle it with your faith and the remembrance of Waheguru.   

i see patterns in myself, everywhere i go and whoever i meet  i see the same recurring pattern,  its the same theme, same emotion     its a continuation from the past.    

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1 hour ago, puzzled said:

i see it as, us being a product of our past lives and karma. your battling the bad karma which you gathered in your previous life. I dont see it as life throwing things at me but me simply facing what i sowed on the past.    tackle it with your faith and the remembrance of Waheguru.   

i see patterns in myself, everywhere i go and whoever i meet  i see the same recurring pattern,  its the same theme, same emotion     its a continuation from the past.    

Seeing questions being answered and situations unfolding in your day-to-day life in response to something that was only ever known to you, is faith affirming. It gives me confidence that I'm not totally barking up the wrong tree, lol.

Yes, patterns! Spotting reoccurring patterns is key. Got to be awake to it. 

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On 2/3/2020 at 6:39 PM, Harditsingh said:

I am 23 and i want to get married but the problem is that I can't find the type women I am looking for here. I want a girl who dresses modestly isn't into partying one who enjoys books helping her mother etc the girls in my area are not like this and are all into parties and functions and being all show offy. 

Does anybody here have similar problwms?

 

Question: What about a woman who's into fashion, even if it's not modest but who has a good and pure heart?

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The reason I want to get married now is because I don't want to chase girls and get empty situations . I also feel like I seen what the single life has to offer and am ready to settle down and take the next step in life. I don't want to wait untill I'm 34 and marry a 32 year old I'd much rather marry a 19 to 21 year old . The only problem i have I don't go to uni but I work full time in sales. 

I just want a girl who isn't matrealistic and is real I am not going to be the type of husband that makes her clean up everything and cook I will help her but I also won't be a push over I will not tolerate partying drinking or dressing skimpy  I have heard so many horror stories of guys married who are older then me that get treated like a door mat by their wives I don't want that. I don't even know if the type of women I want exists anymore 😂😔

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On 2/3/2020 at 7:39 AM, Harditsingh said:

I am 23 and i want to get married but the problem is that I can't find the type women I am looking for here. I want a girl who dresses modestly isn't into partying one who enjoys books helping her mother etc the girls in my area are not like this and are all into parties and functions and being all show offy. 

Does anybody here have similar problwms?

 

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On 2/3/2020 at 10:39 AM, Harditsingh said:

I am 23 and i want to get married but the problem is that I can't find the type women I am looking for here. I want a girl who dresses modestly isn't into partying one who enjoys books helping her mother etc the girls in my area are not like this and are all into parties and functions and being all show offy. 

Does anybody here have similar problwms?

 

Hmm, thats quite a bit tricky to find.

let me ask ranjit Kaur Dhariawali if she is ready for marriage.  From the perception of nicely dressed, i dont think you can find any girl more prettier than Dhadriawali jeeto 😂😂😂

phulla wali shawl, new clothes, matching goggles and light pink lipstick.

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9 hours ago, Harditsingh said:

The reason I want to get married now is because I don't want to chase girls and get empty situations . I also feel like I seen what the single life has to offer and am ready to settle down and take the next step in life. I don't want to wait untill I'm 34 and marry a 32 year old I'd much rather marry a 19 to 21 year old . The only problem i have I don't go to uni but I work full time in sales. 

I just want a girl who isn't matrealistic and is real I am not going to be the type of husband that makes her clean up everything and cook I will help her but I also won't be a push over I will not tolerate partying drinking or dressing skimpy  I have heard so many horror stories of guys married who are older then me that get treated like a door mat by their wives I don't want that. I don't even know if the type of women I want exists anymore 😂😔

Good on you brother. You wanting to get married at 23 is actually a good example for others who could learn from you!

23 is the right age to get married and marrying a younger healthier wife ensures healthier stronger children.

A lot of Sikhs are getting married in late 30's and early 40's and then going on to have no children or maybe one baby.

In the meantime Muhammad Bajwa down the road is a grandfather by the time the party Sikhs think about settling down.

It doesn't matter if you work in sales - when you and your wife have a combined income you can achieve anything together.

But i must say when it comes to looking for a wife please disregard whether a girl is from one Sikh background or another.

United we stand and divided we fall. Can't remember if you are in BC or AB but Lethbridge is a place you can buy houses cheap.

Good luck - you got your priorities right - just remember "maanas ki jaath sabhe ek pechhaano" (recognise all as one). 

 

 

 

 

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OP can't find a wife and it seems to be mostly men that themselves haven't found a wife giving him advice here.  Good luck with that OP........you're gonna need it  :)

 

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12 hours ago, Guest Jigsaw_Puzzled_Singh said:

OP can't find a wife and it seems to be mostly men that themselves haven't found a wife giving him advice here.  Good luck with that OP........you're gonna need it  :)

 

Actually some of us are married and married young so we know what we are talking about. 

For a 23 year old wanting to get married to a 19 year old is like going back in time. 

It is not like the old days where a girl finishes school at 16 and goes to work straight after. 

These days we want our girls to be padhe likheh. That means going to university (graduating around 22). These girls want to work after that because they want a career and won't get married till at least 25. 

 

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On 2/13/2020 at 12:50 AM, Harditsingh said:

The reason I want to get married now is because I don't want to chase girls and get empty situations . I also feel like I seen what the single life has to offer and am ready to settle down and take the next step in life. I don't want to wait untill I'm 34 and marry a 32 year old I'd much rather marry a 19 to 21 year old . The only problem i have I don't go to uni but I work full time in sales. 

I just want a girl who isn't matrealistic and is real I am not going to be the type of husband that makes her clean up everything and cook I will help her but I also won't be a push over I will not tolerate partying drinking or dressing skimpy  I have heard so many horror stories of guys married who are older then me that get treated like a door mat by their wives I don't want that. I don't even know if the type of women I want exists anymore 😂😔

Your marriage should be an Equal partnership. A man should never feel that he has the right to Make a woman do anything. She was born free and she’ll die alone.

Control is an illusion, it’s a fear mechanism. People who control are fearful and insecure and don’t feel in control of themselves. 

You don’t need to tolerate anything, you can’t control another human being, control is an abusive trait. 
 


 

 

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