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Bhai Jarnail Singh jee who is a well known journalist is working on a documentary film on the anti Sikh genocide of November 1984. This is a trailer, please watch and share and give your valuable comments.

There's so much work to be done to change the mindset. What I have noticed is many of the elders do not feel they have produced a panthic piece of literature unless they have printed a Gurbani tuk or Ik Oankar as a header. I have had this debate with many over the years and they still bulk produce leaflets the following year with bani. The worst is when these leaflets end up on the toilet floors, on the floor by public bins. Keep the parchar at camps, workshops etc where we have access. As time goes on the people who attend these camps/workshops etc will go forth and pass the mindset on to others. Problem is it's more long term than short term...

Sorry for the delay. I always respond to messages but I don't log in very often these days. http://www.searchgurbani.com/guru_granth_sahib/ang/456/line/20643

Taken from: http://sarbjitsinghdhunda.blogspot.com/ Amazing Punjabi Katha in response to Sarbjit Dhunda. Putting him back into place, and answering questions by a 19 Year old UK born and bred Singh.

Leaflets and papers with bani and pictures of shaheeds were being given out. Many people didn't want a leaflet but were given one anyway by sevadars. Then I saw the same leaflets on the floor being stepped on with bani on them. I picked all the ones i could see up. Just a benti please don't print bani and pictures on leaflets. Just think about what people do, throw it on the floor.

Kabir discarded weaving and carding thread and became an ocean of merit. He became absorbed in the love of the lotus feet of God, whom he never forgets or puts out of his mind. Just as a fish cannot live without water, similarly, God's Name became an integral part of his life, his very 'life force' - 'A weaver of low family, he became an ocean of excellences.' That was not all, even those who kept his company or attended his congregations were transformed. One day, Kabir had gone out of home. A sufferer - some Raja (king or ruler), whose entire body was afflicted with leprosy and was giving out foul smell, came to his house. The Raja stood at his door and begged alms, and what alms did he beg? That which the saints have and can bestow. He said: "I want to see Kabir Sahib." Kabir Sahib's wife Loi came out and said: "He is out of home." The Raja said: "I am in great pain. I have come from afar. I am afflicted with leprosy. I cannot bear this pain. Kindly tell me where I can find Kabir Sahib." Kabir Sahib's wife said: "He is at a far off place. But since you are suffering, let me give you some medicine." He said: "Mother, I have already tried various cures and medicines. If I were to be cured with medicines, I would not have come to this door. Medicines have failed to cure me. No medicine is proving to be efficacious." She said: "I shall give you the medicine which saints or holy men have." Just as with 'amritdhara' (a herbal medicine) 32 ailments can be cured, similarly, with the saints and holy men, there is only one medicine for all ailments and that is God's Name: Refrain : For all your ailments, my dear, There is but one medicine - 'Waheguru's (God's) Name. XkoBk - s/o/ ;kfonK d[yK dh dko{, fJe' Bkw tkfjr[o{ dk w/ o/ fgnko/, fJe' Bkw tkfjr[o{ dk She said: "O king, get ready. Faith is the vessel for the medicine which the saints have. Do you have faith?" He replied: "Good woman, I have come here only with faith." So mother Loi said, "O king, one should have faith in one's heart. Then the medicine proves to be 100 percent effective. But the vessel, the capsule for the medicine should be of faith, because this medicine is going to be absorbed in your heart, and the moment it is absorbed, you will be cured." 'Pain comes not near him, within whose mind the Transcendent Lord abides. He is affected not by hunger and thirst and Death's minister comes not near him.' fi;[ wfB t;? gkopqjw fBefN B nkt? gho.. G[y fsy fs;[ B ftnkgJh iw[ Bjh nkt? Bho.. P. 1102 The Raja (king) said, "I certainly have faith." At this Mother Loi said, "Then the only medicine is God's Name." In this context, the Guru's edict is: 'I have abandoned all other efforts and have taken the medicine of the Name alone. The fever, sin and all the evils have been eradicated and my soul has been rendered cool.' My mind has become cool. I have been cured of all the three fevers and all the sins have been effaced. Mother Loi said: "Now I shall give you the medicine. Sit there." She herself also sat there, concentrating her mind, she was fully roused and inspired. The glow in her eyes was difficult to bear. She said: "Utter 'Ram'". She made the king utter the word 'Ram'. As soon as he uttered 'Ram', he felt a tingling sensation all over his body. She again made him utter the word 'Ram'. His pain and suffering was gone. She made him utter the word 'Ram' for the third time. Then she said to him: "Go now, bath yourself and continue reciting the word 'Ram', and sent him away. The king took bath. He was delighted and danced joyfully. His close companions, who were quite well-informed, said to him: "How did you get well?" He replied: "The holy man gave me medicine." They asked: "Do holy men have some panacea?" The king said, "It is not a panacea; it has another name." Refrain: 'The holy men have given me the medicine of Name.' XkoBk - fdsh ;kX{nK B/, w?B{z Bkw dh dtkJh The saint has given me the medicine of God's Name.'

