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Very inspirational. Loved your comment veerji. Your life is a proof that Sikhi isn't inherited but earned. I will show this to some of my sikh friends who have lost their path to "fit in" society. Hats off to you my fellow khalsa brother

He's joining the democratic USA army. Not the indian hindu army fascists. Relax. It's his life. He lives in the US let him serve his country. It's a beautiful country we have more rights in Canada and USA than we ever will in india hindu land. We should appreciate what USA and Canada did for our Kaum. Its fair here. With hard work we get far and can accomplish alot for our kaum. In india its not like that. We are always stuck in the mud their. So we should fight to protect these lands. Protect North America. Waheguru bless America ??

Three out of four or five even.

I think people fail to realise (going to use some modern terminology )that Sikhi provides the toolset to bring out the best in yourself. Simran and nitnem gives structure, discipline and settles the mind and provides clarity.

Despite being gay, they either unknowingly or otherwise recreate the "natural" hetero (dominant male / submissive female) dynamic in their interactions within the relationship. From the picture we can see the Sikh guy has assumed what would traditionally be the female's position in a hetero relationship, i.e. perched atop the dominant partner's knee. The Hindu guy's frame and general "air" is considerably more masculine in comparison to his lover who seems comparatively feminine. Even his nauseating blurb that justifies his degeneracy is pleading, overly emotional, and manipulative like a woman. From these small markers I extrapolated, half-jokingly, that the Sikh guy was, in sexual terms, submissive to his partner. Call me Shersingh Holmes. ??

Well... That downvoting won't change anyone' perspective.. Especially when that perspective is made up based on humanity

I used to be part of a site called sikhpal https://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/SikhPal.com , which was a sikhi forum but was also good for socialising with other sikhs. Then someone created something very similar called sikhportal. None of those exist anymore, but I think sites like those were really good for sikhs to get to know one another on a global scale and maybe even help with matrimony!

Just out of curiosity, if your rishta does happen through sikhsangat.com, does that mean the rest of the sangat here are your vichola/vicholan? ?

That is because with Islam, the power and politics came first, the religion came afterwards. There were generals like Hari Singh Nalwa that understood the empire had to be consolidated and Sikhi had to be on the forefront. My understanding of some of the European Generals that came into the Khalsa Empire helped to organise some of the forces with more drilling and formations like they had with some of the European armies had at the time. Ranjit Singh even though an illerate man was very good at recognising new techniques and methods to absorb into his army. He was very pragmatic in many regards but he has shown some of the perils of being too pragmatic at the expense of other factors in his empire

Whatever u decide. Make sure to keep that connection to gurusahib. Or few years of living the successful lifestyle: eating out, luxury brands, dressing up, intellectual debates and ur connection and faith in Sri Guru Granth sahib will also fade. And u will wonder what was so special about gurbani. Like ur connection with rehit and amrit faded and now u dont see the point of it. When our mind is not fearful and we have an easy life, we begin to slack off and our mindset changes. And many ppl stop training and then when competition time comes, they regret it. What you are foing thru is normal. When lifes good, times are easy, we all struggle with discipline. Thats why we r told to remember death etc. Anyway i just wanted to say, remember to talk to gurusahib. You talked to him about wanting to get out of the gang lifestyle. Talk to him about this too. and in future, no matter where u r in the future, do go to gurudwara, do talk to gurusahib and read bani occasionally too. Lots of ppl say they are Sikh, but i feel like they should then do at least 1 action daily that marks them as such. Like mool mantar upon waking or atleast rehraas daily.

You say you think you are lying by keeping hair. Who do you think you should be if you have hair? And why do you think this? Would you really ever be satisfied with you who you are to be worthy of being called a gursikh? The fact is we are all supposed to consider ourselves unworthy. So if you are thinking you don't match up to being a gursikh with the appearance, you are actually being a perfect Sikh because guru sahib wants us to be humble. That person who thinks they are not a gursikh is the most worthy to have the appearance of a Sikh because they are focusing on their demerits and not feeling boastful about the good they do. That person who thinks they are worthy of Sikhi is the one who is destined to fall. Breaking Amrit now will cause you more turmoil as you are not aware of the spiritual disruptance it will cause inside you. *DELETED* Just be a basic Sikh, I assure you it is fine. The guru says keep your hair, following the guru can never lead to unhappiness. However, not following the guru, i.e. leaving Amrit will definitely cause you unhappiness. Guru sahib has already told is this in gurbani to save us the misery of trying it out ourselves. Trust what the guru says. Only what the guru says can lead to happiness and everything else leads to misery. ਆਪਸ ਕਉ ਜੋ ਜਾਣੈ ਨੀਚਾ ॥ aapas kau jo jaanai neechaa || ਸੋਊ ਗਨੀਐ ਸਭ ਤੇ ਊਚਾ ॥ souoo ganeeaai sabh te uoochaa ||

You have done a lot of wrong things but you have redeemed yourself by doing the right things. You are in a better place because of Sikhi. Look how far you have come because of Sikhi. If you do not want to take Amrit then at least keep your kes and dastaar and keep doing the nitnem. Keep it simple. Your daily paath has a had a lot of benefits that you do not realise. You will realise what you are missing when you stop doing it.

