Women arent degraded by our Gurus, there are shabads you can search to read in this regard.
Marayada to be followed is what is given by the Panj pyare and same for any Khalsa in attendance.
You will meet many people who say many things, and with as many views thats just human nature.
Why do you feel embarrassed in a corporate environment?
You said you dont want to trim it. Which is obv as per the Sikhi way.
Then therapy or counselling may help deal with any feelings that may be affecting you?
Guru Nanak Maharaj has answered all questions already, within Guru Granth Sahib ji.
They travelled far and wide and engaged with all people and answered all questions.
Their darshan are within Guru Granth Sahib ji.
Through reading and understanding all doubts are erased.
After the aggressive proletysation that has been taken place in Punjab, it would seem that it's inevitable that there was going to be kind of push back.
However, we do not know who the assailants were and what the motives would be.