I am Sincere gal

I think we are missing fundamental issue here which is - these shardlu's including with women and childrens who came to pay their respect on sri guru tegh bahudar ji shaheedi were kicked out from gurdwara sahib in the middle of night. Lets turn the tables around here so that picture can be clearer- plane packed with nri sikh shardlus goes to rakab ganj from abroad to pay respect to sri guru tegh bahudar ji and in return they were insulted/mocked/literally thrown by gurdwara committe and they spent rest of the night in foot paths..!! How we with families will feel? So instead of condemning this act in strong possible terms, we are here arguing over if its badal problem or sarna problem...REALLY? IS THIS WHAT SIKHI TEACHES US? TO PASS THE BUCK TO SOMEONE ELSE AND FORGET ABOUT IT..!!?? Sikhi and Humanity are not seperate they are part of each other, as soon as one puts politcs fwd in expense of these poor woman and children along with these shardlu men insulted/mocked/ kicked out from gurdwara in the middle of night, as soon they put politics fwd before humanity/sikhi, they have already lost plot in sikhi..!! We need to learn to be human first instead of robots (without any emotions)/ stone hearted than sikhi will come naturally..!! Its disheartening people reaction on this news..!!

The 3HO have been spoken about in the past on the terms of how they are breaking the number 1 rule of Satguru Sri Guru Granth Singh Sahib ji Maharaj; no idols at Gurdwaras. But one thing this forum is about is awareness. So this topic will be presented over and over here on this forum and other places on the internet. I have to say, Gursant Singh has done an extremely good job of making the Sikh world aware of these malpractices done in 3HO Gurdwaras. Many Sikhs have woken up and stopped supporting 3HO; this is a step forward in Satguru's direction. Just because a punjabi Sikh is supporting 3HO, don't take them as pure. Either the punjabi Sikh is ignorant of what is going on or wants to be blind to the reality taking place with the 3HO or he is hand in glove with these guys and in some way he is gaining from their malpractices. Support Gursant Singh on this mission of shining the light on 3HO practices. There is also a video on youtube where a few members of 3HO are intimidating Gursant Singh. 3HO should know one thing, and if the members who intimidated Gursant Singh are reading this, don't hestitate to send me a message here. I would love to hear from you :biggrin2: . The 3HO Guru; Yogi Bhajan is nothing compared to Satguru Sri Guru Gobind Singh Sahib ji Maharaj. So before you start intimidating others remember who couldn't escape Kaal and who is Akal. Idols were brought into Sri Harmandir Sahib's surroundings and the Khalsa Panth got together and removed the dusht of the Khalsa out. Once again the Singhs will arise and break these idols into pieces. Satguru says it himself..............I'm here to break these idols. In my opinion, Gursant Singh should present the factual evidence about the 3HO to Sri Akal Takht Sahib and the 3HO needs to answer for their actions. Surely they will not answer to other Sikhs. We saw this here when Gurmustak Singh refuse to answer questions on this site, when he found out his 3HO cult can't be protected. To naive Sikhs Gurmsutak Singh pulls his hocus pocus, but for learned Sikhs, he hides and runs. Gursant Singh if you read this forum, then draft up a letter that Sikhs can present to Sri Akal Takht Sahib and Sikhs can constantly start sending this letter to Sri Akal Takht Sahib. This is a very important issue. If it is not stopped now, then many other naive Sikhs will start to put idols around and in Gurdwaras.

