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11 hours ago, Koi said:

...can't believe no one has thought of this yet...but the question shouldn't be "why do you want more than one wife?", the real question should be "why the hell do you want more than one mother-in-law!?".

Honestly, I can't even get a girl to message me back, and OP wants a second marriage!?

Lol. I agree with you re the mother in law comment.

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3 hours ago, learningkaur said:

Haha no I’m asking because my father-in-law has got married twice. He had an affair (when married to my mother in law) which is bad but then he got married to that woman and had two kids with her so I just always wondered if it was always meant to be that way ?

Punjab-the land of 5 rivers. Indus Valley. Many rulers/conquerors try taking it over. 

Once heard that Sikhs/Punjabis/or w.e. are going to start believing in fake guru's/radhaosawamis/nirankaris and etc. Their population is going to expand through out Punjab. 

But the ones who kept GGS Ji in their chit will reclaim this land. 

Hopefully you know where I am getting at. 

 

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8 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

There's documentary on YouTube I watched last year about Islamic polygamous marriages in the UK. Aside from the feckless, low-iq state of the husbands who hide behind Islamic religious law to indulge their fantasies, it's the children who suffer the most. They seem terribly unhappy and crave the stability of a traditional parent family, but they're terrified of saying so on camera. Most if not all of the husbands and fathers in the documentary were autistic f****g ugly inbreds in their 40s, yet somehow they're getting onto the 2nd and 3rd wife who's in her 20s... and the new potential wife seems to be well up for it! ?

We have these pakistani's living near us. The guy is like in his late forties and he married once in Pakistan and their kids are adults. The wife is in Pakistan still. I don't think that marriage is reconnised here but is probably still valid in Pakistan. Now he's married again and living with this younger pakistani woman here who's in her late twienties and has this six year old with her. I heard that she was poor so that's why she married him. 

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On 3/25/2021 at 3:14 PM, Not2Cool2Argue said:

Hilarious.

Thanks.

 

On 3/25/2021 at 3:14 PM, Not2Cool2Argue said:

With the Gender imbalance, this will make things worse.

You're right. i didn't take Sikh gender imbalance into account when I wrote the post but it certainly would make things worse at this current time.

 

On 3/25/2021 at 3:14 PM, Not2Cool2Argue said:

There are less women than men in panjab and you want to skew this ratio more by polygamy? 

The gender imbalance in Panjab is tainted more by urban Hindus than rural Sikhs.

 

On 3/25/2021 at 3:14 PM, Not2Cool2Argue said:

Also polygamy was a survival thing with the hindus and sikhs. Not a desired thing.

And we are kind of fighting for our survival at this time. Being 1.8% of a country's population is not working in our favour. Panjab's Sikh percentage has gone from around 73% in 1966 to 59% in 2015.

 

On 3/25/2021 at 3:14 PM, Not2Cool2Argue said:

So it not a good situation to be in to be a 2nd wife. At least the muslims have religious law saying u must treat all wives equally. Sikhs and Hindus don't. So it would be terrible to the wives.  

There are some things you don't need rules for. Like I don't really care if I put my left trouser leg on first or not. Any Sikh who enters into multiple marriage scenario should know exactly what they are getting into and why.

 

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  • 4 weeks later...

reading all these comments. There's sikhs who have had multiple partners, ex-boyfriends, ex-girlfriends. They didn't even bother with marriage or Anand Karaj. We are talking about polyandry and divorcees, but situations are so bad that there are many sikh girls who already have had ex partners, as well as many sikh guys. 

If a Singh did take a 2nd wife, it can't be as bad as the divorce culture and trashy dating culture? 

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