Yes, I have received Amrit and am a Khalsa Singh. I am joining the US Army because it is God's will. I have educated myself and have a college degree in foreign languages. I'm entering the military with a specialist job in linguistics that pays very well. I'm contributing to the kohm by being active in my nation's working society and representing the Guru's roop to hopefully help familiarize more people what a Sikh looks like and how hard we work. And my orders have always been from the Father of the Khalsa, no one else. My life is proof. Otherwise, I wouldn't have switched my religion from Catholicism to Sikhi, grown out my beard, worn a dastaar, embarrassed and confused my parents (who are Mexican and don't know what Sikhi is) and practiced this faith for the past three years to receive Amrit unless my life was completely devoted to my Guru. I follow His plans, not my own. I never planned on being Sikh, but here I am, in love with my Guru. Most of the time I don't understand His plans either, but I always know they turn out for the better. Let's both not doubt the goals and intentions of Maharaj. We know so little. I am still growing and I am still learning. Rab Rakha Veer Ji.

Thanks for all the tips Veer Ji. I'm supposed to be getting my camo dastaar in the mail this Monday, so I can have it before I got to basic next Monday. The wool keski underneath is a good idea. I'll get one. I'll also get some boots and warm socks. I've gone hiking barefoot in the snow before, so I have a general idea of my body's limits. Definitely don't want to get frostbitten, thanks for the tip on the socks bro, I'll do that. And I get what you mean when you say racist white people who drink and do nothing but dumb stuff. I was the president of a frat in college so nothing new to me lol just graduated five months ago. I just received Amrit last week so a lot is changing for me...but at the same time things are still the same. I love your advice about not fully assimilating and that they are "renting me". Beautiful words and that's definitely the plan bro, Maharaj Kirpa. People at MEPS had an issue with me bringing a kirpan into the building. I was almost sent home unable to enlist. They tried to bribe me saying I could sign my contract if I took it off and they'd give it back to me at the end of the day. I almost did but I had faith that Guru Ji would get me out of this pickle. Ended up calling a Captain to explain to the MEPS people over to let me continue processing and then later talked to a lawyer and got extra paperwork done so I can wear all my kakkars and hopefully wont have any more big issues. I'm ready to serve my country and to do my small part in paving the way for future Sikhs. Things are gunna be a lot different with Covid, so I could use all the advice I can get. Thanks Veeri.

well said! the purpose of having Sikhi in our life is to shape up with Sikhi, not to shape Sikhi to fulfil our desires.

Btw there was also Alcohol present there too, front row as well as the chairs, all at the presence of Guru Ji You know who needs to be dealt with......that ##### 'Sikh Priest'..... Hes the one we should be talking about.... The fact that he authorized this, make me wander whether someone or 3rd party was behind this...clearly he couldn't care about Rehat Maryada, Akal Takht say or any back clash..pretty sure he doesn't have his head in the sand knowing this is against Sikhi and beyond disrespectful RSS behind this...that yogi bhajan 3h0 was also set up by them too to whitewash Sikhi and bring it under the hindu fold... The guy said he invited the media......why invite the media?

I wonder what is going on through his mind, he's one of their father right? Also the pic above, I mean if that is what they are going to look like in real life, then WAHEGURU why do they need to dress up with pagh and do Anand Karaj? I mean seriously, I think we also need to start looking at who is wearing sikh turban, not just Anand Karaj. Should we seriously look at people who only wear turban once in their lives just for Anand Karaj, especially if they misrepresent like the guys above? TO be honest I have always been worried about people wearing turban at Anand Karaj when they don't understand what the turban is about, gay or not! EDIT: just a thought - just look at their expressions in the pics and videos on their insta, especially some of the expressions when they pose for photos and also when dancing, it's like a comedy show- just can't take them seriously because their expressions make them look like jokers!

Bhen ji "the assumption maker guy" seems very active downvoting those who are not agree with him. we all are allowed to have our opinions here.

i guess people are afraid to even suggest someone nowadays incase it doesn't turn out well - they dont want the blame. But you could try 'meet a sikh', its available on IOS. My mate found someone on there. so it could work out for you too. no harm in trying right?