This has long been disproved. It's not Maharaja Ranjit Singh, or even close for that matter.

WJKK WJKF Das needs some help straightening out his thoughts and thought he would ask for the advice of sangat. This is a bit of a spiel, I apologize in advance. I'm 21 years old and have no discipline what so ever. It's changing now mostly because of Guru Kirpa, I always do ardaas before doing anything and have been getting up for amritvela regularly now. It's even changed my studies as I tend to procrastinate less and actually do work ahead of time. I'm so happy that Guru sahib has taken mercy on me, but I feel very depressed it has taken so long for me to grow up. I'm in my fourth year of uni and even though my grades are not bad, they are not top notch either. I'm not stupid, I can be quite smart when I'm focused (guru kirpa). But why did it take so long? I took amrit 3 years ago, with grace of Guru ji, I have had the kirpa of doing sangat of many of the greatest gursikhs and only now am I finally stable. My studies, gurbani studies, music, physical activity all have been in limbo. I feel like I've wasted my life. Realistically I have a few years of education left and then work and quickly after marriage. What do I have to offer to a wife and children. I feel like I'm worthless. I've loved music as a child and got the best marks in the school and awards for music. But after grade 10ish when teachers stop pushing you and expect you to grow up, my life fell apart. People tried to push me to work hard but I could never do it. It was always "Ok I will", I got motivated, and hen fell apart again. So now, Im about to finish education, ok to good grades (only with kirpa), if I land a good job it will only be through immense kirpa, and I have no kirtan/music/limited gurbani skills. I feel so devastated that I ruined my life because I was lazy and undisciplined. How pathetic is that? I go to the sangat and see gursikhs who have so much kirpa on them, and understand guru sahib does everything for a reason, and that I did come into sikhi later in life and don't have the best environment (not very sikhi based family), but... and here's the problem. Is it me? Is it that my karma have pushed me in this direction? Is this what god has written for me? Or is this my fault for not taking advantage of the chances and resources given to me. Is this just a hindsight is 20/20 deal or is this how my life was supposed to play out? I feel very...crushed right now. Not hopeless because I know Guru ji will always help, but I feel like such a disappointment. Is this tere bane Sarbat ka Bhala? Is this what was best for me for this life? I feel like I'm attributing blame to guru ji which is the last thing I should be, but I need to make sense of these things so I can move on from here. My life will get better, With guru kirpa i think I am at a point where i wont fall to far again, but in order to grow I need to sort this out. I don't have anyone I feel I can ask this except the SS forum which has helped me in the past. So daas begs for a little budhi, some kind words, and harsh words are welcomed as well as I probably deserve them.

I quit - here's how. I was not the binging type (not since my student days many years ago) but enjoyed my evening peg regularly. I wanted to read Gurbani from my Gutka which had for a long time remained on a shelf in my study wrapped in a cloth. But on days when alcohol had been in my system (or was going to be later that day) I just felt too ashamed to even look at it, let alone want to handle and read the sacred bani. Day by day my longing grew and then I started to read. Soon I developed a regular nitnem and at that point I realised that the True Elixir that Guruji had placed before me replaced the false elixir of sharab. I had stopped and it had been a while - I never missed it. When I was with family, it felt good to say - "not one for me - I don't drink.' It was liberating. Some people really got touched when I explained why.

