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waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh ji 

i am 26 n a half year old and my parents are looking forward to my marriage.. it has been 3 years they have been looking but i am looking forward to amritdhari boy, my parents are not much supportive of this. I met couple of boys in the past but no one was ready, i also have this fear that what if i marry to someone having completely different lifestyle than me because i am keen to move forward in sikhi and not step back.. i am non amritdhari but want to go forward in sikhi, recently i came across one family they said that you can take amrit but after 6 months or a year. Boy isn't recently ready but he says that maybe by seeing me he will too get into this but that would require quite a time. 

what should i do ji it seem very difficult to decide ?

 

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On 12/28/2019 at 12:53 AM, sheeba said:

what should i do ji it seem very difficult to decide ?

First of all, get in touch with sangat. Talk with older, devout SIkh women your mother's age. Tell them your predicament, and ask them to talk to your parents.

Also ask them to find you a match at your same level of Sikhi.

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On 12/28/2019 at 12:53 AM, sheeba said:

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh ji 

i am 26 n a half year old and my parents are looking forward to my marriage.. it has been 3 years they have been looking but i am looking forward to amritdhari boy, my parents are not much supportive of this. I met couple of boys in the past but no one was ready, i also have this fear that what if i marry to someone having completely different lifestyle than me because i am keen to move forward in sikhi and not step back.. i am non amritdhari but want to go forward in sikhi, recently i came across one family they said that you can take amrit but after 6 months or a year. Boy isn't recently ready but he says that maybe by seeing me he will too get into this but that would require quite a time. 

what should i do ji it seem very difficult to decide ?

 

They say never marry with the expectation that your spouse will change. What if he never gets motivated by you? He wants to party and hates how you don't want to go. Or doesn't like that you don't wear make up. 

It's better to wait to find someone compatible before hand. You can also take a hukamnama to see if this person is right for you. 

Not to be offensive. But it has been my dearest wish to be a matchmaker. So if you are in the UK. I suggest you would be more compatible with the fellow user Puzzled on this site. He is not amritdhari yet. But is heading there. No offense to anyone. Forgive my forwardness.

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On 12/28/2019 at 8:53 AM, sheeba said:

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh ji 

i am 26 n a half year old and my parents are looking forward to my marriage.. it has been 3 years they have been looking but i am looking forward to amritdhari boy, my parents are not much supportive of this. I met couple of boys in the past but no one was ready, i also have this fear that what if i marry to someone having completely different lifestyle than me because i am keen to move forward in sikhi and not step back.. i am non amritdhari but want to go forward in sikhi, recently i came across one family they said that you can take amrit but after 6 months or a year. Boy isn't recently ready but he says that maybe by seeing me he will too get into this but that would require quite a time. 

what should i do ji it seem very difficult to decide ?

 

Best to find someone on same level.  Whenever you decide to take amrith then realistically you can only marry an Amritdhari man and at the time and stage although your parents are not supportive of you marrying an Gursikh guy they won’t really have any other option as you will be a Gursikh yourself.  

However, only take amrith once you feel ready and have the thirst to give your sees to Guru sahib ??

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  • 2 years later...

Just saw this on twitter and went to the website

what do the Ladies on here think

@proudkaur21 @Kau89r8 @5aaban @Jassu

@Kaurr etc

 

https://www.findjeevanawife.com/

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Who am I?

I'm a 31 year old British Sikh guy living in London. Originally from Indian/African background.

Passion in growing businesses and music means I love what I do in life and therefore always in a state of happiness and gratitude.

I'm also spiritual, into fitness and love travelling.

**Disclaimer** - My favorite color is not pink! I just happen to have worn pink.

 

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What I'm looking for

Since covid, it's been tough to get yourself out there. Apps are declining and I'm more interested in meeting than countless texting & swiping. So it's time to do something more creative!

I'm open to any race for my ideal partner. Someone who is family orientated, humble, and wants to make the most of life. Appreciating humour and not taking life too seriously is key.

Having a good personality is important, with a positive and modern mindset (I am far from a traditionalist).

 

 

 

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Found this part of his ‘spiel’ interesting

“I'm open to any race for my ideal partner. Someone who is family orientated, humble, and wants to make the most of life….

…and modern mindset (I am far from a traditionalist).”

3 hours ago, proactive said:

Is that Daily lying as usual, but this time about his age!!

@dallysingh101

does mention sometimes about how Sikh men should out-marry…

 

 

 

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3 hours ago, Premi5 said:

Who am I?

I'm a 31 year old British Sikh guy living in London. Originally from Indian/African background.
  Passion in growing businesses and music means I love what I do in life and therefore always in a state of happiness and gratitude.
  I'm also spiritual, into fitness and love travelling.

What I'm looking for

Since covid, it's been tough to get yourself out there. Apps are declining and I'm more interested in meeting than countless texting & swiping. So it's time to do something more creative!
  I'm open to any race for my ideal partner. Someone who is family orientated, humble, and wants to make the most of life. Appreciating humour and not taking life too seriously is key.
  Having a good personality is important, with a positive and modern mindset (I am far from a traditionalist).

This reveals far more about the guy than 10 pages of A4 about himself ever could.

Clueless about the world, about women, about men, about himself, about everything. 

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20 hours ago, Premi5 said:

Just saw this on twitter and went to the website

what do the Ladies on here think

@proudkaur21 @Kau89r8 @5aaban @Jassu

@Kaurr etc

 

https://www.findjeevanawife.com/

Self portrait

Who am I?

I'm a 31 year old British Sikh guy living in London. Originally from Indian/African background.

Passion in growing businesses and music means I love what I do in life and therefore always in a state of happiness and gratitude.

I'm also spiritual, into fitness and love travelling.

**Disclaimer** - My favorite color is not pink! I just happen to have worn pink.

 

Self portrait 2

What I'm looking for

Since covid, it's been tough to get yourself out there. Apps are declining and I'm more interested in meeting than countless texting & swiping. So it's time to do something more creative!

I'm open to any race for my ideal partner. Someone who is family orientated, humble, and wants to make the most of life. Appreciating humour and not taking life too seriously is key.

Having a good personality is important, with a positive and modern mindset (I am far from a traditionalist).

 

 

 

Not the greatest idea. Looks like he’s taken inspiration from ‘Find Malik a Wife’.

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Except he at least prioritised his faith

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