That's the whole thing the only people that had genders assigned to them were INTERSEX i.e. HERMAPHRODITES because Waheguru ji made them both sexes at once and even if you assign one their medical needs will ALWAYS have to consider the nonchosen gender as it still remains part of their cell biology even if the system has been removed surgically , so even these people who are now doing gender ops will never be what they want to be , they will remain the sex/gender Waheguru ji gave them on a cellular level . It is purely spitting in the face of your karma to do these messed up things .

You have to go for pesh if you have a relationship outside marriage. That basically means that having a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is a kuhrehit. It’s different to finding someone to marry.

Why is it that when Muslims do something bad, they're called "Asians". When Sikhs do so, they're called Sikhs?

you will face the consequences as you have committed a sin, but waheguru is forgiving and always gives us another chance when we fall low. you should tell your husband what you have done. when you had anand karaj with your husband your promised to guru ji that you will follow his path, you then decided to go behind your husbands back and sleep with other men, that is not guru jis path.

worst of it sikhs still love him are they deaf dumb and blind ?

Yeah I saw that interview, that man has so much pride that it's disgusting. He's cheated on his wife left right centre. Indians are so thick that they look up to him.

if you knew your own family's pain through your Dad's misdeeds why would you copy him? Why would you have an affair with a family member if you are scared of your Dad? You can choose to see things in a positive or negative way , of course if you choose to be negative guess what, everything will be headed that way and the other way around if you look at life in a positive way then things will become better , it's called a self-fufilling prophecy . I am guessing that your husband is not like your Dad and treats you decently since you have never mentioned mistreatment by him. You have seen how bad things can get , being beaten by your spouse is not normal or acceptable , being terrified of your life partner is soul-destroying . Just because you don't have such evil drama in your marriage doesn't mean that there is something missing or wrong, you may be used to the adrenalin pumping day and night but that doesn't have to be your future so stop playing with fire with your cousin (BTW he has basically groomed you to be his plaything knowing what is not allowed in sikh families). Having heard a bit more about your background I can see how you fell for your cousin and I still feel that he was a scumbag to do it. Waheguru ji doesn't make mistakes , we do . Time to face facts and make your life better, because you want it to be better. It doesn't matter how you got to be married just how you will carry on in your life from now . Try to draw closer to your husband and build a good relationship , you deserve it .

you are married to this innocent man in front of Waheguru and the world , grow up, stop complaining and have some sharam hiaya and actually be a wife to him . FRankly I feel more sympathy for him than you because you are the one who is stirring poison into your married life . Your cousin knows he can never be with you and yet he is scummy enough to bed you and use you . HE IS NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU . People like that don't deserve the time of day and yet you are stupid enough to keep going on and on about him . Stay with your husband and be true to him if that is possible in mind and deed , he deserves a good partner , challenge yourself to become that . You are NOT going to die , just pull up your big girl pants and get on with making your married life happy . You are in charge of your responses to anything , your husband is not going to be responsible for that. You are sick because your jameer is punishing you for the wrong you know you have done deep down . Whether you stay or go your parents have to de told what you did ... as their honour will be tainted by your bad choices too

why do you keep posting the same story and expect people to say yeah it's OK carry on. YOU sinned against Guru ji and your Husband with your cousin . Accept that fact and work on your marriage , tell your folks the situation and tell the guy that your family knows and he is no longer wanted or needed.

This present thread makes at least 2 points clear to be paid atention: 1) One may try to disguise as a sikh, for sikhism is very much related to purity and truthfulness 2) No matter, if a donkey or a pig dresses(evil doer such as rapist, terrorist) itself as a lion(sikh), yet it´s fakeness will be revealed sooner than later, for the scent of evil is right in them, in their very nature.

Exactly. Will we be ready to face that question in a civilized way? Probably not. My personal opinion is that no sikh should go out with a non-sikh if there is a chance the sikh will be softened and eventually 'jump ship'. I cant say that in public though as it will be considered nazi or racist. Someone needs to come up with some valid reasons. The way I see it is that these girls only come back into the community once their brain figures out whats going on. Going around telling girls who havent been out with muslims that they shouldnt go out with them will only make our girls more curious. We need to figure out a way of stopping muslim boys doing this in the first place. If the only solution is to educate a girl once she has already made the mistake we will end up with this happening again and again. No matter what we will tell our girls, they will still fall for the sweet talk, gifts, dinners/going out and lifestyle of the flash pak i s. Stopping the pakis in the first place is the only solution. I know an sikh a bit older than me who had this kind of trouble in his town. He said the way they beat it was when sikh guys started going out with muslim girls and not converting to islam or falling for that kind of stuff. The musis didnt like it and they started going after white girls instead. Not an ideal solution but hey, nothing's perfect.