Another angle of the Shaheedi Asthan pic

I think its an interpersonal communication between India and uk lot. tHere are marriages that work wheneither spouse is from either country, but from what i have seen their is difference of opinions in the slightest things. My latest episode was with somebody from India. Not all people from India are like this but there are women that try tactics to get their own way. Their communication does not work for me at all. The men will not say anything to them and become their servants rather than have the same attitude towards uk born wives, if they from India themselves. People can hide this as much as they like, but there is a difference or i would like to say unfairness. They will never admit they are wrong, maybe its a cultural thing in India to act like that. I get so annoyed when the India girls talk loud n rudely in the stores whereas the uk ones darkeh boldia. I feel that group do not have the communication skills, and level of understanding of sincerity, and when somebody like me tells a few home truths they can not handle it. But there are sincere India girls too. It goes both ways.

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji describes the sacrifice made by the Ninth Guru in their autobiography titled Sri Bachitter Natak; ‘He protected the forehead mark and sacred thread (of the Hindus) which marked a great event in the Iron age. For the sake of saints, he laid down his head without even a sign.13. For the sake of Dharma, he sacrificed himself. He laid down his head but not his creed. The saints of the Lord abhor the performance of miracles and malpractices. 14. Breaking the potsherd of his body head of the king of Delhi (Aurangzeb), He left for the abode of the Lord. The whole world bemoaned the departure of Tegh Bahadur. The whole world grieved at the Guru’s departure, the gods hailed the Guru’s arrival in heavens.16’. (Dasam Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, Ang 131) Sri Guru Tegh Bahadur sitting in a small iron cage watching Bhai Mati Das being sawn in half. Even once his body was in two pieces, the Gurus hymns could still be heard resonating from Bhai Mati Das. The names of those who sacrificed their lives at Delhi continue to serve as a great source of inspiration for Sikhs, it is fitting that the names of those who are noted as great martyrs of the Sikh faith also symbolically represent the qualities of the creed of Sikh warrior that was required to face the challenges which would confront the Sikhs in the years preceding their great sacrifice. The names of the Ninth Guru’s three companions represent the following qualities; good intellect (mat), truthfulness (sat) and compassion (dyal). Thus, as is seen many time in Sikh history, and indeed the history of other religious traditions, historical fact and spiritual symbolism are often hand in hand... Continue Reading... http://www.nihangsingh.org/website/his-gurugobind.html

Sarna is a real sore loser. He knows he will lose next election, so he is trying to act like a gangster. He will lose next election for sure.

Some one alert the Khalistani AirForce and tell them that airplanes that fly over Gurudwaras serve alcohol or may contain people joining the 'Mile high Club'. The Khalsa should shoot all these planes down for it is major beadbi. Call the SGPC and get them to fire ballistic missiles at the International Space Station as I am sure their orbit takes them over Gurudwaras. Do you people also get offended when some old man in a Gurudwara uncrosses his legs to get up with his walking stick and his feet point at SGGS Ji? Rather than turn into Wasabis like Muslims, why dont we focus on deliberate beadbi? Real estate aint cheap in Tokyo and sticking a Punjabi style building in the middle of someone else's capital could upset some. I dont know the ins and outs of this but knee <banned word filter activated> craziness doesnt help. Is this the Gurudwara you refer to?

Sikhchic is a website run from Canada. They have posted two articles by one Iqbal singh in support of heretic Sarbjit dhundha.We all know that Dhundha and his missionary school of Ludhiana do not believe in basics of sikhi and propagate 1 There is use of naam simran.They call it parroting thus discarding waheguru as Gurmantra. 2 They say that there is no entity such as a soul. 3 belief in Reincarnation and karma is not a sikhi. 4 Reject Dasam granth sahib thus indirectly discarding amrit sanchar. It is a pity that such sites promote such shoddy eight grade fake professors and label gursikhs protesting against hima s extremists. What are they upto.

I recently bought laptop for my mom and i want to install a good anti-virus. I don't want to get free programs as her laptop usually ends up corrupted after a while. Is there any cheap (under 40$) anti-virus program that you can recommend?

you think guru is separate from god, there is no difference between god and guru, and these people who talking about this , these are unaware from sikhi, guru says us only control the kaam, don't goes near others wife, only love your own wife, guru gobind singh says this in chrittero pakhyan

Glad to hear Singh!

You named your cat after a kakkar?...... If she doesn't return will you name your next cat kachera?!

kirpan is for defence,not a symble,i wear 9 inch kirpaan and it never hurt me

Dudh, makhana de naal paaleh gabroo...bruah!

What is the fuss about again ? Yes a statue of sri chand with some money infront, but I didn't see anyone waving a diva around it or anything. It was outside away from the 'Birh' Maybe he was an udassi and that explains the statue but what was wrong with that ? We should leave these guys alone and let them do what they do. They don't do anything anti-sikh and they don't cause any harm to sikhism. Remeber that Yogi Bhajan single handedly made over 100,000 white sikhs from scratch !! ALL amritdhari. There is not a single person that can make the same amount of already sehajdhari monai into amritdhari in that manner. These people have made the US and world aware of sikhs, I mean the president knowswhat sikhs are because of 3HO- so why the hell are we picking on them like kids. In reality our own punjabi sikhs that are anti-gurmat are everywhere in huge numbers ! How many sikhs do you see with some red thread or rakhree on walking about ? How many sikhs do you see with some vedic gemstone gold rings on which were obviously prescribed by some pandit ? WAKE UP AND STOP KICKING THE INNOCENT LOOK AT YOUR FELLOW PUNJABIS FIRST !!!

wjkk wjkf, veerji taran0, this is amazing work that you are doing. I did not know Nidar taught in somerset rd gurdwara. The next thing is to get him banned from leicester and wolverhampton gurdwara's. I dont have a problem with him or any one who wants to learn from him, but his parchar is totally WRONG! He will always have his followers, but he has corrupted many many people. Get him out of Wolverhampton and Leicester! Pat O'Malley, Maul Mornie and Krishna Godhania all need to be informed, this guy is a wolf in sheeps clothing a fraudster! wjkk wjkf

You are at the wrong forum. Are you not ashamed of yourself? You want to recite Gurbani to wreck the life of another girl who doesn't deserve to be punished? Thats the cheapest thing I've read in a long time. Ok, I don't mean to be harsh, I understand you're in pain. But my only suggestion would be to let go. You can't even sum up the courage to speak to your folks about him, yet you want to cause a disaster in his family? Why cause pain in someone else life if your fate caused it in yours? Just forget about this guy, he isn't worth it. If he really loved you he would have stood up for you before his family. He didn't! So forget him and move on. Trust me even if you end up with him, you won't be happy. A man who can't defend his love from a strong breeze of air will never hold on to it once the storms of life strike him. Read this: https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&q=cache:pQfUXsZEPUcJ:www.rajkaregakhalsa.net/literature/General%2520Sikhism/Amanpreet%2520Kaur%2520Marries%2520a%2520Hindu.pdf+%22amanpreet+kaur+marries+a+hindu%22&hl=en&gl=us&pid=bl&srcid=ADGEESiTMbUgHG4Krf1sUyUYgBaM6Kb7CFbY3ZND_lLLV_D8HyfU1mSnADz0-wTMc1X3rCmEAHw0wfgH7xZdwNq9KwC6TB-sl1tGSgFKnRIB2Am90NRC7JCMmERzYdiZsX02O4Gk1HST&sig=AHIEtbQhG8_otEN2BVK8rROPDTLIQb3Yww

as long as she converts and ur kids r sikhs, i dont think its a problem, tbh, coz r religion isnt restricted 2 jus panjabis. jus waitin 4 the pappus 2 cuss me now

1) A Tale Of 2 Sisters (Korean) 2) Higher Learning (American) 3) Bruce Lee - Big Boss (Hong Kong) 4) Trainspotting (British) 5) Long Da Lishkara (Panjabi) no particular order, my fave genre of films is British films and Japanese/Korean Horror Films (which always get awfully re-made by hollywood).

Hey whats up, here i found a post some unknown wrote: "Paji, trust me - watching porn is in no way right! This is a problem of our socialisation - of your surrondings - I started watching porn in young age - 10.11? I don´t knew anything about Sikhi - I just had Kesh - I lived in a state where hardly you will find any Gursikhs ( German) - The problem was mobbing etc - altough I am strong - It somehow hurt my feelings - so I tried to flee - I revealed "porn"(I am still sorry abou - because over the years it became "addiction") the dopamine eject was what I needed - To feel happier etc.. "friends" told me to realease some pressure with porn(They said it is the greatest thing ever). But then due Maharaj kirpa I revealed Sikhi (I don´t found good Sangat, but I revealed it for myself) Then I started asking myself - WHY the hell I am doing this? I excessively masturbated 5-7 x or more a day? I was depressive. I was tired all day - and I had really really bad mood - my errection were soft and weak - and it hurted. I had no selfconfidence - masturbation - weakens you mentaly. This go on for 6 years... Until I revealed Sikhi 1 year ago - and questioned myself - I am a product of the sexual industry - a victim. I started seeing women as "Sex objects" - and then the real <banned word filter activated> happend... This is a long story... So do you see the point? Do you see what happens? You are leeched out - there is no grain of spirituality in you - you can get maladjusted, see women in totally wrong way - ruin your life - In the end it is very hard to forget this all - these dirty things - but if you try to forget - you will. Why do you want to ruin your life with porns? Fake sex .. etc? If you get addicted - or you feel the urge to watch more - it is over - this <banned word filter activated> will take control over you - if you are weak - yes I am weak /was weak. It is waste of time - and you only get problems due it - there is nothing good in it - and it is very hard to get rid of all this ... I was really sufferin - until Guru ji blessed me - with his Shabads about Kaam - Krodh - Lobh - Moh they are all involved with each other.. I really had physical and mentally problems - I just did it that excecively that I not even feel something of my genitals - It totally ruined my life - in all ways. Be aware of it - I know you have pressure but do your best to get rid of these. Now it got that far that I decided to live alone my whole life - I dont want to marry - I don´t want to expect somebody " I think thats enough to stay away from porn. I know it is hard to control - but you have too instead of watching porn hit yourself i stomach or make some sports. If you kaam is overcoming too ask yourself a math question - The problem is the longer you think about it the more paapi you will get. The first bad thought can lead to porn- first of all searching web use adblock, for chrome or firefox - second if you get thoughts of nude women or whatever immediately try to think on other things. Porn is not good - Once if you don´t manage to control yourself , don´t be afraid - just keep on going. and try harder - Never give up. Any other questions or problems PM me - I can help you. Always remember IF YOU HAVE THE WILL you can do ANYTHING! Remember if you get married , be a man and tell the women that you did such things - don´t left her in lies and marry in lies. HOW TO GET RID of all this Masturbation is not safe It makes you weak. it can lead to both physical and physiological imbalances. Frequent masturbation and ejaculation stimulate acetylcholine/parasympathetic nervous functions excessively, resulting in the over production of sex hormones and neurotransmitters such as acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin. Abundant and unusually amount of these hormones and neurotransmitters can cause the brain and adrenal glands to perform excessive dopamine-norepinephrine-epinephrine conversion and turn the brain and body functions to be extremely sympathetic. In other words, there is a big change of body chemistry when one excessively pratices masturbation. The side effects of such changes to the body include: Fatigue. Feeling tired all the time Lower back pain Stress / Anxiety Thinning hair / Hair Loss Soft / Weak Erection Premature Ejaculation Eye floaters or fuzzy vision Groin / Testicular Pain Peyronie's disease Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity or/and tail bone Self-Control Guidance for Masturbation This is copied from some website and this is useful method and Sikhism encourage those things which help others so salute to that man who wrote the following suggestions: 1. Never touch the intimate parts of your body except during normal toilet processes. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in this good company. 2. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don't suppose that two of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind. The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things. 3. When you bathe, do not admire yourself in a mirror. Never stay in the bath more than five or six minutes -- just long enough to bathe and dry and dress and then get out of the bathroom into a room where you will have some member of your family present. 4. When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your vital parts, and so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing you would have sufficiently controlled your thinking that the temptation would leave you. 5. If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, get out of bed and go into the kitchen and fix yourself a snack, even if it is in the middle of the night, and even if you are not hungry, and despite your fears of gaining weight. The purpose behind this suggestion is that you get your mind on something else. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak. 6. Never read pornographic material. Never read about your problem. Keep it out of mind. Remember -- "First a thought, then an act." The thought pattern must be changed. You must not allow this problem to remain in your mind. When you accomplish that, you soon will be free of the act. 7. Put wholesome thoughts into your mind at all times. Read Gurbani. You can read Japji Sahib, Suhmani Sahib, Anand Sahib, above anything else in the Guru Granth Sahib can be helpful because of the uplifting qualities. 8. Pray. But when you pray, don't pray about this problem, for that will tend to keep it in your mind more than ever. Pray for faith, pray for understanding of the Scriptures, pray for the Missionaries, the General Authorities, your friends, your families, but keep the problem out of your mind by not mentioning it ever -- not in conversation with others, not in your prayers. keep it out of your mind! The attitude of a person toward his problem has an effect on how easy it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment be made to control the habit. As a person understands his reasons for the behavior, and is sensitive to the conditions or situations that may trigger a desire for the act, he develops the power to control it. Suggestions 1. Pray daily, ask for the gifts of the Spirit, that which will strengthen you against temptation. Pray fervently and out lout when the temptations are the strongest. 2. Follow a program of vigorous daily exercise. The exercises reduce emotional tension and depression and are absolutely basic to the solution of this problem. Double your physical activity when you feel stress increasing. 3. When the temptation to masturbate is strong, yell STOP to those thoughts as loudly as you can in your mind and then recite a prechosen Scripture or sing an inspirational hymn. It is important to turn your thoughts away from the selfish need to indulge. 4. Set goals of abstinence, begin with a day, then a week, month, year and finally commit to never doing it again. Until you commit yourself to _never again_ you will always be open to temptation. 5. Change in behavior and attitude is most easily achieved through a changed self-image. Spend time every day imagining yourself strong and in control, easily overcoming tempting situations. 6. Begin to work daily on a self-improvement program. Relate this plan to improving your Church service, to improving your relationships with your family, God and others. Strive to enhance your strengths and talents. 7. Be outgoing and friendly. Force yourself to be with others and learn to enjoy working and talking to them. Use principles of developing friendships found in books such as How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. 8. Be aware of situations that depress you or that cause you to feel lonely, bored, frustrated or discouraged. These emotional states can trigger the desire to masturbate as a way of escape. Plan in advance to counter these low periods through various activities, such as reading a book, visiting a friend, doing something athletic, etc. 9. Make a pocket calendar for a month on a small card. Carry it with you, but show it to no one. If you have a lapse of self control, color the day black. Your goal will be to have no black days. The calendar becomes a strong visual reminder of self control and should be looked at when you are tempted to add another black day. Keep your calendar up until you have at least three clear months. 10. A careful study will indicate you have had the problem at certain times and under certain conditions. Try and recall, in detail, what your particular times and conditions were. Now that you understand how it happens, plan to break the pattern through counter activities. 11. In the field of psychotherapy there is a very effective technique called aversion therapy. When we associate or think of something very distasteful with something which has been pleasurable, but undesirable, the distasteful thought and feeling will begin to cancel out that which was pleasurable. If you associate something very distasteful with your loss of self-control it will help you to stop the act. For example, if you are tempted to masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of worms, and eating several of them as you do the act. 12. During your toileting and shower activities leave the bathroom door or shower curtain partly open, to discourage being alone in total privacy. Take cool brief showers. 13. Arise immediately in the mornings. Do not lie in bed awake, no matter what time of day it is. Get up and do something. Start each day with an enthusiastic activity. 14. Keep your bladder empty. Refrain from drinking large amounts of fluids before retiring. 15. Reduce the amount of spices and condiments in your food. Eat as lightly as possible at night. 16. Wear pajamas that are difficult to open, yet loose and not binding. 17. Avoid people, situations, pictures or reading materials that might create sexual excitement. 18. It is sometimes helpful to have a physical object to use in overcoming this problem. A Book of Mormon, firmly held in hand, even in bed at night has proven helpful in extreme cases. 19. In very severe cases it may be necessary to tie a hand to the bed frame with a tie in order that the habit of masturbating in a semi-sleep condition can be broken. This can also be accomplished by wearing several layers of clothing which would be difficult to remove while half asleep. 20. Set up a reward system for your successes. It does not have to be a big reward. A quarter in a receptacle each time you overcome or reach a goal. Spend it on something which delights you and will be a continuing reminder of your progress. 21. Do not let yourself return to any past habit or attitude patterns which were part of your problem. Satan never gives up. Be calmly and confidently on guard. Keep a positive mental attitude. You can win this fight! The joy and strength you will feel when you do will give your whole life a radiant and spiritual glow of satisfaction and fulfillment. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 1. Wisdom (gyan) : is the complete knowledge of a set of religious principles. It can be achieved by hearing good, thinking good and doing good. A man of wisdom tries to achieve a high moral standard in his life and interaction with others. According to Sikhism, the first steps to wisdom is to consider oneself as an ignorant person who has to learn a lot in life. 2. Truthful Living (sat) : This is more than 'truth'. It means living according to the way of God i.e. the thoughts should match the words that a person speaks and his actions should also match his words. Truthful living brings a person closer to God. 3. Justice (niaon) : means freedom and equal opportunities for all. Respect for the rights of others and strict absence of attempts to exploit a fellow being. Sikhism forbids the desire to loot another's property. It also strictly instructs the Sikhs to show respect even for the women and children of an enemy. 4. Temperance (santokh) : means self control which has to be developed through meditation and prayers. A Sikh has to banish evil thoughts from his mind by constantly repeating Gods name and reciting prayers. Torture to the body to develop self-control is not advocated in Sikhism 5. Patience (dhiraj) : implies a high level of tolerance and empathy for others. It requires control over ones ego and willingness to overlook another's weakness or mistakes. It requires that a Sikh should be strong willed, but kind hearted. 6. Courage (himmat) : means bravery i.e. absence of fear. It is the ability to stake ones life for ones convictions and for saving others from injustice or cruelty. 7. Humility (namarta) : is a deliberate denial of pleasure at one's own praise and admiration. It means underplaying ones own strengths and respecting the abilities of others. It is the antidote to 'ahankar' 8. Contentment (sabar) : means refraining from worldly fears and submitting oneself to the will of God. The typical worldly fears can be fear of death, poverty, disrespect and defeat. It is this virtue that has given the Sikhs the moral strength to withstand the various atrocities committed on their community in the last three centuries. at gurus time, Guru gobind singh said abt sikhs - ਜ੝ੱਧ ਜਿਤੇ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕੇ ਪ੝ਰਸਾਦਿ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕੇ ਪ੝ਰਸਾਦਿ ਸ੝ ਦਾਨ ਕਰੇ ॥ ਅਘ ਅਉਘ ਟਰੈ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕੇ ਪ੝ਰਸਾਦਿ ਇਨ ਹੀ ਕ੝ਰਿਪਾ ਫ੝ਨ ਧਾਮ ਭਰੇ ॥ जढ़ढ़ध जिते इन ही के पढ़रसादि इन ही के पढ़रसादि सढ़ दान करे ॥ अघ अउघ टरै इन ही के पढ़रसादि इन ही कढ़रिपा फढ़न धाम भरे ॥ By the kindness of these Sikhs, I have conquered the wars and also by their kindness, I have bestowed charities; by their kindness the clusters on sins have been destroyed and by their kindness my house is full of wealth and materials; What are you giving to gurus know blady kaam, krofh lobh moh & hankaar. How can u think that guru is with you. If you leave all this then guru says o sahib main us daa chela lets bid before god and ask sorry to him - “O my Master. I am silly, save me, 0 my Lord-God! Thy slave’s praise in thine own glory!” (AG, 166) Waheguru ji ka khalsa , Waheguru ji ki Fateh.

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